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So I changed my profile...is it rude ...?

I have had many many mails from folk in faraway countries, many with attached yahoo or e - mail addresses and now find that, although I used to do my best to answer everyone I really can't be doing it any more.

People seem to be offended if you message them saying thank you for your mail but I don't really feel it appropriate to correspond over such a distance as I'm looking at the prospect of a full on touchy relationship crying

I have had replies calling me a tease blues saying that I am inflexible ( moping it's a lie I tell ya, still kinda bendy blues), that I should try it and see .. even if it isn't what I'm looking for. Seems these guys know what I need more then I do myself.

It isn't personal or race based or anything but a distance issue and the need to be in face to face contact with someone. Maybe with the prospect of a little peck on the cheek blushing

Have I stained my profile by adding this fact to it !!
Way I see it, if these guys actually do read it then they'll see that I probably won't reply. Saving them time to search for someone that maybe is looking for them.

Would really appreciate your feed back guys dunno
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For anyone that needs a cyber hug

A Progressive Process..or so it may seem

Have you ever wondered
When times seemed so grey
The reasoning’s of life, love and all those future days

These seem to be questioned at every turn we take
But sometimes we learn it has to be
worth somewhat of a wait

We can analyse
It seems
Pretend to take it in our stride
But deep down inside we're desperately seeking
What is to be

Desperation in it's turn moves on to make room..
For something different and bright you may be missing
In this case I feel I have answers to share
Desperation moves on to make room for me

The distance between friends can seem vast I believe
May seem pointless without the ability to share, hold, cry or laugh
But in the space of our time we can feel
and with feelings comes hope
And these emotions mean that we re winning

Together friends build strength
strength is found in all dimensions
We only need enough to get us through
No more or no less

Are we friends ?
I know we are
Then I'll share my strength with you
But in return when you're ready
you can share with me too
hug
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Connecting Minions !!!

This is going to be a bruiser, but.. has to be done laugh

Right so.

If you met someone who rocked your world (even if it were on CS) how would you handle it?

I mean, you've maybe met a few times, you get the feeling they're kinda getting the groove for you too.

What do you do to show them or efforts would you make to give them the hint?

I'm curious ... especially to hear the guys views.. and no trouser dropping because that's cheating tongue
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Gain a date lose a best mate

I came home from work today to a massive e-mail from my best mate (who is male).
Cutting a long email short in essence he says he can't hang out or visit any more because if by chance my date tomorrow works out he wouldn't be able to stand seeing me with someone else... I rang him and he said he really wants me to be happy but this had to be goodbye... My best mate of 7 years and it has to be Goodbye??? My hearts broken because he means a great deal to me and although I love him it isn't the way he needs me to..
why oh why does everyone need to complicate things.
I do understand that it would be difficult to see someone you 'think' you love romantically involved with another but would I throw away a positive in my life on the off chance she may actually have a relationship. I haven't even had the date yet... Boys can be so darn silly dunno uh oh
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Chapters that count.. To help you through a dark d

Again, one of my poems.. I hope nobody minds me putting it up but in these days of rainy cold it may bring a tiny warmth to just someone's heart when they're feet are so cold .

Each chapter of love has its’ ups and its’ downs,
Some are a passage and some break you down,
The love that two share,
Between you and me,
Lasts as long as is willed necessary by the power that be,

Love in its’ rawest combines pleasure, peace and pain,
Self changes that are inevitable come from the same,
With each passing ship comes new treasures to behold,
The odd stow away parasite could even take hold,

But with each ship that passes comes newness and glee,
The memories are visions of the way it should be,
But sometimes those visions are shattered and torn,
Despair and confusion is easily born,

But look into your memories and remember those smiles.
Those moments when life seems so perfect to behold,
Of course you will miss it,
Of course it leaves pain,
Without these emotions it wouldn’t mean the same,

To have loved at all is a bonus to some,
Love is but a gamble and sometimes you lose,
But imagine,
Not ever feeling that way again,
That in its’ self makes it a powerful game,
To love is to risk losing,
But worth risking all the same .....
wave
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We are but human.... fallible and mistaken sometim

Not sure if it's ok to put this ditty up but couldn't find anything in the rules to say I couldn't, hope I didn't miss something.. It's just a sharing of thoughts in a semi kinda poem thing. So here goes.....

