Damaged Men (163)

I give ya damaged men, especially when the piss ya off

Alright I am calm today but my boss pissed me off really bad yesterday, so I told him off - yeah don't guys just hate been told off

but you what, he was so nice to me at work today, cause he knew he was wrong

I don't know why. Yet I have met many men who use that line over and over and over again - then low and behold you find out nobody broke their heart at all - it was all the other way around.
Yet it gets them the sympathy vote sometimes.

since walking away from my relationship, where I was cheated on, belittled, used monetarily I havent looked back. I accept I allowed things to happen, but also I did try to put things back on track, but it has to be both that have to make an effort, he was too lazy to make that effort.

I have had 1 rebound relationship, that man was so bitter that he could not even say his ex's name. It wasnt her doing, it was his not being able to accept that it wasnt working. He became a deadbeat dad, deliberately walking out of a job so she couldnt demand money... nasty vicious and venomous, but mostly on his behalf. I am happy to say by the time I walked away from him that he could say her name, but it didnt change the fact he was using me the same way he had her!

The other man I have got to know as a friend also still cannot say his ex's name. He is so hurt and bitter that I doubt he will ever let go, choosing to call her The Dragon than calling her by name, the strange paradox is.. he loves dragons!

I have chosen this time to walk away before I was hurt too much, finally recognising that he just wasnt going to change as he could not let go of the pain.

so sometimes, it isnt the woman that screws with a mans emotions, it can be soley the fact they chose to keep the pain with in them.

great thread

There are so many scenarios to this question depending on their situation...... so first things first, the break-up has happend so no point in blaming, now how to deal with it!

The trouble with broken-hearted guys is that they are often a bit buttoned-up about their feelings, where a woman will ring a friend and get some of her pain off her chest, a man will often just try to cope alone. This is something a lot of us can relate too, and it is obviously a tough time for him to go through.

The rejection of his previous relationship will make him question his judgement, thinking no one will ever fill the gap or that he will even find another.....he needs to accept its over before he even thinks about moving on & if he has already got involved with someone they also need to question if they want to continue knowing he is, well sad really. If they know the poor guy is going through a difficult time, don't put pressure on him to be what you want when things are still raw. If you are still considering being with a man in this situation you need to be a good supportive friend first. It won't be about you for a while so a lot of giving is essential. He needs as much time as he can get. If he is still finding it hard then he can seek the brilliant services of one of the many professional counsellors/therapists who effortlessly help deal with this daily!

Wishing you all the best.

and i ask the same question about men! me thinks some people just dont have a conscience.

you go girl, it happens with both genders

what happened to our chickens

I missed this ... thanks darlin

what chickens?? did I miss something

Good question? Do they or do people fail to see the obvious?