I pride myself on being the rock. Everyone of my friends and peeps in my family always come to me when they need someone to talk/cry to. I don't mind at all. So when it's my turn to be the emotional one, I turn into a guy and either stuff it or run so I won't be seen. If he notices that I am starting to turn on the water works as I'm making the mad dash for the bathroom, I turn him away and tell him to leave me alone. I do that because if I happen to get any attention it last longerrrrrrr. Wish I could be more open, but for now I'm not able to.
The reason that made me want to start this thread was, yesterday I offered to help an elderly lady to her car with her groceries. She looked really feeble and appeared that it even hurt her to move. She said she could do it and was huddled over her groceries as if I would want to steal them from her with a look of fear in her eyes. I don't blame her for reacting that way. Maybe it was my mistake in perception. It is the slogan of today's society "don't trust anyone, take what you can however you can and don't look back". Surpress and manipulate. I know this sounds dark and I try to have as much light in my life as possible, however, these things break my heart. When you try to be a good person and your turned away. My natural nature is to help anyone anywhere and anyway I can. I put others before me. If I can do it why don't more?
Where have all the good people gone? We walk past each other on the street everyday without a word, smile or even an acknowledged look. Are we so self-centered these days that we don't want to be a witness to anything outside our personal space? What happened to actually helping the elderly across the street or carrying their groceries to the car? Treating everyday people with respect and kindness goes a long way. What happened to being humane? We live in such a crazy world today. Values and respect are hard-pressed to find. No wonder we have higher crime rates, more single parent families, hunger, war, climate changes causing major disasters, etc. We need to stop living like this or our world as we know it will not be here for all of our future children.
Can't say I've seen them yet in Canada. I just use my sleeve or the paper towel to open that nasty door. I agree that whoever invented it should get an award! Disabled Community's implementation or not.
Why is it that people will go into a public washroom and not wash their hands or just run them under the water? What's up with that? Gross! Why take the time at all to just run your hands under water and not apply soap? Either wash with soap and water to kill the germs or don't do anything. Water alone won't kill any germs, but it may rinse the pee off of your hands, lol.
I don't think it matters if you did job #1, #2 or both. When you think of all the other germs that are tracked in there with everyone that comes and goes wouldn't you want to wash them? What do you think?
Pay attention to what you read. After you have finished reading it, you will know the reason people come and go. Here goes: People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put wha! t you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Sometimes we need to say thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Good to see that u told ur part of this whole fiasco. It just happened to be a misunderstanding in ur case. I do agree that it could have been handled more discreetly. Nobody should be publicly blamed like this. Better luck to you.
I totally agree. Been where your friend is and it's not fun at all. You run into more foxes in sheep's clothes online than you do knights in shinning armour. People tend to hide behind the username and don't truely reveal who they are; however, claim that they are looking for the 'one'. I just go with the flow now and wish for the best. I don't invest too much up front and wait to see longer than I did before. Online dating is very tricky and for some imaginary. All I can say is that we cannot blame the outlet just the people. It is frustrating and heartbreaking. Nothing stops people from being people, but we should try to be more careful. Just do what you're doing for your friend and she'll come around. A broken heart is mended with time and a lot of consoling. Good luck to her.
Jay, I'm sorry to say but this lady is taking you for granted and she knows that she can get away with it cause you are so into her. She obviously got what she wanted from you now since she hasn't called. I think that in order for you to go on with your life you would need to have closure. Otherwise you will always think of her. Think of a way you could talk to her on mutual ground. Hopefully, she doesn't blow you off. You can bet that she will try so be prepared. Don't let her see that you care for her as much as you do and ask her what happened. She seems to be a wolf is fox's clothing. I think that you know the answer but don't want to believe it. Your answeres lie within. Good luck.
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RE: I THINK I'M GOING TO CRY!!!
I pride myself on being the rock. Everyone of my friends and peeps in my family always come to me when they need someone to talk/cry to. I don't mind at all. So when it's my turn to be the emotional one, I turn into a guy and either stuff it or run so I won't be seen. If he notices that I am starting to turn on the water works as I'm making the mad dash for the bathroom, I turn him away and tell him to leave me alone. I do that because if I happen to get any attention it last longerrrrrrr. Wish I could be more open, but for now I'm not able to.