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How do you stop loving someone you cant have

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How do you stop loving someone you cant have

Guess its me myself and I ... for now...:-)

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

thanks pjr...my life is only complicated cos Ive made it that way and like a lot of things in my life I dont regret it...it has just made me weary and I am now taking my time looking for Mr Right....I woke up this morning feeling great and focusing on positive thoughts and guess what...he wasnt one of them...so thats probably the first positive thing Ive said in 17 months!!! yea I will have my weak moments but Im only human ...

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

ONE OF THE MANY REASONS THAT YOU ARE STILL HUNG-UP IS BECAUSE YOU CANNOT HAVE HIM , NOW, HE KNOWS THIS AND IS PLYING THE MIND GAME. HE IS JUST KEEPING YOU IN THE BACK-POCKET. IF HE IS NOT THEN HE IS TOO SCARED OF COMMITMENT, THAT MEANS HE IS INSECURE , YOU DO NOT WANT ONE LIKE THAT ON YOUR TRAIN.THE OTHER THING , I GET A SENSE THAT YOUR SELF-WORTH IS LOW.WORK ON IT GOOD BOOK TO HAVE AS GUIDE AND OFTEN IS..."YOUR ERRONEOUS ZONES BY DOCTOR DWYER.TO BE NEEDY IS TO HAVE A NEVER FILLING VACUUM, WANT FOR THE RIGHT REASONS AND FIND OUT WHO YOU ARE

Universal my dilemma has been a continuing saga and will be for as long as we choose...17 months have now passed and yes we are both still in each others lives ...we are now business partners, still strong loving friends and very supportive towards each other and our families. He is a fantastic business partner and I dont regret one moment becoming that...lovers we have never been and never will be...but I will always see him as my first aussie love...I have never met a man like him and will always love and respect him for what he has done for me and will never regret meeting him (yes here on CS)...yes maybe 10 months ago my selfworth was low but now it is high and I am getting on with my life... this man is not afraid of commitment he is just happy as he is - simple as that...yes I tell him I love him everyday and he knows that until I meet someone better than him I will quietly love him from a distance...as for my erroneous zones where ever they are...they are fine and I am now moving on and talking to other men...and no he is not playing games I am the one just holding on...one day I will let go....

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

thanx Shell ...

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

He is divorced and very single...Yes, may think the world of you, but he wants to stay that way.
Obvious..

Yep and I respect that and believe it or not I respect him..we have discussed and agreed on a lot of things and sealed with a hug and a kiss that:

* we will be friends for a lifetime unconditionally....
* should either of us meet someone we will be happy for each other..
* anyone who feels threatened by our bond doesnt deserve either of us...
* we will be there for each other and our families mentally, physically and financially
* Life goes on ...not gonna blame anyone for the situation I put myself in..we are both to blame and we will live and cope with the consequences...being in separate countries makes it so much easier..and the fact that we are both ambitious in business it has made us even stronger (sigh) and the saga continues ......

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

The only thing I will say to this, is be careful the relationship hasn't become addictive.

Meaning you feel you can change him.

One day he'll do this.

One day he'll treat me like that.

Remember you happiness is equally as important as your partners.

No one needs to understand it you are correct. But you need to understand what its about. Good luck

I can and never will change him..we are who we are...maybe it is addictive I dont care Im happy.....I guess one day he will realise how much he means to me but somehow I think by then it will be one day too late...I know I will not focus too much longer on him I know I need to move on and I know I will...it will hurt me to flaunt another man in front of him but he has made his decision clear and like you say my happiness is just as important and I agree....however, until then I will enjoy each day as it comes

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

Yes Im back...brighter, happier and more positive...yes the saga continues but no more dramas....I will as I have always said love this guy .. my first aussie love and probably wont be my last...yes we have a fantastic business partnership, an equally wonderful friendship....Everything happens for a reason and if more happens then so be it..This guy is not a player and does not have someone on the side...he has been nothing but honest with me.. wat more could I ask for..so I will carry on day after day enjoying his friendship, his love as my friend,his support, his guidance and his vibrant energy that passes through me like electricity..and I wont let go in a hurry but Im also not holding on as tight as I use to..I have also learnt over the last few weeks we are 2 different people but Im not going to let that change a thing...this is one relationship people will never understand but him and I...and you know what....thats all that matters ....so everyone thank you and good luck to you all

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

I wish it was so cut and dried..

