Damaged Men (163)
Misty1773Grafton, New South Wales Australia5 Threads 257 PostsWhat I want to know is, why do someone women go out of their way to completely screw over a mans heart, that he finds it so hard to trust and love again???
I think your statement is a bit of a 2 way street, women do it to men, men do it to women..................that didnt sound quite right but you know what I mean,
Misty1773: What I want to know is, why do someone women go out of their way to completely screw over a mans heart, that he finds it so hard to trust and love again???
Just takes time to get over someone screwing with you...either male or female...
I was telling a lady awhile ago that she should be single for a good 12 months to get over all the emotional crap she was luggin about...But nope...She dived right in again and this guy smacks her round and she is staying with him cos she reckons she can't be alone...
Some people need some time and space to sort through it all...Most...Do get over it and can move on to bigger and better things...
And some choose to stay locked down and totally guarded and never see that wonderful someone standing in front of them yelling for their attention
Personally I took the 12 months when my fiancee and I split...Cos I knew myself I needed to sort my head out
But each to their own I guess
Bear Hugz BubblyBearz: Just takes time to get over someone screwing with you...either male or female...
I was telling a lady awhile ago that she should be single for a good 12 months to get over all the emotional crap she was luggin about...But nope...She dived right in again and this guy smacks her round and she is staying with him cos she reckons she can't be alone...
Some people need some time and space to sort through it all...Most...Do get over it and can move on to bigger and better things...
And some choose to stay locked down and totally guarded and never see that wonderful someone standing in front of them yelling for their attention
Personally I took the 12 months when my fiancee and I split...Cos I knew myself I needed to sort my head out
But each to their own I guess
Bear Hugz
I was telling a lady awhile ago that she should be single for a good 12 months to get over all the emotional crap she was luggin about...But nope...She dived right in again and this guy smacks her round and she is staying with him cos she reckons she can't be alone...
Some people need some time and space to sort through it all...Most...Do get over it and can move on to bigger and better things...
And some choose to stay locked down and totally guarded and never see that wonderful someone standing in front of them yelling for their attention
Personally I took the 12 months when my fiancee and I split...Cos I knew myself I needed to sort my head out
But each to their own I guess
Bear Hugz
yeh I met a really great guy of late but he cant move forward or let down his wall. I do understand why but as you say
some choose to stay locked down and totally guarded and never see that wonderful someone standing in front of them yelling for their attention
BubblyBearz: Just takes time to get over someone screwing with you...either male or female...
I was telling a lady awhile ago that she should be single for a good 12 months to get over all the emotional crap she was luggin about...But nope...She dived right in again and this guy smacks her round and she is staying with him cos she reckons she can't be alone...
Some people need some time and space to sort through it all...Most...Do get over it and can move on to bigger and better things...
And some choose to stay locked down and totally guarded and never see that wonderful someone standing in front of them yelling for their attention
Personally I took the 12 months when my fiancee and I split...Cos I knew myself I needed to sort my head out
But each to their own I guess
Bear Hugz
I was telling a lady awhile ago that she should be single for a good 12 months to get over all the emotional crap she was luggin about...But nope...She dived right in again and this guy smacks her round and she is staying with him cos she reckons she can't be alone...
Some people need some time and space to sort through it all...Most...Do get over it and can move on to bigger and better things...
And some choose to stay locked down and totally guarded and never see that wonderful someone standing in front of them yelling for their attention
Personally I took the 12 months when my fiancee and I split...Cos I knew myself I needed to sort my head out
But each to their own I guess
Bear Hugz
Great post
Totally agree, and I did the same
Can't see any point in moving on to someone else, until you've moved on yourself.Actually I think it's unfair to take on someone else, until you've sorted yourself out and can take a whole, healed you into a new relationship.
And yeah, there's a heap of hurt people out there, male and female and a lot of bitter ones too. Shame that
because there's a lot of good people out there too, and we shouldn't feel that they are going to hurt us as well and so hold back.Life will always have ups and downs, and heartache of course. But I'd rather have had that love affair or relationship that ended, than not at all.
