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RE: How to Get Respect from Your Teenager

Thanks. I get crazy when my son 17 walks on me when i try to talk or explain some situations. He even get worse when we have visitors. He was never this way always praised by everyone how good he was. Just few month his behaviour is totally different. Even rude with teachers. I try to find out the source of this suddenly change he will not talk. Only talks if he needs to get his pays from me ... train sports when he wants.... he can just look straight on my eyes and say 'aint going' ... close his door and internet can be 4 hours ..... i have lost totally authority ....

RE: 5 Early Warning Signs Of An Abusive Relationship

""Don't be blinded by love and focus on only the good you see. Sometimes the things that look like the actions of a good boyfriend are really covering up what he doesn't want you to see yet. Don't confuse manipulation and romance.""

RE: 4 Types of Toxic People You Need To Avoid

Absolutely true, and I make sure I do.

RE: 15 Fun First Date Ideas

These are great ideas! I've always been of the frame of mind that dinner and a movie, is so boring and lazy, because there are SO many other, more interactive activities that can be done. If the sparks don't fly, at least you both had fun, and maybe you made a friend instead.

RE: The “Africanisation” of Africans

Hi,

I think that this bloke 'bomerangotang' is best advised to keep his advice to himself or for the remains of poor Sweden, a once lovely country and people until they got advice like his. Heaven knows that they need good advice more than Africa does. That little bit of advice, too much I would say.

Well done Angil07 for a nicely put together article. You are smart. I would like to vote that you replace Zuma!

RE: Why are scammers the most polite and complimentary?

Most likely because they think the people will fall for their scam as they sound the perfect person and like all these things if sounding too good to be true it will case as I have read many of these scammers profiles and it is too easy to fall for them if you are new to this type of dating.

RE: 5 Dating Red Flags That Should Make You Think Twice

What about the female member on this site who is only interested on how good this site is as well.

RE: Red Flags You Shouldn't Ignore When Dating Someone New

Edit....I meant asking me out by text rather than calling...

RE: Red Flags You Shouldn't Ignore When Dating Someone New

All the above are correct.....
I don't like a guy who is lazy and makes no effort....whether its dressing up for a dinner date somewhere nice or texting me to have conversations or ask me out rather than calling....if we are in the same country I expect him to call me sometimes....I hate texting....this guy shows me that he can't be bothered with first impressions....imagine what it will be like being with such a guy
Other red flags:
Doesn't like to open up, secretive, refuses to answer or evades general questions
Hot tempered
Doesn't have time for you
Criticizes, tries to change how you are whether looks wise or personality wise
Control freak
Always ogles other women and comments on how hot they are even if they are your friends
Selfish or manipulative or narcisstic
When you've been dating a while and he doesn't want to intro you to his friends and family
Totally clueless about life- doesn't know what he wants
Careless about money (spendthrift)
Disrespectful to you or to people in his life especially women
Complains or talks about his exes a lot
Plays games, tests boundaries
Ghosts you
Never says sorry for his behavior
Does not keep his word
Controlled by his mother/family
Ok with not communicating every day when in a relationship
Immature
Jealous
Possessive
Lack of trust
Judgemental
Family and friends don't like him because there's something "off' about him
Insecure, needs constant reassurance
Past cheating behaviour
Abuse of any kind
He stonewalls you
Borrows money from you, pays with vouchers on dates, wants something or the other
Never accepts responsibility for his behavior/decisions
He agrees with whatever you say
No backbone
Moody
Different values than you
He makes you feel stupid or constantly corrects you or belittles you
He refuses to make your relationship public or intro you to people you meet or refuses to be seen in public with you
They hold you to a double standard

That's all for now will add more as I think of them....these are some of what I encountered....and my friends too so take notes ladies!

