JeanKimberley Forum Posts (7,499)

RE: Can you define LOVE?! What Love is?

and yet we, and the poets, philosophers, psychologists, scientists, and marketers keep trying, all down the ages.

RE: What makes a man attractive for a woman?

I disagree, especially since the thought that there are alpha and beta males in a society - success at work, does not make for success at home - and most women figure this out.

RE: What makes a man attractive for a woman?

and you just need a flash woman to share your meal! Best of luck.

RE: What makes a man attractive for a woman?

That is exactly what I am looking for in a man.

One that is a good cook!

RE: What makes a man attractive for a woman?

There are plenty of men out there that have cash, nice car, house and a life of luxury, that are so bereft of good character, so cold and selfish and want only a trophy wife or girlfriend, and have nothing to give but the cold hard cash of their lives. It is a very unhappy life, and I think most woman do not want that.

Successful men - might be workaholics that care more about work then, their home and love.

It is what the man does with his resources that makes the attraction to a woman. If a man is outwardly successful, then a woman might be lead to believe that he is inwardly successful, too.

However, one has nothing to do with the other.

Although if I was stuck in an unhappy relationship, it would be better to be in luxury than without.

However, if I had my own resources, why would I be interested in staying in an unhappy situation? I wouldn't.

RE: Can you define LOVE?! What Love is?

Thanks for the laugh!

I think you are your own very special snow........ flake.

RE: How many times do u eat Rice in a week

where is the choice for zero?

RE: Can you define LOVE?! What Love is?

Good for you! For me it is not so simple. I respond to my world, and I feel a lot of things.

I am not swept up into short-lives infatuation. Sometimes the idea that you develop a friendship first, then it moves into a stronger bond and love. There are no rules when it comes to matter of the heart and there are only individuals, like snowflakes, (or other kinds of flakes) that make the concept of feelings versus action in the world of love.

RE: Can you define LOVE?! What Love is?

Part of the appeal of the series was undoubtedly the emphasis laid, via the flashbacks, on the mental and spiritual power that Caine had gained from his rigorous training. In these flashbacks, Master Po calls his young student "Grasshopper" in reference to a scene in the pilot episode:

Master Po: Close your eyes. What do you hear?
Young Caine: I hear the water, I hear the birds.
Po: Do you hear your own heartbeat?
Caine: No.
Po: Do you hear the grasshopper which is at your feet?
Caine: Old man, how is it that you hear these things?
Po: Young man, how is it that you do not?

RE: Can you define LOVE?! What Love is?

or


like which came first the chicken or the egg? feelings first action later, or action first and feelings during and later?

do we feel and then act or sometimes we act and then feel?

RE: What makes a man attractive for a woman?

I disagree and agree - women don't want honesty from their love interest - they want to know if what they are what they are looking, hearing, processing in their mind about the behavior of the man, is love or just empty words in order to get them into bed.

If your words say I love you, yet your behavior says I just want you to gratify me, then these ambiguous, mixed messages must be reconciled. And eventually, it comes out as a woman wanting a man to say what they mean, and therefore be honest.

It goes the same way for what men want from women in the way of honesty. IMO or IMPO, in my opinion, or in my personal opinion.

RE: Can you define LOVE?! What Love is?

I see we are now talking about the excessive self love - so what can I cut and paste that says what I mean better than I can.......


At the core of extreme narcissism is egotistical preoccupation with self, personal preferences, aspirations, needs, success, and how he/she is perceived by others. Some amount of basic narcissism is healthy, of course, but this type of narcissism is better termed as responsibly taking care of oneself. It is what I would call “normal” or “healthy” narcissism.

Extreme narcissists tend to be persons who move towards eventually cutting others off and becoming emotionally isolated. There are all types of levels on that road to isolation. Narcissists come in all shapes, sizes, and degrees.

RE: What makes a man attractive for a woman?

yikes, Reb, you'll never get a woman at that rate!

RE: Can you define LOVE?! What Love is?

In short, when we are loved, there is tangible proof. It’s not an abstract thought or feeling, it’s concrete and evidenced. As King Solomon wrote in his book of Proverbs (27:19), “As water reflects a man’s face back to him, so is the heart of one man to another.” This means, when you are treated with love, your heart feels that love.

Love is an Action

Now we can address the second part of the “What is love” quandary—how to know if we love someone else?

The answer is straightforward. When we behave lovingly towards someone, it means we love that person.


(again from the same article) It seems to ring true to me.

RE: Can you define LOVE?! What Love is?

Independent of this thread I was looking at this question "what is love?"
and I found this article which I thought I would share with my CS philosophers -



“Am I Loved?” Vs. “Do I Love?”

