I like most children. (Some make it hard to like them), but at this time in my life, I do not wish to raise them. It is a time for living with a partner, passionately, traveling, enjoying nature, friends, family, and having less outside obligations than a life raising young children would make necessary. Making a child, does not take thought, just a brief moment of pleasure, raising that child right, is a lifetime commitment, which I choose not to make at this stage of my life.
If you look around you and observe, you will see clearly how raising young children limits a new couple's ability to concentrate on each other. It is next to impossible to remain "Number one" in your partner's eyes and heart, when you have to take care of young children's needs. They become "Number one". I wish to remain number one in my partner's eyes, just as she will be in mine.
90% of the reasons to bring children into this world are selfish ones. Continue YOUR family name. Actualizing your un-achieved dreams through YOUR children. Having someone to take care of YOU when you are old. Trying to save YOUR relationship with your partner (A big mistake), and many more which I will skip for the moment. But each of us sees life differently, and you are entitled to your opinion, as I am entitled to mine. It's OK. We have different life experiences, different cultures, different priorities, and different relationship goals. That's OK too. So in my opinion, choosing NOT to have children cannot be considered egotistical.
I like most children. (Some make it hard to like them), but at this time in my life, I do not wish to raise them. It is a time for living with a partner, passionately, traveling, enjoying nature, friends, family, and having less outside obligations than a life raising young children would make necessary. Making a child, does not take thought, just a brief moment of pleasure, raising that child right, is a lifetime commitment, which I choose not to make at this stage of my life.
If you look around you and observe, you will see clearly how raising young children limits a new couple's ability to concentrate on each other. It is next to impossible to remain "Number one" in your partner's eyes and heart, when you have to take care of young children's needs. They become "Number one". I wish to remain number one in my partner's eyes, just as she will be in mine.
90% of the reasons to bring children into this world are selfish ones. Continue YOUR family name. Actualizing your un-achieved dreams through YOUR children. Having someone to take care of YOU when you are old. Trying to save YOUR relationship with your partner (A big mistake), and many more which I will skip for the moment. But each of us sees life differently, and you are entitled to your opinion, as I am entitled to mine. It's OK. We have different life experiences, different cultures, different priorities, and different relationship goals. That's OK too. So in my opinion, choosing NOT to have children cannot be considered egotistical.
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RE: Why people (men) don't want to have kids?
I like most children. (Some make it hard to like them), but at this time in my life, I do not wish to raise them. It is a time for living with a partner, passionately, traveling, enjoying nature, friends, family, and having less outside obligations than a life raising young children would make necessary. Making a child, does not take thought, just a brief moment of pleasure, raising that child right, is a lifetime commitment, which I choose not to make at this stage of my life.If you look around you and observe, you will see clearly how raising young children limits a new couple's ability to concentrate on each other. It is next to impossible to remain "Number one" in your partner's eyes and heart, when you have to take care of young children's needs. They become "Number one". I wish to remain number one in my partner's eyes, just as she will be in mine.
90% of the reasons to bring children into this world are selfish ones. Continue YOUR family name. Actualizing your un-achieved dreams through YOUR children.
Having someone to take care of YOU when you are old. Trying to save YOUR relationship with your partner (A big mistake), and many more which I will skip for the moment. But each of us sees life differently, and you are entitled to your opinion, as I am entitled to mine. It's OK. We have different life experiences, different cultures, different priorities, and different relationship goals. That's OK too.
So in my opinion, choosing NOT to have children cannot be considered egotistical.