GingerBe Forum Posts (3,106)

RE: How i will find my life partner?

Only suggesting it might be true about certain parts.

Very many Pak and Indian men have never seen a woman, never mind had a relationship with one, because of this culling of females because their parents don't want to pay dowries for daughters.

These days Pak and Indian mothers are being refused untra-sound scans because they abort baby girls once they find out they are female. This is happening right up to the present day.

There have been countless documentaries made about this in recent years. Similar problem in China some years back.

Anyway only putting it out there as a possible reason for him not having a partner in his own country......

RE: Justice in UK

I got that out of it too. Hi Steve.

There was something on the bottom of the article that suggested that she ignored repeat warnings from the council too.....

Newspapers usually sensationalise one side of a story to sell papers........

I don't believe anything I read in them.

RE: How i will find my life partner?

Probably one of those areas where they killed off all the female children about 20 years ago. There are areas of hundreds of square miles where there are no women now.

RE: The Thin Grey Line

If this is the standard for the novel you are writing then it has potential.

RE: What makes you happy ??

Happiness comes from sharing who you are..........

RE: What makes you happy ??

Nice try!!!

RE: What makes you happy ??

I know it's just me, but every time someone on here says they are still alone and wish it different, then my heart goes out to them and I find it hard to take really. People shouldn't be unhapy if there is something practical they can do about it........

RE: What makes you happy ??

Being bashful doesn't help. You really are scupporing your chances. I hate to see that too, when a good man is lonely. Not too many good men left either. Something has to change, because good women are not going to cal to your island or your door by accident or in passing.....

RE: What makes you happy ??

Not much choice there then. Looks like you might have to move to a more populated area, but I suppose that depends on how important having a partner is to you.

Life choices are not easy for sure.

RE: What makes you happy ??

Wondering why you are alone on an island full of tropical beauties? You don't come across as anti-social on here.

RE: what to do with unwanted attention..Without hurting their feelings?

You are so much better at this than me. I didn't mean it in a self centred way, but in the way you explained.......who you are......

See now why I have to stick to short simple honesty in my interactions.........if I go further into full sentences then I only confuse people.

RE: So who are your favourite posters????

all of the above, a couple of cute scotsmen, a few english ex-pats male and female, and an Irish woman who is a new granny, and you of course.....

RE: what to do with unwanted attention..Without hurting their feelings?

I think I might be understanding what Jan is saying better from your post here, in that I see what you are saying about being polite as a personal statement of who you are, and not necessarily about the act of being polite in interactive form with another.

Not sure I am saying this well either, but in simple terms it is not about them but about you......

Would that be right?

RE: what to do with unwanted attention..Without hurting their feelings?

I have people-watched for donkey's years, and eventually studied psychology to try to get a handle on how people are with each other, and more to the point, why they do the things they do, or interact as they do.

Nothing surprises me anymore but I still find it all facinating.

I make no rules or have no standards for others. They can do as they will. I just have standards for me that I live by, that usually don't bother too many people in general, but sometimes raise a few hackles if they don't understand my motives.

I suppose there is an over-all blanket caring thing going on with most people in their interactions, but it is just not for me. I really couldn't care less about others on that level.

I do care if people I don't know are in accidents and such, but I am not interacting with them, so it is not the same.

RE: what to do with unwanted attention..Without hurting their feelings?

It keeps things simple for me.

RE: what to do with unwanted attention..Without hurting their feelings?

Blocking is a good option.

RE: what to do with unwanted attention..Without hurting their feelings?

I can't see any reason to be polite who anyone who is annoying the hell out of me. That is a contradiction in terms. It certainly would not be honest of me to be polite to them, when that is not how I am feeling or what I am thinking.

I keep it short, curt and honest. Much less hurt all round in the long run.

RE: germans

That brought a smile. You got mail.

RE: How to treat a Lady - The Gentleman's Guide

Well, I mightn't waste that kind of energy!

RE: How to treat a Lady - The Gentleman's Guide

It was without doubt the greatest load of crap I have ever read!

No wonder he says he is writing this to get his girlfriend back. I'd have kicked him into touch too. What a dumb idiot!

Any man who thinks he only has to say yes repeatedly, massage her feet, and be insincere in his responses to a woman, is sadly deluded, as well as twenty kinds of stupid!

No wonder men come up with some crazy ideas about how to treat women if this is what they are reading as advice!

RE: What do you think of THIS guy! :D

You're like a breath of fresh air.

RE: Would you give up half your pay check to the Government to insure all citizens have Health Care?

If your income was a million, then your interest on that would offset your tax payments anyway.

RE: Would you give up half your pay check to the Government to insure all citizens have Health Care?

You have to be earning a lot of it to pay a lot of it.

RE: Does a person's attitude keep you from contacting them?

It's all relative. Some people just don't get that!

RE: Would you give up half your pay check to the Government to insure all citizens have Health Care?

I don't understand what you all have to complain about! Everyone in the world pays taxes and often at larger rates than you do. What is it you want? To be the only country int he world tog et off scott free when the rest of th world pays it's taxes?

If you don't want to pay tax, then stop sitting there complaining and DO something about it.

No tax on barter!

Tax is only paid when people buy and sell.

Grow your own food, only pay tax on seed then.

Weave your own cloth.

Make your own homespun clothes.

Dump your expensive cars, no road tax.

Rent your house, no property tax.

Barter what you produce, no wage tax.

You are clever people. I am sure you can figure it out!

OR

Stop complaining!!!!!!!!!!!!

RE: Trust..

Personally no and no!

Anyone "can". It is whether they "should" that matters I think!

RE: Immegration, does it really work?

RE: Damaged Goods

Thank you!

RE: Damaged Goods

Some people lose sight of the fact that how we are, is what happens in older/middle age. We are as we should be for the life we have led. Some are fatter or thinnner or more wrinkled, some wasted themselves on alcohol or drugs, were ill or led harrowing lives, and some spent years in the gym.

We just are........

I actaully pity people too narrow-minded to see me, behind what life has done to me because of who I am.........

Who would want a person like that in their lives anyway!

I know we all feel better with someone to love and care for, but for me, it can't be someone who doesn't see and accept reality, with compassion.....

RE: Immegration, does it really work?

It would be better, too, if we all looked like super-models and were multi-millionaires, but it isn't so, nor is it likely to ever be. This planet is full of avaricious people who want what they think anyone else has. That is life as it is, not some ideal.

Lovely dreams are ok and your are to be commended for thinking that way. It makes you a fantastic person, it just isn't where we as a group of human beings are at.

If it is any consolation, the OP won't be able to stop anyone of any colour living next door to him, no matter how he tries, either, because there are laws in place, because of borders, that make him fear the consequences of letting his dislike/hatred of other races run amok in the country where he lives.

Boundaries and borders are actually a good thing, in that, for instance, if you don't like a particular politian in America, or are against the death penalty, then you have the choice to go live someplace where you find laws to your liking......

Europe is going that way now too, where different countries have slightly different rules, but under a large umbrella like the states in America. People within the EU are now free to move too, within the EU countries, and have the freedom to live in a place where they find people who agree with their political, religious, and racial views.

So being bound by borders actually allows certain freedoms that they would not have, if there were no borders.