After reading Bogart's blog about how women do not need men physically due to electronics, it has got me thinking that I could use a good dose of reality.
See, my house has been messy because I am in a season of trials right now that keep crashing like waves into my life. Tuesday was my birthday. God knew that all I really wanted for my birthday was a clean house:) But due to my circumstances, I was physically and mentally incapable. Sleep deprivation is an amazing thing.
Anyway, God sent an angel in the form of my closest gal pal, who showed up at my home. She took one look at me and my home and knew that is just not me. So, she cleaned my home while I helplessly stood by and attempted to have a somewhat coherent conversation. When I awoke on my birthday, my home was a beautiful thing (with the exception of the boys's rooms;) and my prayer was answered.
Now in my perfect world, I would have a husband or partner that would jump in and share the load. Someone who would like my friend, realize my limitations and want to help. So I am asking the men out there, is that unrealistic?
If you loved someone, a mate, would you clean her home or even hire someone to do it if you did not feel up to it? How would you help in day to day chores or am I holding onto a pipe dream and perhaps this is one more thing to add to Bogart's blog that a woman would not "need" a man for support?
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Why are so many people looking for the perfect clean cut life?
My life is messy, but it is mine.
I don’t know many people my age, looking for a mate, that haven’t made mistakes nor have baggage. Some people act as if I do not have a right to even look for someone until my life is perfect. That’s like saying you will not go to church until you are sinless, or shoveling snow while it is still snowing. I have confidence that when the right person comes around, they will forgive my past, current, and future mistakes. I am not perfect, and never plan to be. My life will never look like Mary Poppins.
I continue to find moments of joy even though my icky circumstances still surround me. Tonight it is pouring down rain, unusual in Montana. I have to admit that I smiled as I looked around my incredibly messy home. Shoes and children’s things are pretty much everywhere. Tonight we had a crazy dinner. I didn’t have much energy or money so I made homemade waffles and syrup for dinner. I used half the batter to attempt deep fried Oreos for some fun. After dinner, my 13 year old read to my 8 year old on the couch. My 10 year old showed me his newest Yo Yo tricks, and my 16 year old pretended not to notice anyone while texting on her iPhone, but she was on the couch in the midst of it ;). There we are together, messy, but together. And though the world around us seems to continue to fall apart, we love each other, and I can smile in this moment.
Sure I would love to pass my mother’s white glove test, to have the perfect orderly family, a loving man and solid role model, but this is my life for now. I don’t think there is anything wrong with me wanting “adult” time. I take care of everyone by myself. I don’t think it is wrong to dream of someone wanting to “take care” of me. So I will wait with a positive attitude for the person who will keep a smile on my face and not condemn me for my messy life.
I guess over the last few months I have learned the hard way that online dating is not much different than in person dating. There are people who are good and bad in both. I have been duped twice on this site, and I have to say that I am annoyed. So I have been thinking, and here is what I have come up with.
Lies when believed are enjoyable, but when the truth is learned it stings for days.
My favorite scam line is “Someone somewhere is thinking about you. “ Do they really think I am such a fool?
So why do we fall for these things? It’s simple, because we yearn for the fantasy to be the truth. Everyone has an innate desire to want to be loved. Who doesn’t enjoy being told they are beautiful or special. The idea that someone wants to spend the rest of their life with you regardless of your flaws or past history sounds wonderful. I refuse to give up. I hope the honest people who are really in search of their soul mate continue to stay on this site. I wish the scammers a hearty good bye.
If I wanted to live in a fantasy world, I would read a romance novel. My favorite for the record is Jude Deveraux’s, “A Knight in Shining Armor” probably one of the best books in its genre. So to others who seem to be targeted like me, I say, “Don’t give up, stay the course, why let them win?”
And, as I complained to my best gal pal, “I may end up an old lady with 10 cats, but I will still wink at a cute guy when I am ninety.” Hey a girl can dream.
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