unconditional conditions
people who use the words, unconditional love, like they're offering something different, special. if people were to go around believing unconditional, actually practicing it, being it, then there would be no reason for dating sites. we wouldn't be here. the word unconditional means, no conditions. and i've noticed those who say it seem to have something in common; all the conditions they list in their profiles.most non-smokers would rather not be with a smoker. that's a condition. nobody wants to be with an alcoholic, another condition. weight seems to be an issue for most, more conditions. and referencing those things, some will assume i smoke, drink, and looking for a model, or i might be overweight. all would only be assumptions. how easy to do online. you could have already passed over, the right one, simply because of assumption. do we treat people like this in everyday life? it does seem to reflect that way.
what we look like. photos, without one, it's hard to get a response. people say, no photo no response. another condition. you're either hiding something, or you're not attractive. more conditional assumptions. with all the conditions people have, it's no wonder there are so many people....looking. i laugh because, they honestly don't know what it is, they look for. they're blind to it, wouldn't know it if it slapped them, because of their own conditions. and when they do think, they found it, it falls apart.
conditions represent our fears, our judgments. love, real love, all the aspects of, for all the right reasons, knows no condition. if people were to practice what they preach, regardless of who they might run into, it might change their lives. are you nice to the cashier, even though they might of made a mistake? do you hold the door, for anyone? who are you if you treat people like shit, anyone, but turn and say, you love someone, or you're looking for it? love, is not treating one person special, and another like shit, just because you don't like something about them.
and it seems, the more real someone is, the harder it is to find the real thing. everyone seems to be looking for something prepackaged with a list of ingredients, things that don't exist in the definitions of love.
unconditional love. hmm. most i've run into in the last 8 yrs, don't even comprehend the meaning of gratitude, let alone, what unconditional love means. if they knew love, they wouldn't say, unconditional. there'd be no reason to say it.
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interesting read, i like it.. read it twice
Smoker, rare maybe but still in existence
Good to see you again pal.
I have to disagree to a small degree on a fathers love.
I have only "unconditional" love for my children that i have not bartered for.
Maybe i am lucky, as i have raised my kids on my "pat malone" (al;one) for the past 20+ years.
They are all adults now leading their own lives and i would hope that the love they return to me is "unconditional".
As for "unconditional" love outside of family, i agree it can be a very rare thing indeed.
I think everything has to be a 2 way street and people have to have similar values and outlook in life to make something work for any length of time.
For you I can make some exceptions
I know your one in a million mate, and I say that as its written !
But dont you think there are times when you have to put on a stern face and hide your love for a moment, perhaps as a show of lets say tough love. Surly the aim of this show of tough love is to meet a condition. ie dont do it again or so forth. This does not mean their is no love rather that you wont be blind blinded by it.
how about you what have you been doing? or did you claimed The Hill of Tara?
When I reached the top of the hill, there was no room. It was full
of eurocrats eating crackers and drinking wine
She said her parents loves her unconditional, however, I asked, if she were a spoil kid, would her parents still love her? the answer was yes, 2 years later, her parents wanted her marries with someone as they thought it would good for her future, she rejected, for this reason her parents rejected to see her too! When I talked about this with my westerner co-worker, she was quite surprised and didn't understand why on earth there are parents could reject their kid for such reason. Well, with my tradition, this situation happens not only with that friend.
That story was long time ago since I was younger at university, however, until my ages now and for all experience in life that I had, I think unconditional love does exists! For example, my neighbor, she was 40s, her husband was 50s since last 2 years, back to about 10 ago, her husband got sick and can't walk by himself, she takes care of him everyday until he passed away. Everyday she feed him, cleaned him and talked with him. In my country it is very easy getting a maid for doing all of these things with low cost, but she said she prefers to take care of him by herself even she had to be busy with her job for earn money to support her family, she was not poor, she has maid but the maid just need to help with other house-works. I do think this is unconditional love. Otherwise, it hard for me to understand why she had to take care of her husband that way, especially when I looked at the way she cares for him, the only exactly thing I can say is full of love.
It was kind of difficult for me to understand why she didn't share the job of caring for her husband with her maid, as to me I can understand that she should still love him, still talk to him everyday but if letting the maid clean him, feed him then it will help her save a lot of time. However, that was before the time I met my crocodile, after a certain time with my crocodile, I was fully understand why that neighbor wanted to maximize what she could do for her husband.
In your life, if you ever have chance to meet a person who you feel you willing do whatever you can just to make that person be happy, I call that's unconditional love. And I think there are not so many people lucky experienced this. Normally, people will set up a list of "to be with me you have to (or must) have those and these..." perhaps that is the easiest way to have a life companion. But love in my definition is something different, and when its calls love, mean always without condition! Just my opinion anyway.
I think i understand what you are saying.
At times it may have been tuff love as you say, but am i not still giving that tuff love "unconditionaly?
I guess my imperssion of giving unconditional love is that there are no conditions what so ever.
we give tuff love when needed because we love. They may have done something wrong to get the tuff love, but it is still love.
Not sure i am making sense.
Sorry.
Its all subjective at this point. that's the thing about love isn't it. its subjective dont you think.
That's another can of worms
Its good to be back. How are you keeping
How true that is.
Great to see you back around.
How's your boys. All well I hope.
Here's to Love be it conditional or unconditional.
To each his own.
there is unconditional love and also there is conditional love...
family, unconditional love but for someone I hv condition to be mine, with understanding, tolerance, etc.. to make the condition become easier...
very good blog and discussion.. I like to read all comments...
Who among us can show such unconditional love?
Aside from an American soldier or sailor or anyone who wears a uniform for their country there is no greater unconditional love
for totally ungrateful people in the world