A strong relationship should be based upon more than convenience. Pushing past difficult times while remaining together requires a deep commitment and appreciation for one another.
Unconditional love is developed over time. It is a choice we make, not necessarily a feeling we experience.
My thoughts....
1. On life's purpose and storing riches
“And of what use is it to you to own the stars?”
“Its use is to make me rich.”
“And of what use is it to you to be rich?”
“To buy more stars, if there are any more to be discovered.”
…
“If I own a scarf,” [the little prince] said, “I can put it around my neck and take it with me. If I own a flower, I can gather my flower and take it with me. But you cannot gather the stars!”
“No, but I can deposit them in the bank.”
“What does that mean?”
“It means that I write down the number of stars I own on a piece of paper. Then I lock this paper up in a drawer.”
“And is that all?”
“That is enough!”
“It is amusing,” thought the little prince. “It is even rather poetic. But it’s not terribly serious.”
2. On selflessness and the perplexity of selfishness
‘This fellow,’ said the little prince to himself, as he continued on his travels, “would be laughed at by all others: by the king, by the conceited man, by the drinker, by the businessman. However, he is the only one who does not seem to me ridiculous. Perhaps that is because he is preoccupied with something rather than himself.”
3. On seeking pleasure in the smallest things
You see the fields of corn? Well, I don’t eat bread. Corn is of no use to me. Corn fields remind me of nothing. Which is sad. On the other hand, your hair is the colour of gold. So think how wonderful it will be when you have tamed me. The corn, which is golden, will remind me of you. And I shall come to love the sound of the wind in the field of corn…
4. On loving because she/he is yours to love
The little prince went of to look at the roses again.
“You are nothing like my rose,” he told them. “As yet you are nothing at all. Nobody has tamed you, and you have tamed nobody. You are as my fox used to be. He was just a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But I made him my friend, and now he is unique in the world.”
And the roses felt uncomfortable.
“You are beautiful, but you are empty,” he went on.
“One could not die for you. Of course, an ordinary passerby would think my rose looked just like you. But in herself she matters more than all of you together, since it is she that I watered; since it is she that I placed under the glass dome; since it is she that I sheltered with the screen; since it is she whose caterpillars I killed. Since it is she that I listened to, when she complained, or boasted, or when she was simply being silent. Since it is she who is my rose.”
5. On internal beauty
“What makes the desert beautiful,” said the little prince, “is that somewhere it is hiding a well.”
To my surprise, I suddenly understood for the first time this mysterious radiation of the sands. When I was a little boy I lived in a very old house where, according to hearsay, a treasure was buried. Of course, nobody ever discovered it, nor perhaps did they even look for it. But it cast a spell over that whole house. My home was hiding a secret in the depths of its heart.
“Yes,” I said to the little prince. “Whether it is a house, or stars, or the desert, what makes their beauty is invisible!”
6. On the most important lesson: Of heart matters
“Goodbye,” said the fox. “Now here is my secret, very simply: you can only see things clearly with your heart. What is essential is invisible to the eye.”
“It is the time you have wasted on your rose that makes your rose so important.”
“People have forgotten this truth,” said the fox. “But you must not forget. You become responsible, for ever, for what you have tamed. You are responsible for your rose.”
There is no more question that Edward loves Bella like she was the world. Didn't he stage his own death from the Volturi when he thought Bella was dead? What i'm curious about is this: do we, perfect women that we are , realize why Edward loves Bella the way he does? And if we do realize what makes Bella worthy of such eternal love from the perfect Edward Cullen, are we willing to BE Bella?
For those who have no idea what I'm talking about, indulge me as i go through some of Bella's qualities:
> Bella is shy, never wanting to draw attention to herself.
> Bella is self sacrificing, always taking care of the people she loves the most, way before herself. She'd rather face death to make sure her mother does not get hurt, and offer her own death to the Volturi just to spare the man she loves
> Bella is so selfless and unconsumed by beauty, she also is a fighter. But her fights are not about trying to assert her rights as an equal of a man. She fights, in her own quiet way, to give up her own perfection (coz Edward sees her being human as that), so she can be with the man she loves for all eternity.
And towards the end of the saga, for all those who have not yet read The Eclipse or the Breaking Dawn, Bella would always be Bella, ever the protector, and ever the first one to put herself out there, for the people she loves.
Times have changed for many women around the globe over the years. Now, you'll see most women go for self gratification first, before self sacrifice. In these days and times, women want to be equal to men. Marriages, children, are delayed to make way for careers, for success, and for financial security. Nothing wrong with that as long as the woman knows why she's making those her priority.
I'm just starting to wonder, are we the ones confusing ourselves in the end? Do we want the love, or the success? Do you have to sacrifice one for the other? Or can women have their cake and eat it, too?
Are you willing to Be Bella?
Dating site like Connecting Singles I think worked well for some, and it's completely free. Although I am new here, I am now starting to chat and talk to some friends. While most are really nice others are just playing around.
