It's so hard sometimes to relay how i feel
But when i do, you should know it's for real
It's not up to them to decide
Everything that is felt inside
I have nothing from them to hide
And because so strongly it's felt, so it i'll say
And knowing tomorrow comes what may
And without caring what anyone might say
I will always, still, do it anyway
R.D.S.
Get in, it's a ride, and it's out of the rain
It sure beats walking, and you won't be alone
You can watch all the water roll down the drain
From inside here, warm, as we roll down the road
We'll talk to each other, we can share the pain
Relief from the loneliness, and bitter cold
Some peace and sanity for both will be gained
Once, I was walking the same road you're on
And so full of pride, I turned down my ride
That road is twisted, it goes on and long
With just me there alone, I died inside
Please get in, while you ride, I'll drive
And we can keep each other well and alive
R.D.S.
Some people spend the most part of, if not their whole lives chasing it, or even the thought
Maybe because they don't know or won't realize it's something that cannot be caught
It is something that can be given
But it's not something you can
See with your eyes or touch with your hands
By many people it can be and IS said
But it can't be heard by the ears on your head
It is something that only is FELT
If it is from, of or for a person, then THEY all may
But IT doesn't change and it doesn't go away
If you have to ask if it is here, or wonder where
Then it ISN'T now and never was there
It is by one's actions that can make it be known
And they're lead by the same one, that one knows
~~={R*D*S}=~~
SAYING, MEANING, CLAIMING AND DOING, CARING, BEING ARE 2 DIFFERENT THINGS
It's easy to tell what's important and to who
All you have to do is look at what they do
Why would somebody say something to someone like: "I DO care..." or, "I will be your friend..." or, "Anything you need, just tell me..." or, "If you just need someone to talk to..." or, "If you want an unbiased opinion...", "...shoulder to cry on...", when they really don't mean it?
I am learning to think that it may be because it (just saying it to someone, maybe) makes them feel better about themselves...or Makes them feel good that they offered their help to someone who may be asking for it, or who they think might needs it...
Maybe it might not make them feel so good if they knew that it causes FAR greater hurt to the ones they have made those statements to, if they don't ACTUALLY do or mean what they say, than not saying anything at all...because most of the time, if someone has gotten to the point of asking someone else for help, they have overcome a great deal of anguish and humility just to get to that point...
Maybe not...Maybe they really don't care about any of that either?
If someone is really hurting and calling for help from someone (maybe you) and you tell them you will help however you can, why wouldn't you do it for them? Because it was never really about them, was it? It made YOU feel better to tell them what you thought they might want to hear at the time? Got them off your back for a while?
How sad...
I used to think that it was my downfall... I seem to trust WAY too much, and hold WAY too much faith and truth in what people say, believing that they really mean it, and maybe they do or did at the time...but, you are only as good as your word...and your word is meaningless if it is never carried out, never seen through...if it's left at only a word.
It is not a downfall, though...maybe it's all in your perception of things, but when whatever is needed of me is called on, it really helps me, (maybe more than the one asking for help) to get out of myself and what I’m doing or going through, and know that I have, in whatever small or big way it was, maybe helped...
Don't get me wrong, sometimes just saying that you will help, or be a friend, or listener, or a shoulder may give someone comfort in just hearing it from somebody—maybe to feel that they aren't all alone—but if you really don't mean those things, then they are nothing to either, and such a waste to both.
People will ALWAYS make or find the time to do the things that are important to them...but, it never takes much time, really, to get out of yourself for a minute, though you might think it will, or that it will be too much for you to handle, or that it will only add to YOUR problems—and maybe it would, if you let it, but it is very rare if someone were to honestly ask you to take on their troubles for them...that is not what they are asking...and I think that if you really DID care and really did want to help it would be the smallest thing you could do, with a greater reward than you can imagine...
If your word to someone is that you are their friend, spend just a little of your precious time BEING that, what you're CLAIMING to be. Don't waste everything DOING the opposite of CARING and MEANING what you are SAYING. Because if you do you will certainly end up destroying something that could have been one of the most wonderful things that ever happened to you, and needlessly hurt the innocent one who foolishly believed in you and trusted what you had said.
R.D.S.
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