hey.... things would get boring if our partner was "perfect" with "no flaws" ... if your partner had EVERYTHING you wanted and you knew what was going to happen... where would the fun be?
I agree. Personally, I like quiet places, like the beach, around a lake or through a small park.
There's no need to impress someone on the first date by doing something extravagant, supposedly you have already impressed him / her on the phone or in conversation before the first date ( and I hope you didn't have loud music or a buzz saw going in the background while you were on the phone ;) )
"The truth is..............after experiencing what pain comes from being struck for a violent reason and someone wanting to " love pat " it is often hard for those old " feelings " not to re-surface."
I can imagine, you see a raised hand, and don't know what it's for, your instincts take over, and you cringe, then you have to settle them down when you realize what the true intent is.
"Maybe my true problem is my own inability to explain what I am actually feeling to this gentleman, or maybe he should just respect my answer ? "
A little of both actually.
For you, allthough alot have....not everyone has experienced those things you experienced. Sometimes it helps to just talk about it from scratch. I'm not saying it would be easy. I'll bet you spent a lot of time trying to forget those things that happened to you, and the last thing you want to do is revisit them. But sometimes you just have to "dredge" them up again to explain what it is you're going through and why.
On the flip side. If he really cares about you, then it would be in his interest to A: REALLY pay attention to you, and B: listen with an open mind. If he's not getting it... then my reaction would be - he's not for you.
one other thing about me: no is no is no. I understand the dictionary meaning of the word no... and I take it literally. Actually I won't even get to no. If you're not asking or indicating that you want something then I won't try to get it.
Yeah... but for this world and for us people in the real world....
you have to keep trying.... if you don't you lose out on finding the one that's right for you... some peope find their partners fast... and some just don't...
but if you stop trying... then you get jaded.... and other people feel it.
It's sortof like baseball cards that we used to play with when we were kids.... and you wanted to get your hands on a specific card (doesn't make a different which one it was) you would play others or save up your parents lunch money till you got your hands on it....
dating in life really ain't much different. it don't come easy... and you work your way to getting the partner you want.... but you know that in the end... when you FINALLY find the one that's "right" for you..... you know that it was worth it.
cripes buddy.... you're no jerk... i've seen you online here for almost as long as i've been here..... and haven't seen you do / say anything that would turn anyone off.
I can understand you being a bit "sour" about this and other websites... some of us have been here for some time... and ..... i guess we're "too" experienced at this.
We'd rather not be, we'd rather just have someone that we can relate to, take a shot at things in life ....and go from there.
What are you using to track these " women " with... what tools and what information ( considering that most of the info you say is false / fake here ) ?
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RE: Cat lovers thread
I know I'm coming in the middle of this conversation, and I know I don't have any idea.... but...I'm sorry for your loss....