Misty1773: yeh I met a really great guy of late but he cant move forward or let down his wall. I do understand why but as you say
some choose to stay locked down and totally guarded and never see that wonderful someone standing in front of them yelling for their attention
some choose to stay locked down and totally guarded and never see that wonderful someone standing in front of them yelling for their attention
It does suck...Cos you can see how great they could be if they let it all go and had a little faith...
It's all going to depend on how much time you want to give it to see if he can let it go a bit or if it's better for you to let him go and move on
I hoped I helped a lil bit
BubblyBearz: It does suck...Cos you can see how great they could be if they let it all go and had a little faith...
It's all going to depend on how much time you want to give it to see if he can let it go a bit or if it's better for you to let him go and move on
I hoped I helped a lil bit
It's all going to depend on how much time you want to give it to see if he can let it go a bit or if it's better for you to let him go and move on
I hoped I helped a lil bit
Yes Thanks heaps!!
Misty1773: What I want to know is, why do someone women go out of their way to completely screw over a mans heart, that he finds it so hard to trust and love again???
I face these issues with women -8 out of 10 time & Im been generous. Everybody is damaged to a point & there is no such thing as ideal partner. All it takes is willingness by both parties in giving it a go. 
we are just great friends atm but its not the first time I met a great guy, who just couldnt get past the hurt from other women.
In my breakups I just walked away broken hearted and dealt with it. Yes time is a big factor for getting over hurt.
I just dont get why people have to make breakups so nasty
In my breakups I just walked away broken hearted and dealt with it. Yes time is a big factor for getting over hurt.
I just dont get why people have to make breakups so nasty
well put madam S & madam B too true!
Misty1773: we are just great friends atm but its not the first time I met a great guy, who just couldnt get past the hurt from other women.
In my breakups I just walked away broken hearted and dealt with it. Yes time is a big factor for getting over hurt.
I just dont get why people have to make breakups so nasty
In my breakups I just walked away broken hearted and dealt with it. Yes time is a big factor for getting over hurt.
I just dont get why people have to make breakups so nasty
Well takes a lot of time and patience to get past your hurt and anger and feeling like you were done wrong by when it all ended...
But it can be done if BOTH people work at it...Like anything in life if the effort gets put in then it can be made better
ybfayl: well put madam S & madam B too true!
Thanks ybfayl
And thanks bubbs
That was 15 years ago, it now feels like it happened to someone else
and my kids are now in their 30s, well adjusted good people despite all that.And since then, for me, there's been plenty of water, men and fun times under the bridge ... and other places too
Aint finished yet either
serene56: Thanks ybfayl
And thanks bubbs
That was 15 years ago, it now feels like it happened to someone else and my kids are now in their 30s, well adjusted good people despite all that.
And since then, for me, there's been plenty of water, men and fun times under the bridge ... and other places too
Aint finished yet either
And thanks bubbs
That was 15 years ago, it now feels like it happened to someone else and my kids are now in their 30s, well adjusted good people despite all that.
And since then, for me, there's been plenty of water, men and fun times under the bridge ... and other places too
Aint finished yet either
Brilliant attitude
An yup plenty of life out there to grab and have fun with
thanks all for your replies!!!
I know all relationships & breakups are different, why do people have to wreck a guy/girl's heart so much??
I guess it is up to the individual to let go of the past and the hurt and open their eyes to the future.
As this guys close friend I can only wish him a happy future & stand by him as he heals.
and in the meantime if someone snavels me up then YAY for me
I know all relationships & breakups are different, why do people have to wreck a guy/girl's heart so much??
I guess it is up to the individual to let go of the past and the hurt and open their eyes to the future.
As this guys close friend I can only wish him a happy future & stand by him as he heals.
and in the meantime if someone snavels me up then YAY for me
Misty1773: thanks all for your replies!!!
I know all relationships & breakups are different, why do people have to wreck a guy/girl's heart so much??
I guess it is up to the individual to let go of the past and the hurt and open their eyes to the future.
As this guys close friend I can only wish him a happy future & stand by him as he heals.
and in the meantime if someone snavels me up then YAY for me
I know all relationships & breakups are different, why do people have to wreck a guy/girl's heart so much??
I guess it is up to the individual to let go of the past and the hurt and open their eyes to the future.
