but I cannot tell you why I think that is. so far, I haven't met a guy who could handle my independant spirit. in my own language I am outspoken, but must say I softened over the years.
I think men feel threatened by the type of woman you described.
wow.....eleven pages full of comments. I did not expect that when I logged out yesterday.
thanks everybody for giving comments.
I've seen a lot of peeps criticising me, and most of them live in the USA. it seems to me that there is more difference in how peeps live and act in both countries than I expected.
pandora, who lives here as well, gave a good comment. yes, my country is little and overcrowded and yes it was in the hague. and yes, peeps here seem to get more agressive by the minute.
fact is, I am not agressive at all by nature and I was not involved in a catfight. just a few strong words on my part, after I asked politely for that chair. it's how things go, here in the netherlands. as said, I turned my back on her and never gave her opportunity to go further. what I forgot to tell is that she had a couple of drinks to much. I guess that is why she kept verbally attacking me. and yes pandora, it was the kind of woman you think she is. bit of OH OH CHERSO BARBIE type of girl.
the waiter in this case, was about 17 years old. so, no expectations from that side. it was a chinese restaurant, not a posh establishment where you have to make an appointment for having dinner. sort of take away place where you can eat your dinner as well. so, it's not about a maitre d' leading you to a table. you just walk in, oversee the place for a free table, you walk towards it and sit down. nothing fancy.
we ended up there after meeting in a bar an hour or so before. my date suggested the place! so it's not like you meet someone in a restaurant and immediately get involved in a nasty catfight.
I don't need a man to protect me. I can do that myself. but I was a bit dissapointed to see he did not stand up for me. if it was the other way around, I would have stood up for him, even if I lost my interest. and.....very important....I would TELL him after the date that I lost my interest. I would not walk away and TEXT him.
You are right...I guess I would have walked away myself.
but the fun thing is.. I am not agressive at all. I just asked for the chair that belonged to that table, it was not in use, only for some coats that they shoud have put in the hall.
it was the woman's aggresion that made me feel like I was just a schoolgirl.
I am 40! she was 25 or something.
If she just explained in a soft voice that I couldn't get the chair for some important reason, it would have been fine by me.
but I got irritated because the woman attacked me for no reason and my date just didn't stand up for me.
I had a date last thursday. In my city, shops are open untill 2100 pm on thursday. I had a date, first time, guy I met in real life.
we went for something to eat in the city.
it was crowded and I had a few words with a woman about a seat in the restaurant. she became very ugly towards me....I shall spare you details but in short, I told her to get lost and turned my back at her and her friends. the rest of our time in the restaurant, she kept attacking me verbally........and what did my date do?
sat quietly, ate his meal with the speed of light, kissed farewell and walked away. texting me he had a nice evening out but was not interested.
the knight had rusty armour and his horse was terminal I guess. what a bummer.....not even one word to stand up for me...
there must be lots of reasons for peeps not to post.
I am speaking for me now. But I got a bit tired of some re-appearing threads, the trols, the negativity. I find it difficult to define who is to trust or not.
Apart from that:
I guess I was a bit tired of winter, had some blues.
some personal issues, a lot of work, a small child, household and so on.
but hey!
spring is on the doorstep, the blues have vanished most and I am ready for some ROCK AND ROLL!
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what is your country's best export product?
just wondering....is mc donald, KFC and so on, to be seen as an export product?