Sad Story II
Yesterday I posted a blog about one of my brother calling me and telling me that Mom was found in a pool of blood 20 years ago.All my brothers and sisters hide that fact from me until last Sunday. Now my brother is driving me crazy calling me from New York inviting himself to live with me. After 20 years, I can't believe this is happening. He has 8 children all men and women, I have none, but I don't like the idea to recieving him after so many years. And I don't like the way he is doing this. He told me be prepared cause
I'm going down to live with you. Ok, he's my brother 2 years older so I couldn't find the way to tell him, you can't do that
just like that. Any advise PLEASE.
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but this one is for real. I don't know how to tell my brother no
you can't come to my place.
live, and he's doing this without an invitation.
now...so he is coming by himself.
and he said, good we can go together. I thought I was crazy
but he is crazier than me. He asked me, how many bedrooms do
you have, how many beds. I mean he is completly nut. I won't
do a thing like this to a sibling after so many years. That's
what really bothering me.
For the last 20 years he never contacted me until last Sunday.
My guess is, now his siblings got married he got divorced and
now he is feeling alone. I'm alone myself but I'm not bothering
my brothers and sisters.
Bungallow your mestake was that you tell him ur alone, you should tell him my gf from Europe come stay with me some time and i want be alone with her. That can be a good escuse
By the way my parents house was sold long time ago.
Now I have my own place and he knows it. And I pretty sure
he got my cell# from my younger brother.
going to ask for your address. Then next called the first
thing he did was to ask me for my address...what a dummkopft
I am, I gave it to him.
I'm going to tell him exactly that. Sorry for him, when he
left to New York he didn't say good bye anyway.
Thank you.
Mongolia here I come.
you don't know my brother...when I told him I only have
one bed and no sofa he said, don't worry I'll sleep
on the floor.
But they cannot argue the word NO away - they will die trying.
We were 7 siblings one passed away. All of them got married
and have children except me. When our parents were getting
older and sick I asked for help to my siblings. I was living
with my parents and working so I really need it their help.
They told me, you are the one still single and living with
them.You have to take care of because now they are older.
I said ok, but we are seven I'm not their only son I need
your help. Their answer was we have our own families and you
have no children. This is a family affair and I wanted to share
with you people. Now you can see how I feel about my family.
Ask our friend, "Pinky", very nicely to send you an email - inviting you over to come an live in Germany.
Forward to you brother - problem is solved!
Do not lie or make up any story because it will eventually be found out and then you will have to make more lies and excuses . Jusy simply tell him that after 20 years you now hear from him and that wanting to live with you is not a good idea .
It is your house and your life and if you can't say no or take charge of the situation then suffer the effects of your indicision . Once you say no then no matter how many times it is rejected you still have the option to say no .
If you do not deal with this now or take charge you will have to deal with the after effects from now on . The choice is yours .