Today was a big day for me. My second went to Junior High while the youngest went to Kindergarten. Maybe not long from now, they all will leave the nest. I hope I will be ready when the time comes. I'm sure I will miss the time when they, with their own way, remind me of of what life is all about.
When he was playing, my boy was hit by another boy which caused him a wound near his hand ankle. Seeing him bleeding I rushed to the principal room asking for alcohol and betadine for him. He did not cry, as I wiped and cleaned the wound. He even managed to be in the gathering in which the principal introduced all the teacher.
After finishing he refused to go to class. I asked whether it's hurt. He said no. Then I asked why he did not want to go to class. He said he was disappointed with his friend who has hit him. I said he hit him accidentally. Then he said, "Why he did not say sorry? Why you did not ask him to say sorry. You said if we hurt other, by mean or accidentally we have to say sorry?"
I was stunned. The 3 magic words that I taught my kids: please, thank you, and sorry!
As parents we may think it is us teaching them life. In the long run, it is us who learn more from them.
After a month here, I finally will meet someone from CS tomorrow. I'm so excited. Can not wait for another 26 hours to come. I hope I can sleep tonight. I'm just wondering whether she feels the same way. Yes, it's a she and from my country rrrr I mean city.
See you tomorrow Lachi
Today I wear high heels, brand new. This is something as there are two things in the world that I thought I will never wear, mini skirt and high heels.
I was with my kids watching a movie when I got a phone call from my friend for a meeting. The day before she offered me a job to write a biography. I was not ready for that meeting as I wearing a very casual clothes with no make up on. Absolutely nothing, not even a basic powder, eye brow and lip gloss (yes for me these 3 are the basic while some other women will add mascara, blush on and lipstick, which for me is the complete make up!).
So I thought of something to do with my appearance, and I decided to buy high heels. I thought it can do what a lipstick can do to your face. Because what I'm about to meet is my friend and her director.
So I went to the meeting, with those high heels, only to find that the director is someone I have met 17 years ago. I was a managing editor in a magazine and he was volunteering for one of our project. What a funny reunion. Without much talking about the job he gave me the job. And what we talked was the old good days hahaha
Sometimes life has too many surprises, even for a writer like me :)
So now I got a job, and a pair of high heels. How lucky can I be. How I love surprises :)
One thing me and my girl friends talks about post breaking up is whether our ex's new girlfriend is better or worse than us. I know it's silly, I mean why still care? Doesn't it a sign we're not over yet? But well sometimes doing silly thing is fun
Some of us think It's hurting seeing their ex with someone "less" than them (ok, of course the term less is also arguable). Why broke up if then they will only be with someone less, what went wrong, what have I done, bla bla bla. It is as if they think why you broke us up for someone less. On the contrary some think it's good if their ex hook up with someone less. It is what they deserve. It is a punishment for leaving them. Seeing their ex with someone less makes them happy.
Despite this, they agree on one thing. Do no settle for less. It has become a mantra for them. Do not settle for less!
As for me, maybe it is not about more or less. It is about what you need at the moment.
Would love to hear your opinion on this.
Looking for the other half is a term we use to say we are looking for soulmate, partner, lover or whatever you call it. Then what happen if you don't find him/her? Will you be "half" forever?
I just published a book on being a single moms (me and other 3 single moms talking about being a single mom from different angle), on most interview for the book one of the most asked question was: when do you know it's time to be in a relationship (after the break up/divorcee).
My answer has always been when you are content with your life, when you do not feel half, when you feel whole. I wouldn't suggest anyone to be in a relation to make her/him whole. What if he/she failed to make you whole? What if you never find that "other half"?
Maybe I am wrong, but for what I have experienced you have to be able to enjoy your life fully with or without a partner. Only when you are whole, it's safe for you to be in a relationship.
That is what I believe, now. Period.
Does anyone has any other opinion?
Apa yang lebih gelap dari malam
Siang
Apa yang lebih perih dari luka
Cinta
Apa yang lebih sepi dari mati
Hidup
Semua gelap, cuma kita terang sendiri
Deli48, pada sebuah senja di 6 April 2011
My Story
What is darker than night
Day
What is more painful than wound
Love
What is more lonely than death
Life
It's all dark, we're the only one who shine
April, 2011
Been 2 weeks here and i find this as the lamest pick up-line:
" Hi, what do you think about me?"
seriously? is that all you can do? ask a stranger to think about you? get a life!
what is yours?
When I was a kid I had a favorite book note. It becomes my favorite because of something written in the cover. It says "Smile until 10 in the morning, then you will smile all day". I tried that and most of the time, it works. Sometimes bad things happen and I felt like getting angry and scream, but most of the time I tried to keep calm and smile. Maybe it's not the "smile until 10" that keeps me smiling. Maybe it's my intention to keep smiling. But then again, to start a day with a smile is not bad, no?
So did you smile this morning?
Have a great smiling day, today and the days to come
When I was still in high school I used to love watching soap opera. I remember watching Return to Eden, The Bold and Beautiful etc. One thing I remember most is how they presented the love relation. There’s always misunderstanding, one’s inability to understand the other which become worst by starting to hurt each other and in the end lead to an ending. Then I don’t know how I got this conclusion that two people who love each other but can’t be together, will eventually hurt each other, till they finally split. That was then.
When I started writing script for TV, I know that my conclusion was wrong. I learned that it’s just a formula to keep the audience watching. By creating missunderstanding between those who love each other, it will keep the audience watching and waiting when those misunderstanding will end, and most important when those couple will finally be together again. When it didn’t work indicated by rating that didn’t get better, this is when we finally made those couple broke up. The tension gets higher, the expectation of the audience rise, then we bring another character, which lead to a potential love triangle, which (usually) will bring the audience back, which will rise rating and share etc, etc.
Now comes the real life experience, my own. I guess what I believed from watching soap operas did not 100 % just a formula. Now, I am trying soooooo hard to hurt my beloved, just to break up with him. Why? Because no matter how much we love each other, we will never be able to be together. Same as no matter how hard we tried not to be together, at the end of the day we will “come home” to each other. So this is what we do. Hurting each other. I don’t know was I inspired by those soap operas I watched or those I wrote. I just simply know this is the easiest way. Silly? Sad? I can’t tell anymore.
A note written sometimes ago (when I was young hehehe), just feel like to share and know your opinion.
I used to think it is. Now I limit my self only to things that I need to know. Why bother knowing too much that has happened in the past. The past is over, the present is here to be embraced. Maybe sometimes knowing the past is important to understand “the why and how”, but I will give my self sometimes to find it in time. Relationship is not a destination, it’s a journey through it you can understand yourself better, and finally be someone nice to be with. And you are not competing with anyone in the past, so stop comparing yourself nor ask how you were different from them. You are the winner! You are who are there with your partner, not his/her ex.
Just a thought...
as there might be no box at all.
Have a great weekend :)
so they said. I said gay is. They're complete. They have heart as sensitive as a woman, and as strong as a man.
What about you? Who/what is your best friend? I'm going on a date with my gay friend. I can feel this is gonna be a marvelous Sunday. Hope you have a marvelous one too.
Cheers
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