Damaged Men (163)
I also believe that there are people out there that are scared of being single for to long because they feel they will get past being able to settle down with someone or won't be able to compromise with a partner due to not having to do it for so long or even being able to share their time or more with someone.
serene56: Right back at ya gorgeous
And shell
Oh yeah that co-dependency thing I know two women, closely, who shall henceforth be known as
Exhibit A
and
Exhibit B
who are vibrant, intelligent, hardworking women having "relationships" with alcohol/drug dependent men aaaaaargh
I read a long time ago that people with alcohol and/or drug dependencies don't take partners, they take hostages ... maybe not consciously .. but that's just how it feels when you can't stay but you can't leave either
And shell
Oh yeah that co-dependency thing I know two women, closely, who shall henceforth be known as
Exhibit A
and
Exhibit B
who are vibrant, intelligent, hardworking women having "relationships" with alcohol/drug dependent men aaaaaargh
I read a long time ago that people with alcohol and/or drug dependencies don't take partners, they take hostages ... maybe not consciously .. but that's just how it feels when you can't stay but you can't leave either
Hostage is a very good term to describe the partner. Its odd isnt it, because if these women were advising a friend, they would tell them to run a mile from Mr alcohol/drug dependent man. But they choose to stay, and often choose to enable the boozing and drug taking aswell.
Misty1773: we are just great friends atm but its not the first time I met a great guy, who just couldnt get past the hurt from other women.
In my breakups I just walked away broken hearted and dealt with it. Yes time is a big factor for getting over hurt.
I just dont get why people have to make breakups so nasty
In my breakups I just walked away broken hearted and dealt with it. Yes time is a big factor for getting over hurt.
I just dont get why people have to make breakups so nasty
Every situation is different and we all have our own stories to tell and alot of times, breakups can be messy for all sorts of reasons.
But for me, it was easy and not messy at all, when I finally called it quits after over 20 years
and I didnt need to take time out :)So really, have only been single, just last couple of years and have now learnt what it is like to be hurt and time will and does heal. It's all part of the learning of dating & realationships in the modern times
tarnsnz: Every situation is different and we all have our own stories to tell and alot of times, breakups can be messy for all sorts of reasons.
But for me, it was easy and not messy at all, when I finally called it quits after over 20 years and I didnt need to take time out :)
So really, have only been single, just last couple of years and have now learnt what it is like to be hurt and time will and does heal. It's all part of the learning of dating & realationships in the modern times
But for me, it was easy and not messy at all, when I finally called it quits after over 20 years and I didnt need to take time out :)
So really, have only been single, just last couple of years and have now learnt what it is like to be hurt and time will and does heal. It's all part of the learning of dating & realationships in the modern times
If it wasnt fun, we wouldnt keep putting our toes in the water
reading trough some of the post – I wonder how much of it is theory and how much if it is applicable in yer own lives? 
I read I look I wonder- with all the knowledge & understanding why don’t we ol unite in marriage and live happily ever after in a commune.
I read I look I wonder- with all the knowledge & understanding why don’t we ol unite in marriage and live happily ever after in a commune.
ybfayl: reading trough some of the post – I wonder how much of it is theory and how much if it is applicable in yer own lives?
I read I look I wonder- with all the knowledge & understanding why don’t we ol unite in marriage and live happily ever after in a commune.
I read I look I wonder- with all the knowledge & understanding why don’t we ol unite in marriage and live happily ever after in a commune.
Ohh a hippy commune
Can we have chickens!
BubblyBearz: Ohh a hippy commune
Can we have chickens!
Can we have chickens!
tarnsnz: Every situation is different and we all have our own stories to tell and alot of times, breakups can be messy for all sorts of reasons.
