What is the fear of falling in love?

Philophobia. This is some sort of scenario where individuals are afraid to fall in love or being involved. This particular fear could be due because of being observed by a parent, family member or a friend. Most people want to be loved but some fear the loss of control which makes falling in love nearly impossible for the phobic personality to gain a small measure of comfort in the fall. The mental anguish is very strong while physical issues are not involved. People with philophobia like to maintain a very strict balance when it comes to their emotions, environment and behaviours. The fear that something will come along that will circumvent their control proofs difficult for the phobic person time. This fear is a lifetime emotional struggle that many find it difficult to understand. Where there is conflict emotion this fear can end up to be a major problem. There are so many symptoms involved in this fear to name a few.

. Nausea
. Sweating
. Dry mouth
. Panic attacks
. Weeping
. Dizziness
. Changing emotions
. Air hunger
. Urge to flee

We all know that the fear of falling in love is intimidating but at the same time quite an amazing feeling. The fear that someone will not love you in return is very frightening. The fear that someone will not cope with you is incredible. The fear of being hurt in love. The fear of finding happiness in love. The fear of appearing foolish in front of the one you love. The fear that you will not find someone who will love you makes the person stuck in decision making to find love. This sort of fear is developed after a traumatic experience at any stage. There so many causes for this fear. Examples are if someone was stung by a wasp the person end up fearing wasps. If someone was abused in a relationship they fear falling in love again. If a person was heartbroken or left abandoned by someone they loved most then it is difficult to love or trust again. If a man or woman cheated on their partners they fear falling in love again. We may ask ourselves why some people have this kind of fear but it is simply because they are afraid of the tragedy repeating itself. Some people are ashamed to admit the fact that they are unable to find the right person to love which make it difficult to fall in love as a method of ego protection. There is only one choice of avoiding fear by facing fear directly. If you face fear directly and start up a relationship your fears will disappear straight away. First of all people who have fear to fall in love should try their best to understand themselves.

Understand ourselves is a simple method known as “Know Myself” once you know yourself you will be able to tackle your fear problems. Be confident does not cost anything it is free. Understand that the feeling of love is permissible. Understand and learn some enticing mechanisms to make this fear less scary and will be worth your while. When a person is afraid that no one will love them or having that fear that when they fall in love they will fail, the mechanisms of falling in love are quite simple.

1. Get rid of your past shadows.

2. Think and have positive feelings. The feelings of affection, warmth, care & intensity.

3. Never give up your passions because the person who takes them will leave you unhappy.

4. Never change for anyone and never try to change anyone.

5. Understand that a good relationship is supportive. It is a give and take.

6. Be open and clear from the start of any relationship.

7. Make falling in love with someone simple although you can make it complicated if you want but simple the better.

8. Understand that to fall in love is a companionship with someone who means a lot to you.

9. Understand that love is multicoloured.

10. Be honest and straightforward all the time.

Say bye bye to fear. No one want to end up alone. Falling in love is a game that you will win or loose but all in all you will learn something. Falling in love is one of the most magical feeling that happens to our lives however demanding and also nourishing. If you lose love pick up all the things you learned take time to cry then move on. If you win love you should know love is good. You love?? keep it, shout about it, hold it, don’t turn it away, talk about it, dance in the name of love. Just dance & keep dancing. Do it!