How do you stop loving someone you cant have (172)
m0msie46: Red - no, he doesnt have a wife or a girlfriend ..hes just not wanting to commit to a relationship...I know this for the truth...his love is only as a friend and he has promised to always be there for me forever (his words just the other day)..yes mixed emotions I know life would be easier if i let him go but I also know for that to happen I have to cut all ties we have the very thought makes my heart sink....
Aaaaargh, the horrid "friend" word ... when you know you want more than that from him
It will be tough yep, but for your own sake, you might have to cut those ties and stop torturing yourself. I'm just having awful visions of him introducing his "new lady" to you, his "friend"
It does, and possibly will, happen and it will just put another knife through your heart
Let him go darlin, don't cheat yourself .. you'll survive and in time, someone will return those feelings that you have for him, to you, like you deserve 
serene56: Aaaaargh, the horrid "friend" word ... when you know you want more than that from him
It will be tough yep, but for your own sake, you might have to cut those ties and stop torturing yourself. I'm just having awful visions of him introducing his "new lady" to you, his "friend"
It does, and possibly will, happen and it will just put another knife through your heart Let him go darlin, don't cheat yourself .. you'll survive and in time, someone will return those feelings that you have for him, to you, like you deserve
It will be tough yep, but for your own sake, you might have to cut those ties and stop torturing yourself. I'm just having awful visions of him introducing his "new lady" to you, his "friend"
It does, and possibly will, happen and it will just put another knife through your heart Let him go darlin, don't cheat yourself .. you'll survive and in time, someone will return those feelings that you have for him, to you, like you deserve
Wise words
Twodawgz: Wise words
Thanks pup
Kinda been there and when you hear about the fab new lady, you have to be all nice n happy n 
lol when you really wanna stab her in the throat 
serene56: Aaaaargh, the horrid "friend" word ... when you know you want more than that from him
It will be tough yep, but for your own sake, you might have to cut those ties and stop torturing yourself. I'm just having awful visions of him introducing his "new lady" to you, his "friend"
It does, and possibly will, happen and it will just put another knife through your heart Let him go darlin, don't cheat yourself .. you'll survive and in time, someone will return those feelings that you have for him, to you, like you deserve
You took the words right out of my mouth serene- it must have been while you were thinking of kissing me. It will be tough yep, but for your own sake, you might have to cut those ties and stop torturing yourself. I'm just having awful visions of him introducing his "new lady" to you, his "friend"
It does, and possibly will, happen and it will just put another knife through your heart Let him go darlin, don't cheat yourself .. you'll survive and in time, someone will return those feelings that you have for him, to you, like you deserve
I agree- there are friends & there are lovers. You cannot have a friend & a lover without a relationship & a commitment.
serene56: Thanks pup Kinda been there and when you hear about the fab new lady, you have to be all nice n happy n lol when you really wanna stab her in the throat
ybfayl: You took the words right out of my mouth serene- it must have been while you were thinking of kissing me.
I agree- there are friends & there are lovers. You cannot have a friend & a lover without a relationship & a commitment.
I agree- there are friends & there are lovers. You cannot have a friend & a lover without a relationship & a commitment.
What did he take out of your mouth..
Twodawgz: What did he take out of your mouth..
my borrowed false teeth ybfayl: You took the words right out of my mouth serene- it must have been while you were thinking of kissing me.
I agree- there are friends & there are lovers. You cannot have a friend & a lover without a relationship & a commitment.
I agree- there are friends & there are lovers. You cannot have a friend & a lover without a relationship & a commitment.
You're a goose and I luv it
I've had lovers who've become friends
friends who've become lovers but yeah, the friend/lover thing is elusive although ...That's why we have CS
BubblyBearz: My best mate I have known since I was 18 is doing this at the moment...
The chick he likes however is NOT single and with another man and has children with him
An she has told him she won't leave her partner or do that to her children...but he still hangs onto the hope that she might just leave him for my friend...Plus she gets the best of both worlds...A loving partner at night and another fella to take her out and do things with her while her partner is at work...
3 yrs later...nothing has changed...
So I suppose he has made his choice to be unavailable to anyone else who might have come along...and lost most of his friendships because of this.