RE: twice divorced

Statistics what do they know...from someone who has been there twice....my first marriage lasted 7 years ... my second marriage and my husbands 3rd lasted 18 beautiful years until sickness took him from me..he always told me 3rd time was very lucky for him...and I dated him and married him without worrying about being number 3 in his life...I loved him unconditionally...

People who judge you on whether you have been married once, twice or thrice shouldnt even be looked at....they should accept you for who you are, as you are....no judgement put on anyone.... love conquers all...no matter what...just one thing to add...honesty goes a long way..its no crime being married more than once..no one knows what lies ahead in their futures...marriages end for lots of reasons

Hold your head up ruggedguy..enjoy life and love will find its way....all the best

RE: The "First"word that comes to mind

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

yes this nightmare is back

well its been almost a month since i was last on here and yes it has been a long month..

and yes hes back in my life...how things have happened I will never know...even though he has moved interstate we have become business partners...it was his suggestion... and our contact is now daily and more frequent. these last few days have been hard as he is stuck in the middle of the flooding at Toowoomba but is safe and surviving...

So yes he will be moving back here now there is nothing for him in Queensland....its ironic they say if you love them let them go if they come back its meant to be...hmmmm who knows....however I have changed a lot since he left but know when we meet up again (next Sunday) if he gets out of Queensland I will damn well crumble...

Once again Lord I ask for strength, pride and dignity..

RE: Mr. Right

Well Im probably the worst one to even comment on this subject...but heres a little advice...take your time...Mr Right will come along when you least expect him...dont have too great expectations on here ... watch for the scammers, the users and the abusers...there are some nice guys out there..I have made friends off here some I have met personally some still just email, phone and texting buddies...and Im talking over 12 months so there you go there is hope if nothing for some nice friendships and if youre lucky ... LOVE!!!

Have fun and enjoy and hope 2011 is good to you

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

no offence taken Blondie I knew I was going to get such a reaction...yes i know everything you are saying is the truth and it sux...but it only sux cause its the truth...

I will always love him he was my first aussie love...but i think I am also strong enough to get over this.............

Lord give me strength, pride and dignity

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

OMG they say ...shes back ....yes I am

Just when I thought I was getting myself together....I slowly start falling apart...

Yesterday I had a visitor....yes it was him....he moved interstate this morning....why why why????

We said our goodbyes - a hug, a kiss and an exchange of gifts...but it was so hard to look each other in the eye....we felt so awkward just being together I didnt want to let him go but was brave - held my head up - told him to take care and to keep in touch.......


This morning i woke at 5am thinking of him, it was my babies birthday and coming up my second christmas without my late husband...emotions running high and tears flowing like a waterfall I cried for the next 2 hours unable to control myself.....like a fool i text him and told him i thought I was falling for him again....he rung me and told me to stop talking silly but also heard the sadness in my voice and knew it was more than just him...so i told him... he was so great and by the time i got off the phone I felt better and stronger...then I text him back and told him that I promise that I would fight it because our friendship had more value than a relationship....damn im my own worse enemy ... even though I have come to terms with our relationship its still hard.....told him its probably good hes interstate and it may make things easier...time will tell....my heart aches but i know i have to be strong .....someone kick me !!!

