Yes, beauty is more than skin deep Seem beyond mere eyes in one's head And just like ugly it makes its self known By all the things that one has done and said
I have met MANY very beautiful women who have made them selves bocome very ugly to me by the sthings that that do and say.....AND the opposite is true......i would say it depends on the man.
It's not that it's someting that is devastating to me or anyting--i just happened to notice it and thought it was kinda funny--wondered why it is--So i guess to andswer Your question i would have to say ME! or i wouldn't have asked. :)
saying, meaning, claiming and doing, caring, being are 2 different things
It's easy to tell what's important and to who
All you have to do is look at what they do
Why would somebody say something to someone like: "I DO care..." or, "I will be your friend..." or, "Anything you need, just tell me..." or, "If you just need someone to talk to..." or, "If you want an unbiased opinion...", "...shoulder to cry on...", when they really don't mean it?
I am learnig to think that it may be because it (just saying it to someone, maybe) makes them feel better about themselves...or Makes them feel good that they offered their help to someone who may be asking for it, or who they think might need it...
Maybe it might not make them feel so good if they knew that it causes FAR greater hurt to the ones they have made those statements to, if they don't ACTUALLY do or mean what they say, than not saying anything at all...because most of the time, if someone has gotten to the point of asking someone else for help, they have overcome a great deal of anguish and humility just to get to that point...
Maybe not...Maybe they really don't care about any of that either?
If someone is really hurting, and calling for help from someone (maybe you) and you tell them you will help however you can, why wouldn't you do it for them? Because it was never really about them, was it? It made YOU feel better to tell them what you thought they might want to hear at the time? Got them off your back for a while?
How sad...
I used to think that it was my downfall... i seem to trust WAY too much, and hold WAY too much faith and truth in what people say, believing that they really mean it, and maybe they do or did at the time...but, you are only as good as your word...and your word is meaningless if it is never carried out, never seen through...if it's left at only a word.
It is not a downfall, though...maybe it's all in your perception of things, but when whatever is needed of me is called on, it really helps me, (maybe more than the one asking for help) to get out of myself and what i'm doing or going through, and know that i have, in whatever small or big way it was, maybe helped...
Don't get me wrong, sometimes just saying that you will help, or be a friend, or listener, or a shoulder may give someone comfort in just hearing it from somebody...to feel that they aren't all alone...but if you really don't mean those things, then they are nothing to either, and such a waste to both.
People will ALWAYS make or find the time to do the things that are important to them...but, it never takes much time, really, to get out of yourself for a minute, though you might think it will, or that it will be too much for you to handle, or that it will only add to YOUR problems...and maybe it would, if you let it, but it is very rare if someone were to honestly ask you to take on their troubles for them...that is not what they are asking...and i think that if you really DID care and really did want to help it would be the smallest thing you could do, with a greater reward than you can imagine...
If your word to someone is that you are their friend, spend just a little of your precious time BEING that, what you're CLAIMING to be. Don't waste everything DOING the opposite of CARING and MEANING what you are SAYING. Because if you do you will certainly end up destroying something that could have been one of the most wonderful things that ever happened to you, and needlessly hurt the innocent one who foolishly believed in you and trusted what you had said.
RichardDavid Forum Posts (17)
RE: Are man’s prefer beauty or intellect?
"what" hmmmmm that could go LOTS of ways i think :)