Sorry, I just want to make a point here, what is a clear message about marriage? Not trying to get controversial here but I have never understood this. I have gay friends that raise children together, they are very happy well adjusted kids. I guess my point is that regardless of the view of marriage, I believe children do well as long as they are loved, cared for and have a structure to their lives. If these things exist than how the family is made up is irrelevant. But that is just my humble opinion and apologize if I just opened a can of worms.
BTW, I don't like to put to much personal info about my children online but they are all under 10. Your right this may not be the best for them, but one can only do what their heart tells them is the best and as parents hope we don't mess them up to badly. Again please don't take this as an attack on your beliefs, because while I may not agree with your point, I do understand and respect it.
I appreciate everyones comments, many of which I hadn't considered. I guess in a way because we are doing this because we are trying to keep the kids interest first, maybe dating is a bad idea. In a selfish way I am hoping she finds someone first, when the divorce comes (and it will) I stand a better chance of getting custody. That I think is my highest priority. Of course if the situation persists to long desperation may get the best of me. It is kind of weird being the loneliest person who is not alone, if that makes sense.
Yeah, that thought has crossed my mind, of course I have done nothing (yet) that would cause that problem. I don't know how much of difference it would make that she has already "hooked up" a couple of times.
I am currently married but we have not been intimate in a very long time. The situation is that we have decided to live separate personal lives. We live in the same house it is a three story 6 bedroom home. I live in the basement, She lives upstairs. We coparent our kids and manage the household jointly. That is the extent of our relationship. We have made this decision for a few reasons. Primary of those reasons are we feel it is best for the kids. Another reason is financial. We don't fight, we don't argue (actually that is part of our marriage problem is there is no passion or chemistry between us). We have agreed that if one of us finds someone who we want to share our life with we will than make decisions from there.
My question is for the women out there: Would you date someone in my situation (please disregard my profile or picture and judge this purely on the situation)? I would appreciate thought and input on this. Guys don't seem to take much issue when dating her. But it seems women would have a different view on this, am I right?
I miss wild asparagus, I grew up with my family picking it from the irrigation ditch banks. Where I live now would be impossible to find. My favorite way to eat asparagus is roasted in the oven coated with olive oil along with potatoes, leeks, broccoli and about 600 cloves of garlic. It is best when the tips get just a little charred. Cheese sauce would be a sin, only surpassed by purchasing it in a can uugh.
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Question about dating while legally married question?
Sorry, I just want to make a point here, what is a clear message about marriage? Not trying to get controversial here but I have never understood this. I have gay friends that raise children together, they are very happy well adjusted kids. I guess my point is that regardless of the view of marriage, I believe children do well as long as they are loved, cared for and have a structure to their lives. If these things exist than how the family is made up is irrelevant. But that is just my humble opinion and apologize if I just opened a can of worms.BTW, I don't like to put to much personal info about my children online but they are all under 10. Your right this may not be the best for them, but one can only do what their heart tells them is the best and as parents hope we don't mess them up to badly. Again please don't take this as an attack on your beliefs, because while I may not agree with your point, I do understand and respect it.