As this guys close friend I can only wish him a happy future & stand by him as he heals.
and in the meantime if someone snavels me up then YAY for me
Hell yeah
Just make sure you keep yer eye out for that someone, just to make sure they don't slip quietly by while you're being such a good friend ..
serene56: Hell yeah
Just make sure you keep yer eye out for that someone, just to make sure they don't slip quietly by while you're being such a good friend ..
Just make sure you keep yer eye out for that someone, just to make sure they don't slip quietly by while you're being such a good friend ..
yeh I think thats one of the reasons Ive been single so for so long...always the friend never the lover
.But thats gunna change cause Im determined to change my status from single to attached
Misty1773: yeh I think thats one of the reasons Ive been single so for so long...always the friend never the lover .
But thats gunna change cause Im determined to change my status from single to attached
But thats gunna change cause Im determined to change my status from single to attached
You go girl! Get out their and grab him by the....
Plus when your in that mind set and that positive thinking it shows in your attitude and you give off all those good happy vibes!
there are alot of good people out there who are carrying a good deal of hurt.
As for letting past hurts tarnish a new relationship, well they are only mistreating their future partner, and hurting themselves again.
In the end, judging a new person by the actions of someone else, is grossly unfair, and in all honesty they are saying that their new partner is NO BETTER than the last one. Just because one person is a cheat, or a liar, or a whatever, does not mean that everyone else is.
Hurts and anger in alot of cases (and Im NOT talking abusive people here) are the perception of the recipient. So where I would describe someone as cold and unloving, another person would think that they were just perfect.
Have been doing alot of reading lately on co dependence, perhaps we should ask not why is someone like this? but rather we should ask ourselves, why do I find this person attractive?
Im glad that you got out Serene, Im glad that you got over it too I agree that we need to step away from our past hurts and take the time to see them, recognise them, work through them ... and then go forth and date.
As for letting past hurts tarnish a new relationship, well they are only mistreating their future partner, and hurting themselves again.
In the end, judging a new person by the actions of someone else, is grossly unfair, and in all honesty they are saying that their new partner is NO BETTER than the last one. Just because one person is a cheat, or a liar, or a whatever, does not mean that everyone else is.
Hurts and anger in alot of cases (and Im NOT talking abusive people here) are the perception of the recipient. So where I would describe someone as cold and unloving, another person would think that they were just perfect.
Have been doing alot of reading lately on co dependence, perhaps we should ask not why is someone like this? but rather we should ask ourselves, why do I find this person attractive?
Im glad that you got out Serene, Im glad that you got over it too
I agree that we need to step away from our past hurts and take the time to see them, recognise them, work through them ... and then go forth and date. serene56: Great post
Totally agree, and I did the same Can't see any point in moving on to someone else, until you've moved on yourself.
Actually I think it's unfair to take on someone else, until you've sorted yourself out and can take a whole, healed you into a new relationship.
And yeah, there's a heap of hurt people out there, male and female and a lot of bitter ones too. Shame that because there's a lot of good people out there too, and we shouldn't feel that they are going to hurt us as well and so hold back.
Life will always have ups and downs, and heartache of course. But I'd rather have had that love affair or relationship that ended, than not at all.
Totally agree, and I did the same Can't see any point in moving on to someone else, until you've moved on yourself.
Actually I think it's unfair to take on someone else, until you've sorted yourself out and can take a whole, healed you into a new relationship.
And yeah, there's a heap of hurt people out there, male and female and a lot of bitter ones too. Shame that because there's a lot of good people out there too, and we shouldn't feel that they are going to hurt us as well and so hold back.
Life will always have ups and downs, and heartache of course. But I'd rather have had that love affair or relationship that ended, than not at all.
I like that Serene and so true
serene56: Thanks ybfayl
And thanks bubbs
That was 15 years ago, it now feels like it happened to someone else and my kids are now in their 30s, well adjusted good people despite all that.
And since then, for me, there's been plenty of water, men and fun times under the bridge ... and other places too
Aint finished yet either
And thanks bubbs
That was 15 years ago, it now feels like it happened to someone else and my kids are now in their 30s, well adjusted good people despite all that.
And since then, for me, there's been plenty of water, men and fun times under the bridge ... and other places too
Aint finished yet either
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