In this wonderland of singles, here's mentioning a scenario (from woman's point of view) that could be familiar to some of you gals out there. Ever have an experience such as this? You have found an apparent non-scammer (yes, they do exist) are enjoying some quality email time with him and "Boom"...he disappears! Leaving you to wonder what happened after he seemed to be committed to the two of you sharing your lives thru cyberspace...this guy simply dissolves without a trace! Leaving you wondering why and your mind putting together all sorts of reasons for it! So here's a short checklist of some possibilities... feel free to add to it...yes, would like to hear some of your own ideas....and men, come on and join in from your viewpoint. This surely happens to the guys too.
A.First may come CONCERN...something could have happened to them (injury, etc, hopefully not death)...., but I guess that last part depends on what u think of them by this time!
B..BLAME YOURSELF: could I have said something that might have hurt/insulted them?
C .GUESSING ...they found somebody else on the site and are now emailing with them
D. GUESSING AGAIN ACCOMPANIED BY RATIONALIZATION.he just "chickened out" needed space but was not gonna tell me (in this case, better gone!)
E. BLAME AGAIN AND IT IS HIM THIS TIME maybe he was married or had gf,...got cold feet about being found out
F.. RATIONALIZATION WITH MORE THOUGHTS OF BLAME FOR HIM . he saved me from future days of indecision... deciding about some of his crazy ways & dropping him or staying and trying to work things out
G. TOTAL AND COMPLETE DENIAL ACCOMPANIED BY FEELINGS OF RESIGNATION..he .felt DEEP feelings about us but also had trouble believing he was good enough for me, so not knowing what to do and not wanting to hurt me in future, dropped out now before things could get really serious!!!!!! This thinking is called PF (Pure Fantasy) or BS (Bull Sh**)....better talk to a shrink! ????
why is it that most sammers have to use these words, dont they realize that we are adults and that we actually have a name. geesh pet names grate on my nerves, especally the "my queen" word, Im not in high school im an adult.
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