I just thought I'd like to post a new thread on a thought I had since joining the forums last night after I got some really good feedback from some of the people here.
Finding that right one is a hard journey. That special someone that is right for you - waiting to be found - won't appear out of nowhere just because you want them to.
Life is a journey. Letting yourself feel alone is kind of self defeating. nobody wants to be alone of course, but living isn't always about everyone else. It's your life. Remember that and be who you want to be as an individual. Learn to love yourself first. I think that when you do that is when someone else will too.
I think too many relationships break down because too often we let there be this power struggle within. There is always dominance and submission. Someones wants being fulfilled when someone else is giving in. Sharing your life with someone should be about balance to each individual. Only then do the two become a whole.
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Just hoping that will start a great discussion on why we're here. I get a lot out of hearing other peoples opinions on things and pooling that with my own thoughts.
rusty: you be sure to look after yourself and those kids. Read up about emotional dependancies and heal yourself for yourself. I think it's hard to find Mr/Miss right because we're too busy looking. When you look inside yourself and find love you will be better for it.
I think I agree that for right now running out and finding a new relationship is probably a stupid idea. I can understand the desire of instant gratification or physical connection/avoiding loneliness - but why stoop to that level (like her).
I think I found something here on the forums that is far greater than the reason I discovered them. Sincerely, thank you everyone for sharing with me. It's pretty obvious that the regular posters here have all been stung and the sense of community where people switch opinions and feelings and share pain and have a laugh is definitely more therapeutic than creating a situation where hearts get broken more.
In terms of the discussions of God;
I am not a church goer, but I do have my own beliefs. I do feel like a failure before Him. I really wanted to be with this girl forever. I was so committed in mind and heart, and now I feel I should be committed somewhere else (like a mental institution). I knew the rules were made long ago - but surely he can see that the worlds moving away from those teachings for so long makes some almost impossible to uphold for those of us that still think about it today.
We were married by a celebrant. Does that make it even count before Him? There are so many technicalities.
All I know is that she is winter and today is spring and that finally I can breath again. I will always remember the cold, but I'm pretty sure we're headed for a hot one.
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This is why we're here
I just thought I'd like to post a new thread on a thought I had since joining the forums last night after I got some really good feedback from some of the people here.Finding that right one is a hard journey. That special someone that is right for you - waiting to be found - won't appear out of nowhere just because you want them to.
Life is a journey. Letting yourself feel alone is kind of self defeating. nobody wants to be alone of course, but living isn't always about everyone else. It's your life. Remember that and be who you want to be as an individual. Learn to love yourself first. I think that when you do that is when someone else will too.
I think too many relationships break down because too often we let there be this power struggle within. There is always dominance and submission. Someones wants being fulfilled when someone else is giving in. Sharing your life with someone should be about balance to each individual. Only then do the two become a whole.
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Just hoping that will start a great discussion on why we're here. I get a lot out of hearing other peoples opinions on things and pooling that with my own thoughts.
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