Thank you. I do agree with the name change. Hmmm... Now I do need a different name. I am new to this and really do appreciate that advice. Thank you. Happy New Year

I don't think the name change is so important, as many have profile names that really don't suit, but with a photo, that will always be the main focus. However, saying that the photo you have lets you down, far more than the profile name. Just a smile, would change it to acceptable.
Ladies as they get older, want a little more than friends/hang-out, so maybe you have to consider your commitment levels.
Time will sort the drug problem out, by getting to know someone really well.
No one can say they are wasting their time being on here....Niah

I agree with the comments . Put. Happy face photo up . Don't focus on the negative . Don't say what you don't want to share with a woman . tell us what you actually do offer a woman and what you do wish to share with her.
Writing that you don't want to support someone is a bit rough , because if you love someone and she needs support then you would. As she would if you needed it. So I would not write that . It's kind of mean spirited. When you meet someone online you can get an idea if they are self reliant with a few questions . Are they employed etc. for how long , What do they enjoy doing etc . I'd make the whole profile more positive and say what you do wish to share doing with a lady , rather than tell her what you don't want to do with her.
Remember to expect a woman to be a woman , women do naturally like shopping , going to the beach and doing things together with a man. You need to want to be in the company of a woman , no matter where she is.