How do you stop loving someone you cant have (172)

My ex partner did that! He had loved this girl since 17, never kissed, the unrequited love, when after 16 yrs she decided to leave her husband he dumped me, karma was she already had a new man, hahaha. We carried on for 4 more years of holidays etc even tho we split up. Then, on Mothers day 2 years ago rings me to say shae has finally given him a chance and I'm out!!!! Lesson to be learnt here.

No matter what we or anyone tells you to do, you really are the only one that has to make that decision for yourself - either carry on as you are or break free and just try and get with your life and maybe someone will turn enter your later on that will blow ya socks away again.

And yes I have been there recently and develops alot of feelings for someone but for reasons which I will not put on here, it didnt work out and yes I drank the teared wine and cryed until my eyes dried out and had friends who supported me.

So now I have new plans and things I am going to do and stay positive.

At the end of the day, you control your life and what you are going to do with it - so you can either stay as you are or move on like alot of us on here...

So Momsie, good luck

I like that

i find on here alot of questions people ask are being treated as a joke which is hardly fair i think if you cant give an honest opinion why give one at all

anyways momsie once you love someone i find it never really goes away once you give them that peice of your heart thats it im afraid what i have found thats helped me is knowing that time does heal and it does get easier you might have your momentary lapses but thats all it is a moment

And dont let him get away with anything either it is also his fault to from what i read that he encourages you he really shouldnt play you like that if he cant give you what you want then he should be more respectful of your feelings n not be in so much contact knowing how you feel about him.

so the constant phone calls n contact is definetly making you think wow ok i hvae a chance here when hes willingly contacting you knowing he will never be with you that to me is cruel and being a player on his side of the situation i also think he has a woman on the side n thats why he cant commit cause if you have this strong bond and your both single why would he say there is no chance at US i dont get that n from my experience it only leads to trouble
try giving it some distance if only for a while for your own peace a mind n sanity and i find you never fall out of love with someone you just learn to live with out them i hope this has helped somewhat goodluck

It sounds to me like he either has a wife or a girlfriend why can't he commit if he is single and apparently loves you unless he just says he does
It is hard to move on from someone you love or want to be with but you just have to
Don't even keep your options open while meeting up with him...just cut the ties now it will make it a lot easier for you

that should be stong bond, not love..sorry

that's a good point to...I guess you never really move on in a way...it stays in your heart forever but you still gotta move on in a sense

Red - no, he doesnt have a wife or a girlfriend ..hes just not wanting to commit to a relationship...I know this for the truth...his love is only as a friend and he has promised to always be there for me forever (his words just the other day)..yes mixed emotions I know life would be easier if i let him go but I also know for that to happen I have to cut all ties we have the very thought makes my heart sink....