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RE: How to Get Respect from Your Teenager

Thanks. I get crazy when my son 17 walks on me when i try to talk or explain some situations. He even get worse when we have visitors. He was never this way always praised by everyone how good he was. Just few month his behaviour is totally different. Even rude with teachers. I try to find out the source of this suddenly change he will not talk. Only talks if he needs to get his pays from me ... train sports when he wants.... he can just look straight on my eyes and say 'aint going' ... close his door and internet can be 4 hours ..... i have lost totally authority ....

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RE: 5 Early Warning Signs Of An Abusive Relationship

""Don't be blinded by love and focus on only the good you see. Sometimes the things that look like the actions of a good boyfriend are really covering up what he doesn't want you to see yet. Don't confuse manipulation and romance.""



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RE: 4 Types of Toxic People You Need To Avoid

Absolutely true, and I make sure I do.

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RE: 15 Fun First Date Ideas

These are great ideas! I've always been of the frame of mind that dinner and a movie, is so boring and lazy, because there are SO many other, more interactive activities that can be done. If the sparks don't fly, at least you both had fun, and maybe you made a friend instead.

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RE: Red Flags You Shouldn't Ignore When Dating Someone New

Edit....I meant asking me out by text rather than calling...

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RE: Red Flags You Shouldn't Ignore When Dating Someone New

All the above are correct.....
I don't like a guy who is lazy and makes no effort....whether its dressing up for a dinner date somewhere nice or texting me to have conversations or ask me out rather than calling....if we are in the same country I expect him to call me sometimes....I hate texting....this guy shows me that he can't be bothered with first impressions....imagine what it will be like being with such a guy
Other red flags:
Doesn't like to open up, secretive, refuses to answer or evades general questions
Hot tempered
Doesn't have time for you
Criticizes, tries to change how you are whether looks wise or personality wise
Control freak
Always ogles other women and comments on how hot they are even if they are your friends
Selfish or manipulative or narcisstic
When you've been dating a while and he doesn't want to intro you to his friends and family
Totally clueless about life- doesn't know what he wants
Careless about money (spendthrift)
Disrespectful to you or to people in his life especially women
Complains or talks about his exes a lot
Plays games, tests boundaries
Ghosts you
Never says sorry for his behavior
Does not keep his word
Controlled by his mother/family
Ok with not communicating every day when in a relationship
Immature
Jealous
Possessive
Lack of trust
Judgemental
Family and friends don't like him because there's something "off' about him
Insecure, needs constant reassurance
Past cheating behaviour
Abuse of any kind
He stonewalls you
Borrows money from you, pays with vouchers on dates, wants something or the other
Never accepts responsibility for his behavior/decisions
He agrees with whatever you say
No backbone
Moody
Different values than you
He makes you feel stupid or constantly corrects you or belittles you
He refuses to make your relationship public or intro you to people you meet or refuses to be seen in public with you
They hold you to a double standard

That's all for now will add more as I think of them....these are some of what I encountered....and my friends too so take notes ladies!

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RE: Why Giving Up Blame Will Bring You Peace

I just don't care enough anymore to want to blame. I just need to find a new spouse ASAP.

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RE: 4 Signs You're Getting Played Online

1. He uses a stolen photo
2. He refuses to Skype
3. He stupidly flirts a lot
4. His eye color is BLACK (lol)

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RE: Help to Get Over the Breakup of a Relationship

Thanks for writing. My ex could really humilate me. He once left in a hotel room a whole night and day attending his daughter wedding alone. The reason was he made a very mean comment about my son which made us start an argument. He called the daughter immediately saying i was shouting at him. They picked him leaving me alone in a hotel room. After wedding at 2pm he was back. I didn't say anything. As nothing happened he asked me to prepare he was going to shop for me later on the day. I couldn't believe it that the incidence for him was forgotten. By then i realised i was dealing with true narcist. I cried my head out i knew in my heart it was over. He said he was truelly sorry but i couldn't trade my emotions for this. I am such carring person would never treat anyone this way. To travel abroad i took days off from work just because he asked me too.
But beside this i breaked relationship after a month. He could also leave me in pubs if someone looked at me or said hallo etc. It took him only 2 month he got someone else. I feel guilty sometimes think i should have been patient but reading things have made me feel i made the right decisions.
He harted me attending church but in the beggining was ok. He wanted me to stop my job. My friends could call me on phone. Invaded my personal space. He could bear me being kind to people especially his neighbours. He made me wipe my fb as he accused me i was finding a new person. I tried so had to make it work avoiding anything that disturbed him. I was so unhappy. Is a long time i was out of it and this article has reminded me i took the right choice.