RE: Five Reasons You Can't Get (or Keep) a Good Guy

1/ Each not having your own bit of life is eventual death by strangulation. You met doing different things. It is partly what was attractive in the first place.
2/ Trying to change someone is death by a thousand cuts. Change won't happen. State your case then let it go. Use a 'feeling' statement. 'I feel trashed when we go to a movie and you just wear a singlet and shorts,' not a complaint.
3/ Intelligence is tricky. Does one mean education standard or IQ? They are not the same thing. Don't hide where you, disrespect is down the road. Do not be condescending or mothering. I actively pitch my word usage to the audience; I also tell them to ask for an explanation if I fail. Be comfortable in learning. Imagination is what makes it work.
4/ Acceptable body images are driven by biology in partnering. 'Does she have child-bearing hips; Is he a good provider?' She is not skinny, he is well covered. Instead of looking in the mirror or centrefolds look at the couples around you. See how 'ordinary' we all are. That said, obesity is a health issue, and also one of self-respect.

RE: Help to Get Over the Breakup of a Relationship

Thanks for writing. My ex could really humilate me. He once left in a hotel room a whole night and day attending his daughter wedding alone. The reason was he made a very mean comment about my son which made us start an argument. He called the daughter immediately saying i was shouting at him. They picked him leaving me alone in a hotel room. After wedding at 2pm he was back. I didn't say anything. As nothing happened he asked me to prepare he was going to shop for me later on the day. I couldn't believe it that the incidence for him was forgotten. By then i realised i was dealing with true narcist. I cried my head out i knew in my heart it was over. He said he was truelly sorry but i couldn't trade my emotions for this. I am such carring person would never treat anyone this way. To travel abroad i took days off from work just because he asked me too.
But beside this i breaked relationship after a month. He could also leave me in pubs if someone looked at me or said hallo etc. It took him only 2 month he got someone else. I feel guilty sometimes think i should have been patient but reading things have made me feel i made the right decisions.
He harted me attending church but in the beggining was ok. He wanted me to stop my job. My friends could call me on phone. Invaded my personal space. He could bear me being kind to people especially his neighbours. He made me wipe my fb as he accused me i was finding a new person. I tried so had to make it work avoiding anything that disturbed him. I was so unhappy. Is a long time i was out of it and this article has reminded me i took the right choice.

RE: Help to Get Over the Breakup of a Relationship

Thanks for writing. My ex could really humilate me. He once left in a hotel room a whole night and day attending his daughter wedding alone. The reason was he made a very mean comment about my son which made us start an argument. He called the daughter immediately saying i was shouting at him. They picked him leaving me alone in a hotel room. After wedding at 2pm he was back. I didn't say anything. As nothing happened he asked me to prepare he was going to shop for me later on the day. I couldn't believe it that the incidence for him was forgotten. By then i realised i was dealing with true narcist. I cried my head out i knew in my heart it was over. He said he was truelly sorry but i couldn't trade my emotions for this. I am such carring person would never treat anyone this way. To travel abroad i took days off from work just because he asked me too.
But beside this i breaked relationship after a month. He could also leave me in pubs if someone looked at me or said hallo etc. It took him only 2 month he got someone else. I feel guilty sometimes think i should have been patient but reading things have made me feel i made the right decisions.
He harted me attending church but in the beggining was ok. He wanted me to stop my job. My friends could call me on phone. Invaded my personal space. He could bear me being kind to people especially his neighbours. He made me wipe my fb as he accused me i was finding a new person. I tried so had to make it work avoiding anything that disturbed him. I was so unhappy. Is a long time i was out of it and this article has reminded me i took the right choice.