The two scenarios that usually cause us to contemplate “What is love?” give meaning to the question. Either we wonder, “Am I loved?” or we ask, “Do I love?”

It is easier to first address the “What is love?” question in terms of the love we feel coming toward us. If we understand how to recognize when we are being loved, we can also learn to recognize our love for another.

When we are loved, we tend to feel it intuitively in our guts. But how does it work? Is there an extrasensory perception in the heart that is able to read the feelings in another person’s heart?

In fact, it’s really not that ethereal or supernatural. On the contrary, it’s pretty practical and down-to-earth. Our hearts take cues from our senses. Everything we see, hear, taste, touch or smell teaches us about our universe. We don’t need to contemplate or ask questions. Our sensory organs report to our brains, and our brains interpret the data and send the report to our hearts. So, if we see a loving smile, hear loving words, or feel a loving touch, the brain processes this information and concludes, “Hey, we are being loved right now!”

Love is action!

RE: ISIS Getting Closer To West

and you didn't even vote for him......

RE: All Eyes on Florida?

Have you noticed what they add to the ballots as well? For example in Miami there were last major election, 22 other things to vote on, including a straw vote on if there was a special tax to create a pet trust or place were tax money would offset the costs of your dog and cat, and prevent over population of these pets.

Now this last time they added to the election ballot, which they voted in, to build this huge tower on the oceanfront. So voting can be manipulated by those that prepare the vote by front loading the ballot with things other than the election of policy makers.

RE: A Dark Night Is Rising

If a lot of people in your life are suggesting you take some medication for your feelings of doom and gloom, perhaps you might concentrate on that.

These thought are all in your head, and have nothing to do with the world. I am sorry you must suffer with such demons and dark thoughts in your head.

RE: ISIS Getting Closer To West

so true, by the time they get to the airport security system, stripped down to their skivies, they have missed their connecting flight...... better to wait and catch the next drone..... or face driving in traffic on some freeway or highway with it's cloverleaf flyovers and strategic placed traffic signs.....

RE: Attraction

be careful what you ask for........

It might be awful to read a news headline:

Tragedy struck when Bungallow's life was cut short. It started as any other sumo wrestling match might. Until one of the 3 hundred pound contestants and reigning champion, slipped off the wrestling mat, and into the crowd, landing on a unsuspecting audience member. The wrestler, rolled over and landed butt first on the head of Bungallow.... crushing him to death....... he did seem to perish with a smile on his face.

DO NOT let this happen to you!

RE: Attraction

It's just the juggling between one choice and another in the same month.....

RE: Attraction

I like the way you think.

RE: Attraction

for a month or so!

RE: CS Role Call

Definitely a non-boring sign, I'll give you head...... I

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RE: Attraction

Good question - so I went to the "experts" .... a blog by some guy in New Jersey



Here is an excerpt:

You and your significant other are as different as night and day, but if you fight all night and day, then you've got some issues that an adage like "opposites attract" won't solve. A successful relationship depends on how different you are, what you choose to make of the differences, and what the differences make of you.
Let's be clear from the start: Similar tastes in food and movies will not hold your relationship together, while different hobbies and passions will not necessarily drive you apart. Opposing cultures, tastes and opinions can actually benefit a relationship by introducing each person to a whole new perspective. Besides, contrasting personalities is a positive; nobody wants to date themselves, after all.

Opposites can contribute to the chemistry in a relationship, but if the two of you are too different, you might end up heading in different directions. It's time to examine your differences and discover whether they work for or against your relationship.

RE: Relationship patterns

I have friendships that last 20 years, and at one time or anther they were strong physical relationships.

.... now marriage on the other hand were lucky to last 2 years, I am generally not a big fan of large organized and morally restricted institutions.

I am a big fan of love, respect, loyalty, fun, joy, play and delight with another person.

I don't generalize anymore to say that this "relationship" is xy or z, because it might be all or none of it at any given time in life.

I guess because the marriage was when I was eighteen, who at eighteen knows another person? It is just luck and opportunity in finding a mate, when I didn't deliberately go out with a checklist in finding the "right man". And I would suspect that we all have friends in our life that are not really good for us, and naturally I married him.

RE: have u ever been inlove

Give it up, because you are not following your heart, you are following a lie, a fraud, a dream.

You do not love him, you only love the idea of what you thought of him. Do not waste one second more on a fake, and a con. You deserve something real, long lasting and meaningful. It takes courage to let go of bad habits like bad men. Be courageous, the real thing is there, but only if you realize that you are not in love with him, you are in love with love, and he is just a convenient stop for your love.

RE: All Eyes on Florida?

Except you and me.

RE: CS Role Call

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is anyone else a little bored with the same old emoticons?

RE: CS Role Call