You never really get over it. There will be small things throughout life that will bring the memory of your friend flashing back with a clarity you may wish you could forget, be it a song, a scent, or a certain saying. As painful as these memories may be, hold onto to them, commit them to memory, for you will treasure them later on. If you ever have difficulty in remembering your friend, think of him in context, joyful memories will usually follow.
That is what works me. I lost 5 friends in one accident, the light plane they were passengers in collided with a mountain near Golden BC.
You will occasionally think of your friend over the years, and it may bring a tear to your eye. This will just show what an amazing impact this person had on your life.
And I am sorry that a friend was taken out of your life, no one deserves that sorrow.
I used to be a terrible drinker; I mean that I drank alot, not that I was ill-tempered. It got to the point where when the alarm clock would ring in the morning, I would reach past it for my flask, then shut it off. I forced myself to stop when I realized how bad it had gotten.
I may have a glass of wine with family and/or friends, or knock back an ounce of Scotch on Christmas Eve. But I haven't been "hammered" in 9 or 10 years. I don't really miss it all that much.
You are not scared of commitment in the least. In fact, there's a good chance that you're already committed to someone you love.
You are willing to give up a little freedom for relationship stability. And once you're in a relationship, you'll do almost anything to make things work.
I'll be honest, it does scare me a bit. But it's nothing I couldn't get over.
Met my first love in a coffee shop when I was 20 years old.
We dated for 3 years & broke up over a stupid arguement. We didn't talk for a good while (years), and when I did see her again she had met & was engaged to a really good guy. They married not long after. Last I heard she has 2 children & loves her life, I am happy, nay thrilled for her, it was what she always wanted.
I often think about what could have been, and still kick myself for my immaturity. The arguement that caused the break-up was my fault, even though I wouldn't admit it at the time.
Arverni Forum Posts (38)
RE: Best Friend
I have to agree with Big John.You never really get over it. There will be small things throughout life that will bring the memory of your friend flashing back with a clarity you may wish you could forget, be it a song, a scent, or a certain saying. As painful as these memories may be, hold onto to them, commit them to memory, for you will treasure them later on. If you ever have difficulty in remembering your friend, think of him in context, joyful memories will usually follow.
That is what works me. I lost 5 friends in one accident, the light plane they were passengers in collided with a mountain near Golden BC.
You will occasionally think of your friend over the years, and it may bring a tear to your eye. This will just show what an amazing impact this person had on your life.
And I am sorry that a friend was taken out of your life, no one deserves that sorrow.
Take care,
Sean (aka Arverni)