RE: Help to Get Over the Breakup of a Relationship

Thanks for writing. My ex could really humilate me. He once left in a hotel room a whole night and day attending his daughter wedding alone. The reason was he made a very mean comment about my son which made us start an argument. He called the daughter immediately saying i was shouting at him. They picked him leaving me alone in a hotel room. After wedding at 2pm he was back. I didn't say anything. As nothing happened he asked me to prepare he was going to shop for me later on the day. I couldn't believe it that the incidence for him was forgotten. By then i realised i was dealing with true narcist. I cried my head out i knew in my heart it was over. He said he was truelly sorry but i couldn't trade my emotions for this. I am such carring person would never treat anyone this way. To travel abroad i took days off from work just because he asked me too.
But beside this i breaked relationship after a month. He could also leave me in pubs if someone looked at me or said hallo etc. It took him only 2 month he got someone else. I feel guilty sometimes think i should have been patient but reading things have made me feel i made the right decisions.
He harted me attending church but in the beggining was ok. He wanted me to stop my job. My friends could call me on phone. Invaded my personal space. He could bear me being kind to people especially his neighbours. He made me wipe my fb as he accused me i was finding a new person. I tried so had to make it work avoiding anything that disturbed him. I was so unhappy. Is a long time i was out of it and this article has reminded me i took the right choice.

RE: The “Africanisation” of Africans

I am an african living in EU although i consider myself an african. I agree with someone up there who said as like african we should try not to copy all from so called western civilization coz we have different environments and cultures. As an african i thanks God for modern civilization and education from britons. What would we have done with some of our stupid cultures like dowry, women multilation, vudu, alot of stupid believes. I think the knowledge we have gained should be used to makes us better and live the bad vices for westerners. We should try to gain some balance be careful about the western who has manipulated all along and continue too. They have killed Ghadafi while most EU countries owe libya etc. Create our own market, refuse the World Bank loans, unite trade with this poor EU coz they have stolen enough. Its high time we understand that what has been named like dark continent has more potential than ever. As Dr. Lumumba from Kenya has said its time to say good bye and create our own world. We should meet with the rest of the world in innovations congress to learn more but our future should be on our hands.
Thanks all those who have contributed in our being positively or negatively never trust those who continue telling us we are children of lesser God or our IQ is the lowest and make sure our resources that all open eyes for like hungry wolves can buy us some quality life.
Is how i see it.

RE: Benefits of Bickering: Can Arguing Ever Be a Good Thing?

ONLY WHEN I WIN IDIOT

RE: Five Reasons You Can't Get (or Keep) a Good Guy

I wandering how can i know i`am good guy?

Richelieu

RE: 7 Signs You're Being Catfished

Nicely written and spot on.
It seems that there are more scammers on dating sites than there are fish in the sea.

As far as I'm concerned, when I'm asked for my email address after a couple of messages, let alone the first one - has happened - then I will assume I'm dealing with a scammer and report them.

Hint: 99.999% of "women" who contact first are scammers.

Thank you for the article.

RE: Is Your Man Cheating – 7 Signs

Great article!
You've touched on all the necessary points and finished with good advice. I replaced the genders in my mind while reading it since I won't ever be cheated on by a man.
Thank you for the efforts.

RE: Is Your Man Cheating – 7 Signs

This should be on 'Is your lady cheating?' Since it is found time after time that more women cheat in a relationship than men do...!

RE: Why Giving Up Blame Will Bring You Peace

Wise advice, even if it's easier said than done, especially when the blame is entirely warranted and demands a response.
However, I agree wholeheartedly. Blaming another person for one's bad decisions impedes on our ability to move on and compounds the hurt already sustained.
Forgiveness is the answer, as counterintuitive as it may sound, and it it cleanse the psyche as well as the soul.
Thank you for the wise words.

RE: Forget Bad Boys: Women Like their Dating Partners to be Gentlemen

Thank you for the advice.
And it's a 'yes' to the question that closes the article.

RE: Just DON'T Do It

YOUR NO DIFFERENT YOU WOMAN ARE ALL STUFFED IN THE HEAD AND YOU DESERVE NOTHING LIKE U ALL THINK U DO
IF YOU WERE DUMPED ITS BECAUSE YOU WERE FERAL

RE: Forget Bad Boys: Women Like their Dating Partners to be Gentlemen

Excellent article! Gentlemen are rare to find these days!

RE: Forget Bad Boys: Women Like their Dating Partners to be Gentlemen

This is certainly true!

RE: 3 Signs That He's a Keeper, not a Creeper

Great article.....yes I really do wish guys would stop asking me out through text message! It is a turn off and shows me he is lazy! I don't like having conversations through text! its ok sometimes but not always!