Ok this is my questions / opinion. Does anyone other than me feel that talking to someone on here for weeks / months at a time, then deciding to trade phone numbers or go on that nerve racking first date, just to find out that there is absolutely NO attraction, is a complete waste of time? Wouldn't it be better to talk to them a few days to get some kind of ground work established then meet in a very public place to see if you even WANT to go out on that first date? I personally have no problem giving someone my phone number so that we can talk or txt because, you can tell a lot about someone by talking to them on the phone and if you don't like them or don't want to talk to them you can just ignore the phone calls / txt messages just like you would a phone salesman. I know other people don't like to do that, so maybe that's just me. I would rather go out and meet someone soon after we start talking as to cut out the wasted time in liking them online and then finding out they were nothing like what I thought they would be in person. The disadvantages to online dating is that when you meet someone at a super market or something like that you already see them, and know what they look like, and if your interested you give them your number or email and go from there. Again maybe this is just me. Online when you meet someone the photo that you see could just be a head shot or a glamor photo and the conversations that you have normally have well thought out replies, and when you finally do meet them, they are nothing at all what you expected. So you just spent all that time just to find out you have NO chemistry. I have met a few people after talking to them for a while. I have also met people within the first few days of our first contact online. I guess in my experience it's better to meet quick and then go from there because you will know if you want to go out again. On the other end of the spectrum if you spend a lot of time getting to know someone online and then you meet them in person and it turns out to be the perfect match don't you feel that you just wasted a whole lot of time just talking when you could have spent it together? What's your thoughts?
I apologize for my ignorance... I assumed (never assume) that you were talking about that restriction because that was really the only restriction that I know I have... Please forgive me for misunderstanding you.
I understand what you are saying completely and I do agree with you.. My problem is the generic this is what I want and then they don't respond. I wish they would put what they really wanted.
yeah I know but it's a personal thing. I have had some bad experiences when dating outside my race and I am sorry if that upsets anyone. That is my dating preference and if that makes me a bad person then I guess that's what I am.
This is the typical woman's "what I am looking for" from what I have seen...
I'd like to meet someone who is honest, caring, understanding and trust-worthy. He must be financially stable. Someone who can have fun yet know when to be serious when the time calls for it. Someone who knows how to communicate and understands that communication is the key to any good relationship.
I guess what I am confused about is that most guys on here would say hey that's me. I am that guy. Yet when we (I) reply to the profile and say hey my name is so and so and I see that you are looking for someone who is stable in life and ect. ect. I get nothing back..
I am by far not the smoothest guy or the best looking and I have my share of faults how ever I feel that if you are just looking for these attributes and someone fills those qualifications then the other person should reply or something. Now I have read a few profiles where the women states hey I am a very physical person and I want you to have a ripped stomach and nice tan and you have to look like a super model ect. Those are the profiles I don't reply to because I know I don't fit that description. So I guess my confusion is this.. If you know what you want and don't plan on replying to someone who doesn't look the part why not say hey don't bother replying unless you are hot and don't have any flaws what so ever?
Now please don't pick me apart because I am by no means saying EVERY woman or man is like this but hello this may be a dating website, however just because you talk to someone doesn't mean your going to go out with them. What does it hurt to have another friend? Isn't that what we are all looking for anyways? A friend.
New Riddle and this one isn't near as hard as the last two so lets hear it!
What does man love more than life Fear more than death or mortal strife What the poor have the rich require and what contented men desire What the miser spends and the spend thrift saves And all men carry to their graves?
Ok this has always been tricky for me because some women say they don't want to know about your past relationships but some do and then again some want to know why you never told them about so and so. So when is the right time for men/women to discuss past relationships or is it something that you just discuss when it comes up?
Now to answer your question to the best of my ability. I can honestly say I have never been on a bad date. I always try to become friends with who ever I am talking to and build on that with no expectations other than going out for dinner or a drink. I believe the only time you have a bad date is when you go out expecting to be more than friends and things don't go as planned.
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A woman from New York married ten different men from that city, yet she did not break any laws. None of these men died and she never divorced. How was this possible?
A daughter complained to her father about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.
Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In one he placed carrots, in the second he placed eggs, and the last he placed ground coffee beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a word.
The daughter sucked her teeth and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing. In about twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them a bowl. Then he ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her he asked. "Darling, what do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
He brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. She smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. She humbly asked. "What does it mean Father?"
He explained that each of them had faced the same adversity, boiling water, but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. But after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" he asked his daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?" Are you the carrot that seems hard, but with pain and adversity do you wilt and become soft and lose your strength? Are you the egg, which starts off with a malleable heart? Were you a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a divorce, or a layoff have you become hardened and stiff. Your shell looks the same, but are you bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and heart?
Or are you like the coffee bean? The bean changes the hot water; the thing that is bringing the pain, to its peak flavor reaches 212 degrees Fahrenheit. When the water gets the hottest, it just tastes better.
If you are like the coffee bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and make things better around you. How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg, or coffee?
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Human beings, vegetables, or cosmic dust, we all dance to a mysterious tune, intoned in the distance by an invisible player.
Heroism on command, senseless violence, and all the loathsome nonsense that goes by the name of patriotism -how passionately I hate them!
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Wasted time or wasted time.
Ok this is my questions / opinion. Does anyone other than me feel that talking to someone on here for weeks / months at a time, then deciding to trade phone numbers or go on that nerve racking first date, just to find out that there is absolutely NO attraction, is a complete waste of time? Wouldn't it be better to talk to them a few days to get some kind of ground work established then meet in a very public place to see if you even WANT to go out on that first date?I personally have no problem giving someone my phone number so that we can talk or txt because, you can tell a lot about someone by talking to them on the phone and if you don't like them or don't want to talk to them you can just ignore the phone calls / txt messages just like you would a phone salesman. I know other people don't like to do that, so maybe that's just me. I would rather go out and meet someone soon after we start talking as to cut out the wasted time in liking them online and then finding out they were nothing like what I thought they would be in person.
The disadvantages to online dating is that when you meet someone at a super market or something like that you already see them, and know what they look like, and if your interested you give them your number or email and go from there. Again maybe this is just me. Online when you meet someone the photo that you see could just be a head shot or a glamor photo and the conversations that you have normally have well thought out replies, and when you finally do meet them, they are nothing at all what you expected. So you just spent all that time just to find out you have NO chemistry. I have met a few people after talking to them for a while. I have also met people within the first few days of our first contact online. I guess in my experience it's better to meet quick and then go from there because you will know if you want to go out again.
On the other end of the spectrum if you spend a lot of time getting to know someone online and then you meet them in person and it turns out to be the perfect match don't you feel that you just wasted a whole lot of time just talking when you could have spent it together?
What's your thoughts?
Ok, let the flaming begin!