I just always need to tell myself to remember that online people are not always what they say they are and worst some people even post photos of other “beautiful and handsome people” that they claim they are!!
Why can’t we be just real and unpretentious.
Feel free to share to me your advice, tips and maybe experiences that others may learn from you.
Thanks!!
Don't get me wrong. I have a lot of people loving me (mom, dad, friends, and etc etc) I just want to share this to everyone in CS who feels alone, unloved and betrayed. You've got a friend here!! :-)
1. Gather a “praise pile”..awards you have won, recognitions you received and kind words from others.
2. Give up on something worth dropping! Don't burden your life with memories, people or events not worth keeping
3. Find something worth fighting for..a passion, a cause and hobby. You will sure love yourself more as you see yourself growing from this passion
4. Celebrate your similarities and differences. love your uniqueness ad do what's right for you :-)
5. Be brave about what you really like. Do not try to measure up or copy what others are up to.
6. It's ok to be a little selfish. You've got to be strong before you can strengthen others..
7. Write a guide helping others. Like this blog in CS..express yourself and you will see how much impact you can do to others and they will LOVE you for it!!
To be happy with a man..
you must understand him a lot
and love him a little.
To be happy with a woman..
you must love her a lot
and not try to understand her at all
Wife: 'What are you doing?'
Husband : Nothing.
Wife : 'Nothing...? You've been reading our marriage certificate for an hour.'
Husband : 'I was looking for the expiry date.'
Wife : 'Do you want dinner?'
Husband : 'Sure! What are my choices?'
Wife : 'Yes or no.'
Wife: 'You always carry my photo in your wallet. Why?'
Hubby: 'When there is a problem, no matter how impossible, I look at your picture and the problem disappears.'
Wife: 'You see how miraculous and powerful I am for you!'
Hubby: 'Yes! I see your picture and ask myself what other problem can there be greater than this one?'
Girl: 'When we get married, I want to share all your worries, troubles and lighten your burden.'
Boy: 'It's very kind of you, darling, but I don't have any worries or troubles.'
Girl: 'Well that's because we aren't married yet.'
Girl to her boyfriend: One kiss and I'll be yours forever .
The guy replies: 'Thanks for the early warning
A newly married man asked his wife, 'Would you have married me if my father hadn't left me a fortune?'
'Honey,' the woman replied sweetly, 'I'd have married you, NO MATTER WHO LEFT YOU A FORTUNE!'
A wife asked her husband: 'What do you like most in me, my pretty face or my sexy body?'
He looked at her from head to toe and replied: 'I like your sense of humor!"
I have a good question/topic that I have been debating for sometime & could use others opinion...
Which one is more important to you...looks or personality?
I used to be attracted to a man and will fall right away because he is good looking. I didn't let it bother me that he didn't have a stable job or that he was chasing after dreams without a plan to make them come true. Love will conquer all!
Now I'm a little wiser and I feel like this time around, much more than looks…stability and personality is perhaps much more important. Maybe that's what happen when you grow up, it squashes your dreams of the "prince on a white horse coming to rescue the fair maiden from the tower”.
For you what is more important...Good Looks or Personality
I'm sure much has been written on this before, but I think the subject is worth discussing..
How do you define rebounding?
I tend to think of it as getting involved with a new person after a breakup to avoid dealing with the pain, loneliness, and confusion caused by the breakup.
By that definition, as long as a person has fully recovered the loss of the original relationship, the next relationship would not be a rebound...right?
However, it's also possible that getting involved with a new person before you really have a sense of what you want from a new relationship could also be considered rebounding.
So I guess the question is, is it necessary to have that long period of singleness after a breakup to avoid a potential "rebound" relationship", or not?
Any thoughts?
I am a dog lover so enjoy, reflect..^_^
1. Allow the experience of fresh air & the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.
2. When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
3. When it is in your best interest, practice obedience.
4. Let others know when they have invaded your territory.
5. Take naps and stretch before rising.
6. Run, romp, and play daily.
7. Eat with gusto and enthusiasm.
8. Be loyal.
9. Never pretend to be something you are not.
10. When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently.
11. Thrive on attention and let people touch you.
12. Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.
13. On hot days, drink lots of water and lay under a shady tree
What is so scary about spinsterhood?
Doesn't every family have that cool spinster aunt that everyone is jealous of, because she just got back from rock climbing in Nepal or swimming the Maldives
It's very natural to have fears of being alone but I am a big believer in taking time.
More time means more options
More options mean better chances to make good decisions.
Are you scared to be single for long?
I am taught to be polite …and I guess that’s a common qualities of most Thais like me. So when it comes to rejecting or declining some man who contact me, I also try to be nice.
But some people can be so really mean… especially some race (I don’t want to be biased or racist so prefer not to mention) but I noticed there is this particular group of man that is so sensitive when you reject them and they become so annoying. Do you also experience the same?
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