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RE: Help to Get Over the Breakup of a Relationship

Thanks for writing. My ex could really humilate me. He once left in a hotel room a whole night and day attending his daughter wedding alone. The reason was he made a very mean comment about my son which made us start an argument. He called the daughter immediately saying i was shouting at him. They picked him leaving me alone in a hotel room. After wedding at 2pm he was back. I didn't say anything. As nothing happened he asked me to prepare he was going to shop for me later on the day. I couldn't believe it that the incidence for him was forgotten. By then i realised i was dealing with true narcist. I cried my head out i knew in my heart it was over. He said he was truelly sorry but i couldn't trade my emotions for this. I am such carring person would never treat anyone this way. To travel abroad i took days off from work just because he asked me too.
But beside this i breaked relationship after a month. He could also leave me in pubs if someone looked at me or said hallo etc. It took him only 2 month he got someone else. I feel guilty sometimes think i should have been patient but reading things have made me feel i made the right decisions.
He harted me attending church but in the beggining was ok. He wanted me to stop my job. My friends could call me on phone. Invaded my personal space. He could bear me being kind to people especially his neighbours. He made me wipe my fb as he accused me i was finding a new person. I tried so had to make it work avoiding anything that disturbed him. I was so unhappy. Is a long time i was out of it and this article has reminded me i took the right choice.

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RE: Help to Get Over the Breakup of a Relationship

Thanks for writing. My ex could really humilate me. He once left in a hotel room a whole night and day attending his daughter wedding alone. The reason was he made a very mean comment about my son which made us start an argument. He called the daughter immediately saying i was shouting at him. They picked him leaving me alone in a hotel room. After wedding at 2pm he was back. I didn't say anything. As nothing happened he asked me to prepare he was going to shop for me later on the day. I couldn't believe it that the incidence for him was forgotten. By then i realised i was dealing with true narcist. I cried my head out i knew in my heart it was over. He said he was truelly sorry but i couldn't trade my emotions for this. I am such carring person would never treat anyone this way. To travel abroad i took days off from work just because he asked me too.
But beside this i breaked relationship after a month. He could also leave me in pubs if someone looked at me or said hallo etc. It took him only 2 month he got someone else. I feel guilty sometimes think i should have been patient but reading things have made me feel i made the right decisions.
He harted me attending church but in the beggining was ok. He wanted me to stop my job. My friends could call me on phone. Invaded my personal space. He could bear me being kind to people especially his neighbours. He made me wipe my fb as he accused me i was finding a new person. I tried so had to make it work avoiding anything that disturbed him. I was so unhappy. Is a long time i was out of it and this article has reminded me i took the right choice.

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RE: The “Africanisation” of Africans

I am an african living in EU although i consider myself an african. I agree with someone up there who said as like african we should try not to copy all from so called western civilization coz we have different environments and cultures. As an african i thanks God for modern civilization and education from britons. What would we have done with some of our stupid cultures like dowry, women multilation, vudu, alot of stupid believes. I think the knowledge we have gained should be used to makes us better and live the bad vices for westerners. We should try to gain some balance be careful about the western who has manipulated all along and continue too. They have killed Ghadafi while most EU countries owe libya etc. Create our own market, refuse the World Bank loans, unite trade with this poor EU coz they have stolen enough. Its high time we understand that what has been named like dark continent has more potential than ever. As Dr. Lumumba from Kenya has said its time to say good bye and create our own world. We should meet with the rest of the world in innovations congress to learn more but our future should be on our hands.
Thanks all those who have contributed in our being positively or negatively never trust those who continue telling us we are children of lesser God or our IQ is the lowest and make sure our resources that all open eyes for like hungry wolves can buy us some quality life.
Is how i see it.

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