Here are 9 ways but I am sure there other ways...
Nine Ways to Tell if Your Love Is Real
1. You feel good. A good relationship makes you feel good about yourself.
2. You look forward to spending time with your partner. You don't need to be with other people or go to events to avoid being alone together. You enjoy spending quality time together even when it's quiet.
3. You respect your partner. You hear yourself bragging about your partner. You say things like: "My husband is a really talented singer-songwriter." If you find that you're always talking about yourself, you're not focused on your partner or the relationship.
4. You're interested in what your partner thinks. You ask your partner's opinion about issues that are important to you. It's OK if he or she disagrees with you.
5. You accept your partner's quirks. Everyone has them. Even you! If your partner's quirks are endearing or tolerable, you're in good shape. If they really bother you, you should look more closely at the relationship.
6. You're able to work through your problems. It's natural to have some bumps in the relationship road to true bliss. People in healthy relationships see disagreements as a chance to learn more about their partner. However, if you're creating problems, or if you think every fight is the "big one" leading to a breakup, you should probably rethink your relationship.
7. You feel safe. You're not afraid of losing your partner.
8. You can't explain why you're together. Many people coordinate their lives so that they have to be together. But ask yourself if you're together because you truly want to be. If the answer is "yes," then you'll probably stay together. If it's "no," you're bound to have problems — if you haven't already.
9. You don't compare your partner to others. There will always be someone more beautiful, smarter or more athletic than your partner, but you don't care because you only want to be with him or her.
GOT THIS FROM A FRIEND....VERY GOOD
In this article, I’d like to address the other side of the equation which is “WHY YOU’RE NOT INTO HIM EITHER!”
To start off this discussion, here are the five different relationship scenarios based on the premise that people want to gain pleasure and avoid pain:
The Big One: High pleasure/low pain
A Friend: Medium pleasure/low pain
Acquaintances Low pleasure/low pain
Crazy Love High pleasure/high pain
The Enemy Low pleasure/high pain
So what do you look for in a man in order to enjoy pleasure and avoid pain consistently over time?
If you look closely and evaluate wisely, there are some intelligent ways to see through the clever disguises of men. Here are some good reasons why you shouldn’t be into these guys either:
HE’S A LOSER, NOT A WINNER
A person with winning traits is the only one who will be capable of delivering consistent pleasure and very little pain. Remember that all big fish are winners. Don’t waste your precious time, energy, and emotion on long-shot losers. Their excuses of bad luck rarely change.
HE FLUNKS THE CHEMISTRY TEST
A Greek proverb reads, “Love can not grow without passion.” If a man doesn’t drive your passion, you have no chance at the big romance, even if he has a fat wallet. Remember to go for a man who turns you on, not off. There is no substitute for chemistry.
HE’S “A CHARACTER” WITH NO CHARACTER
Men can be very charming with their manly strengths and boyish personalities. But underneath a man’s charm lies a foundation of character. If consistent, lasting, and fulfilling love is your objective, character is one of youronly reliable indicators.
HE’S A COOL GUY, BUT WITH NO WARMTH
An undeniable and mysterious part of us seems to be attracted to cool, aloof people. But if you want a relationship with warmth, caring, sensitivity, and compassion, be sure that the ones you want also possess these vital emotional qualities for love. A man can only give away to you what he possesses inside.
HE’S A LIFESTYLE MISMATCH, NOT A MATCH
Even the most charming, attractive, and exciting men may not be rightfor you. If you don’t have similar values and lifestyles, differences may start to accumulate, deepen, and widen. Remember that opposites may attract initially, but tend to repel consistently over time. In the long-run, similar values and lifestyle habits create the most secure and lasting relationship bonds. So while differences may be welcomed in style (and create some interesting relationship blends), they are not in substance.
YOU HAVE A PERSONALITY CLASH, NOT A COMPLIMENT
There’s no denying that everyone enjoys the company of an interesting person with a so-called “good personality.” However some personalities will blend better with yours than others. Repeated personality conflict usually means a large amount of emotional pain. Choose harmony instead of conflict in a loving relationship if you truly want secure, long-term, and consistent happiness.
HIS RELATIONSHIP GOALS END AT THE 50 YARD LINE
Unfortunately, a lot of men only want as much pleasure as they can get with the least amount of work, time, or commitment. The best that they want is a part-time girlfriend with occasional exceptions of romance. If there is no promise of him becoming a true full-time partner, then you have to realize that he not interested in going all the way in the relationship sense, not the s*xual one.
*THE BOTTOM LINE: There is nothing simple about men whether it is trying to catch them or understand them. But an intelligent approach to defining exactly what you want and what you don’t want will lead you in the right direction toward love and happiness and away from pain and suffering.
Passing this one on....
Getting Rid of Those Mind 'Ghouls'
The majority of the mental dialogue which people have from time to time stems from their past experiences - especially childhood experiences. So get rid of the dialogue by replacing it with your own mental speech. Speak to yourself in your mind. Mentally tell yourself positive things. Once you have done this, you will immediately notice that it will become easier to picture in your mind those positive things, which you have mentally spoken
This is a crucial point because this saying is a true saying: 'you are what you think'. The things which you visualize in your mind will always dictate your behavior and the quality of life you possess. You will soon observe a change in your behavior and attitude, the moment you form a
habit of positive mental speech and of visualizing those things you are saying in your mind.
So for example, if you have a fear of something, mentally tell yourself that you are not afraid. Then visualize yourself not being afraid of that thing you were afraid of. Keep doing that every time you have that fear and you will soon see that the fear will fade away each time. This is how to set your mind free. I end with this passage from the bible:
'Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things' - Philippians 4:8
Rainy Night Skat
By NICOLE J
In the warmth
Ba dop ba da
Of rainy nights
Ba dop ba da
Curtains flow
Ba dop ba da
You know
I know
Telepath you a kiss
On your shoulder
You here it
Rollover
Closer
Closer
Come closer to me
Seduce me with truth
Say that you love me
Deeply
Honestly
Eternally
Now once again
For the first time
You are loving me
Lovin’ me
I can’t see
Is it the rain
Or tears in my eyes?
Long before tonight
I felt the soul ties
In the warmth
Ba dop ba da
Of rainy nights
Ba dop ba da
You’re the sweetest
Rain I know
The Beginning of Loveless
4.5.2005
There has to be a man that loves God the way I do
There has got to be a man with words and actions that are true
I want to give up and just live this life alone
But may God forbid such a thing for me to be on my own
Without a face to kiss
A time to reminisce
A warm soul to embrace
A tear to erase
I am just a woman who loves deep and strong
My love is eternal yes on and on
I am just a woman with a heart of gold
Though my happiness has been sold
Remnants of joy rest in my soul
As I hold on for dear life in the cold
Cold world of relationships and passing ships
Believing the lies that roll off his lips
Because I want to be loved I want to believe
Because I know in my heart I am being deceived
And I trade in my common sense for a taste
And my pearls spent for nothing…what a waste
My God help me to help myself out of this destructive whirlwind
I can’t see where my love for myself ended and this loveless begins
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