why God allows pain and suffering

There is a lot of pain and suffering in this world, and sometimes it seems that God just sits back and watches and doesn’t care. Why is that? I don’t know if we’re ever going to find an answer to that question while we’re still alive, but I’d like to give my opinion.

Most people want to be able to have money to pay for their kids college, enough to pay bills and go on vacation once a year. They want to be happy and not have problems. They want to have good health. I’m no different than everyone else. Doesn’t it make sense that God would want the same for us? I don’t think He necessarily does, because He wants more than that for us!

Dr. Larry Crabb is a best-selling author, counselor and psychologist. He’s written many popular books including “Inside Out”, “Finding God”, and “The Marriage Builder”. I’ve read some of his books and liked them, though the ones I read were really deep and kind of hard to digest.

I read a book by Larry Crabb recently that was quite different from the other’s that I’ve read by him before. This book was called “Shattered Dreams - God’s Unexpected Pathway to Joy”, and I think it was different because it was something that Dr. Crabb had personally experienced and very intimately touched him. The book was much easier to follow, in my opinion, than the others I had read by him.

Most people believe that joy and happiness are the same thing. If we have material things to make us comfortable such as a big house, a new car, a great job than we’ll have joy. Maybe having a loving husband or wife and obedient children is what’s necessary. But while those things might make us happy, they don’t necessarily lead to joy.

God wants us to find joy in a different place - in relationship with Him. If you can achieve that relationship and still have the above-mentioned happiness, that’s great! I don’t think they are necessarily exclusive of each other. After all, God does want us to have good things. The Bible says “If you know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!”.

However, quite often when we have the happiness, we either become content or we get so wrapped up in keeping that happiness intact that we don’t see the need to find the time for that relationship with God. It is in these times that God might allow some pain to come into our life to draw us closer to him. It’s at these times that many of us tend to do what we can to minimize that pain, basically because it hurts!

Larry Crabb tells us in “Shattered Dreams” that we need to experience that pain and not try to minimize it or turn away from it if we’re going to experience the joy that God desires us to have, and that we really hunger for in our hearts. This is no fun, but the bottom line is that’s it’s the only path to experiencing true joy. After reading this book, I believe that this is why God allows pain and suffering and why bad things happen to good people.


By Matt Hellstrom