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

yea yea the only person u wanna kill or throw in front of a moving car or bus is yourself!!!...but ...absolutely nooooooooo man is worth the pain or slow death.........ooops hang on yes there are...my sons

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

PS...Just one more thing thanks CS I did meet this wonderful man on here so girls if you dont succeed with love at least theres hope with friendship...Being best friends isnt such a bad thing after all

RE: 18 to 99 or 45 and under..............

Girl pick me up on your way..

yes the younger ones are looking for older ones but yep i reckon 20+ is a bit too young and always said I would never date anyone younger or same age as my oldest son (29)...

But in my experience all of 13 months...the older ones dont want to commit, the younger ones just want to boost their egos and the ones around my age are just looking for a quick fix to get them by so you cant win....

Hoping 2011 is gonna be kinder to me in the love department...

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

Hey happy people an update...

After 13 months and 13 days believe it or not I let him go...not entirely but enough to be able to move on of course life long friends but anything else is and will be ridiculous and ruin what we have...

Our friendship is unconditional and forever and we will always be there for each other...since that day it feels my life has been changed..Im free with my thinking, I dont sit waiting on him anymore, yes we do talk still everyday and I guess the weight of knowing that I can find happiness just having his friendship is more than enough...

So 2011 is gonna be a great one for me, myself and I and my very special friend....

Cheers for everyones comments I wish you all a safe christmas and hope that 2011 will be your year also....xxx

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

sorry practical new to this stuff and yes it did it 3 times didnt know how to delete .... wasnt intentional ...

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

I shall find that book shell even tho at the end of the day only one person can make that decision and make that move forward...lil ol me....just when I thought I was strong enough to cope like clockwork he calls or texts....this time I will try....nb i said try...no promises....

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

Yes Ban he has and he does....he rung me this afternoon in the middle of my tears and anger and we talked for 2 hours....we are as bad as each other....Ive told him i will delete him out of my life once and for all...he just laughed.....so I told him to delete me....he avoided the subject....I cant win....

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

Thank you everyone for your wise words..your feelings and your honest thoughts...I hear what you are saying.....

Yes as I type I wait patiently for a fone call....wasting my day away....typing crying, waiting...I was hyped up to say goodbye today and my heart aches but told him needed to meet and fix this thing once and for all...hes avoided me for the last 2 hours...says it all I guess..

I need to face him to prove to him how much he means to me if he cant see that then I guess its goodbye once and for all...Im tired of this heartache....soooo tired...why is love so cruel...

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

thank you sweetie....

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

very wise words is rite twodawgs....but hell all these words I know are the truth and I feel like a lovesick 16yr old aint I sad....now I need a wine.... a quiet corner and a big box of tissues cos I know what I have to do.. tomorrow when we meet for the day...god someone give me strength to go through with this ...

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

Thank you bubbly...yes I can see what your friend is doing...I made my choice to be unavailable and yes i have hurt some really nice guys who were offering the total package ... it always came down to honesty I never kept my feelings for this man a secret when I chatted to others and therefore they knew where they stood .. I was just being fair to them.... it would take someone with that wow factor to distract me away from this guy...

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

I do hope so .... love can be so cruel...

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

Cheeky you so lucky at least you lived with him...even his honesty hasnt helped me move on its made me more determined to have him ... so so silly I am....

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

Red - no, he doesnt have a wife or a girlfriend ..hes just not wanting to commit to a relationship...I know this for the truth...his love is only as a friend and he has promised to always be there for me forever (his words just the other day)..yes mixed emotions I know life would be easier if i let him go but I also know for that to happen I have to cut all ties we have the very thought makes my heart sink....

How do you stop loving someone you cant have

Shell I do appreciate and value his friendship...I have tried a couple of times just shutting him out of my life completely by not emailing, texting or answering his calls but I couldnt do it...I lasted a record 2 days lol.... - even went on a couple of dates - met up with a couple of guys from online but they didnt have that wow factor he gives me.... went back to NZ for 3 months - that didnt even help....and now Im back in Oz and even closer the feelings are so much stronger