Simplicity is so very hard to achieve,
When your heart and your mind coincide to deceive,
When you thought that your heart was locked well away in a box,
Who knew it had the ability to pick those titanium locks,

You strive to share friendship through your caring and your love,
and your heart is growing fuller but you are unaware,
That with each touch and tenderness you offered to share,
Your heart is inspired and 'that' attachment is there.

You promise to honour a friendship so dear,
You know that the fine line of intimacy is near,
One snuggle too many may lead to the fateful kiss,
That kiss makes you realise something's amiss.

Friendship is love above and beyond,
But that lusts interference is 'hiding back there',
Real love is different as I've surely found,
Intimacy will confuse it,
Breaking it down,
And you'll be forced to make decisions you'd rather let be,

Love in it's rawest is pleasure, passion and pain,
Friendship is honour, protection and care,
When you mix up these emotions confusion takes hold,
Losing a lover may be hard to behold,
But losing a friendship is just out of control.

heart wings

Sometimes we make mistakes, we learn, we move on. Doesn't mean those mistakes don't lead us to a lesson we're ready to learn. Sometimes it hurts, sometimes it's hard to believe it is helping us grow but good or bad there's always a reason ..
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Sharing some positive vibes

Woke up this morning with a full on smile on my face, a tickle deep in my tummy and a skip in my heart. Funniest thing happened, but I won't go into that.
Feeling the warmth of the sun on a cold rainy day, seeing the shapes in the clouds and walking around with a smile in my heart. Life is beautiful and I'm so pleased to be a part of it.
This year is going to be amazing. heart wings
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Simple smiles

Just sitting here in my own little space listening to the banter between my children.
My eldest returned from a trip away last night and the gossiping and story telling just brings a smile to my face, if I've done nothing else right in my years here on earth I am secure in the fact I have produced some awesome little people.
Sounds like I'm showing off here, maybe I am a little :)
What made you smile today ?
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Realisations and Peace

Recently, I realised something that I've probably known for a very long time but chosen to ignore. Not sure if it's worth sharing with you all but maybe someone will get something positive from it.

My perception of my own life and the way I live it ( or should have lived it even) have in the past seemed hazy and unclear but of late, having taken a while to stand back and stop searching I have come to the conclusion that I am honestly happy with the hand that I have been dealt. No regrets and no 'what if 's'.

Sounds silly and mundane I'm sure but the realisation of contentment and the smiles it causes me to share in everyday life is like a freedom many people don't have the privilege to feel.

I have read some very sad blogs, some desperate tales and my heart sinks for those that are feeling pain and burden. I believe we're all here for similar reasons,we've probably all felt that pain at some stage and for those feeling it now, hugs and kind thoughts.

If I may I'd like to share a certain turning point that helped me.One I only realised very recently.

Yesterday at work, I ended up swapping numbers with a lady that needed help in my field. It transpired that she ended up at my home last night and what started as a semi work related topic soon turned to the 'you're a single mum too can I please ask you how you coped with .......'

She was obviously dealing with personal pain and her eyes welled as she spoke to me. I have met her but a few times during a working day never outside the office. I was open and answered her honestly and I believe she felt less alone leaving then when she arrived.

One thing struck me from our conversation that reminded me of a time when I felt I could never feel real 'happy' again and that was her repetition of 'I can't understand and why'

The situation I had previously been in had made me feel that same way.
Only when I realised I didn't actually need to know why or understand did I also realise that everyone has the right to make choices, ex's included. I don't need to know why any more. I don't even need to understand because he made a choice that was best for him, if I had been in his shoes maybe I would have made a choice that he didn't understand. Either way, acceptance of the situation was what I really needed not the whys or what for.

My life is my own, I chose to look forward and cherish the good memories and release any bad. Positive vibes my friends and find your smiles, they miss you.

teddybear
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