I say get out there and get you someone who you can have the total package with...What's the point of half assing something that is supposed to bring you such joy
Just my thoughts
The chick he likes however is NOT single and with another man and has children with him
An she has told him she won't leave her partner or do that to her children...but he still hangs onto the hope that she might just leave him for my friend...Plus she gets the best of both worlds...A loving partner at night and another fella to take her out and do things with her while her partner is at work...
3 yrs later...nothing has changed...
So I suppose he has made his choice to be unavailable to anyone else who might have come along...and lost most of his friendships because of this.
I say get out there and get you someone who you can have the total package with...What's the point of half assing something that is supposed to bring you such joy
Just my thoughts
Thank you bubbly...yes I can see what your friend is doing...I made my choice to be unavailable and yes i have hurt some really nice guys who were offering the total package ... it always came down to honesty I never kept my feelings for this man a secret when I chatted to others and therefore they knew where they stood .. I was just being fair to them.... it would take someone with that wow factor to distract me away from this guy...
ybfayl: my borrowed false teeth
eeewww
m0msie46: Thank you bubbly...yes I can see what your friend is doing...I made my choice to be unavailable and yes i have hurt some really nice guys who were offering the total package ... it always came down to honesty I never kept my feelings for this man a secret when I chatted to others and therefore they knew where they stood .. I was just being fair to them.... it would take someone with that wow factor to distract me away from this guy...
And that's the problem ..
While we're wasting time with someone we can't have, all those good ones pass us by
Dont leave it too late mOmsie, the passing parade won't last forever
Twodawgz: Wise words
very wise words is rite twodawgs....but hell all these words I know are the truth and I feel like a lovesick 16yr old aint I sad....now I need a wine.... a quiet corner and a big box of tissues cos I know what I have to do..
tomorrow when we meet for the day...god someone give me strength to go through with this ...m0msie46: very wise words is rite twodawgs....but hell all these words I know are the truth and I feel like a lovesick 16yr old aint I sad....now I need a wine.... a quiet corner and a big box of tissues cos I know what I have to do.. tomorrow when we meet for the day...god someone give me strength to go through with this ...
Sending super strength hugs your way.be strong stand your ground sweet cheeks..just do it..
m0msie46: very wise words is rite twodawgs....but hell all these words I know are the truth and I feel like a lovesick 16yr old aint I sad....now I need a wine.... a quiet corner and a big box of tissues cos I know what I have to do.. tomorrow when we meet for the day...god someone give me strength to go through with this ...
From your sad words, it sounds like it's for the best sweetie
Just think about how you feel when you're with him .. but then how you feel when he walks away and just gets on with his life, while you spend the rest of the day, night, week, thinking about him
“A mighty pain to love it is,
And 'tis a pain that pain to miss;
But of all pains, the greatest pain
It is to love, but love in vain.
Abraham Cowley
Take care of yourself
m0msie46: Do tell how do you stop loving someone you cant have? Met a wonderful guy on here 10 months ago - instant connection.....we have a beautiful strong bond and keep in contact daily .... we have only met up twice and have enjoyed being with each other but I want more .... he has always been upfront and honest with me and told me he cant commit to me but I sit and wait and hope...sounds so silly doesnt it...but he also knows how I feel and has told me time and time again to keep my options open and not focus on him but I cant I have tried dating, chatting but its not the same....someone tell me please ..... yes everyone has told me to forget about him and move on....but our bond is so strong we love each other as the best of friends and know we cant let a day go by without talking is this weird or wat??? No he is divorced and very single...
wondering why if he is single and you're are so into each other why you can't be together
tarnsnz: Actually I like this approach, least then he won't forget ya and will be thinking of ya often
thats the spirit! At least if it dont work the way you want, you imprinted on their psyche Forever!!!
Bek 
serene56: From your sad words, it sounds like it's for the best sweetie
Just think about how you feel when you're with him .. but then how you feel when he walks away and just gets on with his life, while you spend the rest of the day, night, week, thinking about him “A mighty pain to love it is,
And 'tis a pain that pain to miss;
But of all pains, the greatest pain
It is to love, but love in vain.
Abraham Cowley
Take care of yourself
just beautiful.Just think about how you feel when you're with him .. but then how you feel when he walks away and just gets on with his life, while you spend the rest of the day, night, week, thinking about him “A mighty pain to love it is,
And 'tis a pain that pain to miss;
But of all pains, the greatest pain
It is to love, but love in vain.
Abraham Cowley
Take care of yourself
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I do hope so ....