Wow, what a tuff question and I personally feel that there is not one right answer. There are allot of different factors to consider how old the child is when he finally does ask his maturity level, the circumstances under which he asked the question and the reason he is asking just to name a few.
We as humans are all created differently for that reason alone there is not one right answer.
I did not find out my step father wasn’t my biological father until I was in the fifth grade probably 12 years old or so and it wrecked me I felt betrayed, lied to, abandoned it was tuff. I respect my parent’s decision to conceal the truth from me I truly believe that it was meant out of love although I believe that it was absolutely the wrong thing for them to have done. I have had major issues with trust in any relationship I have ever attempted; a part of me is always looking for what is being concealed what is this person not telling me.
As I have matured and recognized this character defect in myself I am actively working on it but I still remember the dismay and rejection that I felt. My relationship with my parents though I love them tremendously has never been the same.
As hurtful as it may be to tell your child why his daddy is not an active part of his life maybe, I never condone lying to a child; he will respect you in the long run if you do. Also try not to destroy the man and attack his character as horrible as it may be to you. To the child his daddy no matter where he may be is part of him as well, you BASH the DAD you essentially BASH the BOY. Stick to the FACTS and leave the drama out of it!! I know that he hurt you, but PLEASE don’t put that on the child!
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RE: What is the most Romantic Gift to give a lady?
Attention, it dosnt matter how you do it as long as it is done with sencerity.