Why are all the really attractive ones “waaaaaay o

Have you ever noticed that most, if not all of the people you see on this website who are, at least to you, the most attractive and desirable ones, always seem to live “waaaaaay over there“. What I mean by “waaaaaay over there”, is that they live about a million miles away...actually it’s probably more like thousands, or many hundreds of miles away, but it might as well be a million miles away.

Some of us have jobs that may pay most of our bills and even allow us some leisure time, but it probably doesn’t pay enough to include regular weekend getaways from here (Kingston) to there (California, BC, Eastern Europe, Asia etc.) to visit someone you or I met or saw online.

For instance, I just ran a fairly picky search but didn’t specify distance. And there you have it, gorgeous woman after gorgeous woman. At least gorgeous women to my eye and mind. You see, like most of you, I actually do read care about what people have to say in their profiles. Compatibility and commonalities are as important as appearance.

Anyway, getting back to the superficial - namely gorgeous women “waaaaaay over there“. The list is like this, based on my own personal, subjective criteria. I see a dazzling blonde from the UK, a stunning red head from Germany, a real beauty from California, another stunning blonde from Arizona, a total knock-out brunette from where else? BC. Then there is the “like oh my gawd” exquisite blonde from Bulgaria. Yeah, there are a few hundred more from all over the planet, but I think you get my drift.

And before anyone jumps all over me complaining that I’m just not paying enough attention to the lovely ladies from my own area let me set that record straight. We all know about “chemistry” even if some of us failed it in high school. There are biased reasons we pick the ones we pick and we have no control over that. It’s not a slight to anyone in particular, local or other wise, its just the way we’re wired.

Having said all of that, we (mostly me) have some really superficial reasons we select one human over another. One of the mixtures of selective groupings for me is - Blonde (see paragraph 4), west coast Canada (style), tall (as opposed to short), thin(ish) but not skinny, a little make-up but not too much (I like to actually see who I’m with), smart and creative without being arrogant about it, non-religious and preferably petless (yeah, I’ve made my choice - godless and dogless), and finally, and most importantly - a willingness to talk to me.

All the other stuff like personality convergences and conflicts, strengths and weaknesses, s*xual preferences and freedoms, and so on, are discovered when two people spend enough time together to learn about each other. That’s the problem with most the attractive ones being “waaaaaay over there“, we never have the time to really get to know each other.