What is this new "PREMIUM?"

thank you

I don't use private mail a lot these days, but the other day I was feeling a bit sociable.

When I tried to reply to one person, I got a notice saying I had reached my private mail limit for the day and would I like to join as a premium member?

I'd mailed two people a total of 12 times within the last 24 hours and found I couldn't mail for another 9 hours. I'm guessing that translates to unpaying members now having 8-10 free mails to send per day.

Now imagine I'd been chatting to both of those people with a romantic intent and I didn't want either to know about the other, like I'm some low down dirty dawg of a lothario.

And imagine both people I was stringing along talking to knew about the mail limit.

Then imagine I'd reached my mailing limit after five mails to each of my romantic interests. They're both going to want to know where the other five mails went, right?

Enter the get out of poop free card that is premium membership.

For a monthly fee of $9 I can enjoy 20 free mails, 20 free likes, an ad free dating experience and a premium member badge on my profile indicating I'm unlikely to be a conventional scammer. I'm still a dirt bag who's scamming two romantic interests out of informed choice, or informed consent, mind.

The 20 mails a day is very low for a monthly subscription, but there are no worries about forgetting to pay: the only two ways I'll be able to cancel my subscription and payments is by asking CS nicely to cancel themselves from taking money out of my account, or by upgrading to a yearly subscription.

My guess is that upgrades are fairly instant, but cancellations take enough time for admin to legally suck another monthly payment out of my account before managing the time consuming business of clicking on a thing, or two. One thing's for certain, I'm not going to be able to cancel my subscription through my bank because of the kind of subscription I agreed to.

Now imagine 20 mails and likes per day still gets me in the poop. I might upgrade to a yearly subscription of 60 mails and likes a day at a cost of $79, a snip at 29% less than monthly subscriptions for sooo much more.

Either way, I might forget I'd subscribed monthly, or yearly leaving CS to help itself out of my account forevermore, especially if I've forgotten which dating sites I joined and under which names.

It also explains why the ads are bleeding through several of my adblockers and are so animated they sometimes freeze my screen. CS wants to piss me off enough to pay them to not piss me off, as well as paying them not to dump me in poop.

Well no more me replying politely to those who have emailed but are not of any interest because they are too young, too far away, or can't spell, but have still taken the time to try a reasonable approach.

CS may have to put a warning on new members popping off emails in every direction - 'the recipient may have reached their limit, or may not feel you are worth a reply under the new limit'

even better, when the sender presses send, CS could warn 'is your email interesting? Sending hello how r u cuts into your daily limit and trust us on this, will not get you any responses. Press send again if you are happy with your message'

It's not about providing a service for an income.

It's about who can scam the vulnerable and needy the bestest.

CS is just improving their position in the pecking order.

And I doubt very much that this onion is going to have a solid centre, mind.

If you want to replace pictures you have to upgrade to premium.
Things are changing, enjoy CS while most of it remains free.

You can replace pictures for free

I'm surprised you have gotten away with a cartoon for so long

There are still more layers to this onion than that.

I'm pretty damned sure I've sent way more that 8-12 PM's in a 24 hour period sometime in the last 14-ish years that I've been a member of this site.

I'm pretty damned sure I've sent way more than 20 PM's in a day which is now the limit for a monthly subscription.

The amount of messages a free member can send has most definitely changed.

The new membership is likely down because with such restrictions on sending likes and mails, this site is a considerably less viable option for scammers.

TKSpectre is correct in his assumption that the drop in spam mail he's receiving is likely a function of the new restrictions placed on non-paying members.

Maybe read my first comment on here?
Free is around 10 mails per day, monthly subscription 20 mails per day, yearly subscription 60 mails per day.

Most of us bloggers likely don't privately mail all that much and won't have noticed when the limits started.

'Spect the scammers noticed in the first hour and many new members will be scammers doing their cycle of getting kicked off and then re-joining with a different-ish profile. Once there was such a restrictive limit on unpaid membership, it's maybe not worth their while creating new profiles all the time. See?

Mail me 'hello' about ten times in quick succession, Chat.

The premium thing will come up on the 11th try, or so, as long as you haven't by chance spanned two days according to the owners time zone.

Give CS access to my bank account to the point where I'd have to ask them nicely to stop helping themselves?

As we Brits say, "Not on your Nelly"

I dunno.

I didn't have enough information to work that out.

Having deliberately used up your 10 PM's in a short space of time (was there ever a nerdier set of messages in my inbox) you're in a better position to work that out and report back to us.

How often does anyone clean out their maill box in and out mail,
It is amazing how fast it builds up. ................

I don't think your midnight is the same as the site owners' midnight.

We're expecting you to try every half hour until you can post again, Chat.

It doesn't look like the site owners are going to tell us how it works anytime soon.

No, it's not that because I was able to send mail 9 hours after my last message.

What's interesting is the lack of communication from the site owners.

They don't want members knowing how it works and that tells us something about them and what they're up to.

We're just on the second, or third layer of the onion here.

“Premium” usually means money extraction from you.

...and when you die and still have an account, they will continue taking money out of your account, so more extra work for your heirs

you can give your whatsapp and after "finishing" with him/her - block the number. Wouldn't do it with everyone though

Good point.