I remember when I first tried it out last year. Just half an hour after I had made a profile on another site, I had 3 new messages from women. Of course I had to pay a small amount to be able to read them though. That's how they reel you in - with bots sending you messages. I already suspected that back then but the site also seemed to have a lot of genuine members and since the membership fee was just a few bucks, I decided to get it anyways.
And sure enough I did have some very interesting and funny convos with what I'm fairly certain were genuine people. At least they never exhibited any typical scammer signs. But funny how the minute my membership expired I started getting tons of messages from all these beautiful women again
Bots at hard work!
The scammers are a story for themselves. Being a young techy guy well aware of their presence and not desperate in any way, I'm not exactly their favourite type of mark. Still, even I was surprised by how vast their operations are. You would think that at least some people from the typical scam countries would actually be genuine (and I bet they do exist) but everyone I talked to from those countries eventually wanted money.
There was a young african lady I found especially amusing. After exchanging 4-5 emails she was certain she loved me. I asked her how she could love someone she hardly knew anything about. Her reply? "Oh I want to get to know you better so I can then love you"
And here I thought all along it was the other way around, get to know someone first and the loving bit comes later... how mistaken I had been!
And then there was that english woman that ended up having a go at me after asking how her day had been. I lost count of the number of insults she threw at me and how I should never contact her again (don't worry - no risk of that ever happening). To this day I'm not sure how me asking how her day triggered all that. My best guess would be a mental disorder and someone forgetting to take their medicines.
There's been good times too of course. A few good online friends I actually met on dating sites. Sometimes it doesn't click romantically but you get along great on a friendly level and for that I'm very grateful. There was also a woman I think would have been a great match for me and we were talking about her coming here to visit me. Unfortunately sometimes life gets in the way with stuff happening and we eventually fell out. Still brought me some hope though
The most common killjoy I encounter are with older women. I have a preference for them as we are often more on the same wavelength and more likely to click. I mainly write the ones that has an age range I fall within. On the odd times when I write someone I'm a little younger than what they specified, I'm always very polite about it and hope it didn't cause them any inconvience.
It's fine if she chooses to ignore my message. It's also fine if she chooses to respond and tell me she isn't interested. But what isn't fine is belittling or patronizing me. Just because I'm a lot younger doesn't automatically mean I'm a lot more stupid or immature than you are. And hey, if you are so wise and mature, would you even be having a tantrum over me contacting you in the first place? I think not.
Fortunately the majority of older women are nothing like that
So there's been some good and some bad but I keep on going, my lady is somewhere out there.
I wanted to know a little about other peoples experiences but I see in the rules I may not direct any questions to viewers so I won't ask that then.
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