But for me, it was easy and not messy at all, when I finally called it quits after over 20 years and I didnt need to take time out :)
So really, have only been single, just last couple of years and have now learnt what it is like to be hurt and time will and does heal. It's all part of the learning of dating & realationships in the modern times
But for me, it was easy and not messy at all, when I finally called it quits after over 20 years and I didnt need to take time out :)
So really, have only been single, just last couple of years and have now learnt what it is like to be hurt and time will and does heal. It's all part of the learning of dating & realationships in the modern times
It is my friend
Not sure what we learn .. maybe to recognise the patterns that we've established for ourselves, especially when you've been out in that dating jungle for a while and keep finding yourself attracted to the same type of man
Can't wait to do it all again
Shell225: If it wasnt fun, we wouldnt keep putting our toes in the water
OH
Are ya only supposed to put yer toes in
Shell225: Peace and love to you
can we have ducks and goats too???
can we have ducks and goats too???
For sure
that means we need a big pond too , so might as well have some swans toobut better not have any sheeeeeeeeeeeeppp
serene56: OH Are ya only supposed to put yer toes in
I always end up belly flopping in ... BubblyBearz: Yes we can!
Just keep em away from YB...He wanted to do weird things to the chickens
Just keep em away from YB...He wanted to do weird things to the chickens
Gawdeveryone always wants to get weird with the chickens
serene56: Well stop calling me then
serene56: Well stop calling me then
stop charging me by the minute then ybfayl: stop charging me by the minute then
Told ya from the outset
No mates' rates hotstuff
Wow what an awesome post.Surfs up.
I read my last post and it doesn't tie in to well. i apologise. I started it with good intentions.
A person doesn't screw another over on purpose. Well not normally. Its usually the fact that they loved so deeply and completely, and they couldn't or wouldn't let go.
The after effects are they build bariers to avoid that ever happening again.
You find someone you like, like that. And you think its worth the effort. Then you fight for it. The weapon is communication. You use it openly and blatantly. You say exactly how you feel and you follow those words with exactly the right actions. Don't say one thing and then do another. or you will lose the fight.
Tell them exactly how you feel. Tell them how they make you feel. If he thinks your worth it. Those walls will come down real fast. But can an individual be that open and blatant with another?.
Have fun Misty and enjoy yourself.
A person doesn't screw another over on purpose. Well not normally. Its usually the fact that they loved so deeply and completely, and they couldn't or wouldn't let go.
The after effects are they build bariers to avoid that ever happening again.
You find someone you like, like that. And you think its worth the effort. Then you fight for it. The weapon is communication. You use it openly and blatantly. You say exactly how you feel and you follow those words with exactly the right actions. Don't say one thing and then do another. or you will lose the fight.
Tell them exactly how you feel. Tell them how they make you feel. If he thinks your worth it. Those walls will come down real fast. But can an individual be that open and blatant with another?.
Have fun Misty and enjoy yourself.
serene56: Right back at ya gorgeous
And shell
Oh yeah that co-dependency thing I know two women, closely, who shall henceforth be known as
Exhibit A
and
Exhibit B
who are vibrant, intelligent, hardworking women having "relationships" with alcohol/drug dependent men aaaaaargh
I read a long time ago that people with alcohol and/or drug dependencies don't take partners, they take hostages ... maybe not consciously .. but that's just how it feels when you can't stay but you can't leave either
And shell
Oh yeah that co-dependency thing I know two women, closely, who shall henceforth be known as
Exhibit A
and
Exhibit B
who are vibrant, intelligent, hardworking women having "relationships" with alcohol/drug dependent men aaaaaargh
I read a long time ago that people with alcohol and/or drug dependencies don't take partners, they take hostages ... maybe not consciously .. but that's just how it feels when you can't stay but you can't leave either
.....Hostages (sums it up well)...
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Right back at ya gorgeous
And shell
Oh yeah that co-dependency thing
Exhibit A
and
Exhibit B
who are vibrant, intelligent, hardworking women having "relationships" with alcohol/drug dependent men aaaaaargh
I read a long time ago that people with alcohol and/or drug dependencies don't take partners, they take hostages ... maybe not consciously .. but that's just how it feels when you can't stay but you can't leave either