Second chances!

From a distance, the worst scenario, the woman you love confides that she has been seeing someone else! What do you do.

(i) Well you look back at the time together and see if it can be overcome, by that I mean is the love that you have stronger than the affair. If not then ask yourself the following question.

(ii) What was it about this new relationship that did not exist in your current relationship, listen carefully to answers, if the answers are all directed that you didn't do this, or you didn't to that, then that is asure sign that all blame is being assigned to you, yet the person who has had the affair is deflecting everything away from her.

(iii) You think about your kid(s), why are they always the one to suffer. How do you get them through a break up, and give them the confidence and the mask underneath what is really going on? Is a child enough to save a relationship.

(iv) You remember your marriage vows, let what God has created no man destroy, those words are powerful, even for non believers. When we marry we no longer exist separately but as one, or so we are told.

I have been asking myself all of the above for about 8 months now, this is what I go through every day. Some differences exist, this is not an affair because my partner is still living with this 'guy'.
I worked very long hours, and I guess in hindsight I could have listened more, but I can't accept that people have affairs over this. Usually when I get home after a 14 hour work day & travel I am shot totally. I do regret not working closer to home, but this is what keeps food on the table, and a lovely home.
I would have considered therapy, but two things keep going against it, firstly the other guy is still involved. Secondly why share the blame between two, I mean a lot of blame is given to me, yet I go home every day to an empty house, the therapy option has been open for a long long time! But I never realised it was so serious that my wife would cheat behind my back.
And theres a child involved, a child I don't see as often as I would like. Can someone tell me what is that all about, the mother of the child cheats on her family, and yet I am prevented from seeing my child, our court system and the right of the father is prehistoric. There is actually good fathers out there, and I am fighting for more rights for my child.
The marriage vows, and all the photos, and all the freinds that celebrated with us, I feel we cheated them somehow. Anyone reading this want to have any opinions then I would be glad if you shared them!