AM I MAD,PLEASE HELP!!!

a year ago,something horrid happenened to me and hopin my ex who had become a good friend did not support me instead supported the perosn who hurt me who he had known only for 6mths.i had 3 yr fiendship with my ex..recently i started textin him,we havent mentioned the horrid past jus bein friendly.i said is this mad to b textin and not talkin,he said that was my decision 2 end it??????????????????
should i just stop this...i still care for him but he wasnt ther for me when i wanted it the most. should i let go.please help.he only works 2 doors up from me...........dunno confused blues
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You need to know where your ex's heart is now, if he would support you in the future or hurt you that badly again.

If nothing has changed, it is hard to stop loving old flames, but you need someone you can trust for a real relationship and to protect your heart. As he was not there for you when you truly needed him, he didn't really care for you then. We support and protect those we love.

You need to talk about this matter with him and understand what happened, be assured things will be different as he apologizes for failing you, or you will be taking a very big chance on further hurt. Even then it is just words until they are proven. At this point, he doesn't seem to know why it ended, not a good sign for his sensitivity to you.

Bottom line: you won't be able to push this under the rug.

Talk to him.
May be he also felt missing you in person. So, take a second chance to talk him frankly and friendly, You will get an answer yourself.

Avoid to remember the past while talking to him, then May God bless you and Guide you to get back your happiness
Why did he support somebody else and not you ?

and if he wasn't there for you when you needed it the most....

Will he be there for you the next time ?

That's the questions to answer.

And you'll have yours.


good luck
You need to support yourself in moments like that..

Do not depend on those around you for your happiness,sadness or support.

All theses things lie within you.

If you relay on YOU.....You won't be let down.

Resentment is a disease of the heart!

hug
wow thanks to everyone for support.much appreciated,will get bac to ye when sorted or not..............teddybear
u are right of course,to b honest think i know he cannot b trusted agian as it was a huge deal....yes the answer lies within...tateddybear
If he didnt make the effor then he wont now, your not lookin at the reasons you ended it, if it wasnt right then why would it be now, move on to someone who will be there for you and will back you up when you need him
Only I can to send a GOOD LUCK in all that what happen to you just now!
Take care...Am here for YOU!help
.........Hmmmmmmmmmmmm....Lets put this way,shall we.....Is there such a thing as a 'Sane' Western European Woman anymore.???..grin devil devil

J.D grin devil
you txted him ,hes being friendly your reading more into it than there is hes moved on seems you havnt doh
ur not gettin my point ,i dont want him back jus to trust him as a friend again but i know i cant so told him so and wished him well.I have moved on too jus had a moment of weakness..doh
Miss,

Trust is the foundation of all good relationships, without it there is no relationship...Stop texting him, seriously...men always want something they can't have...
its v hard but i did it for over a yr ,got back in touch cause of a family situation,he saw the way my sibling used to treat me yrs ago and i didnt believe him then,but now it turns out he was right all along..this is why i contacted him,he was v supportive but because of our past,cant stop myself,he was the one,havent met anyone that came close..............help
Just be friends and see what comes from it....
Ime sorry to say this but you cant be a good friend with an ex partner! Its to compliated. He doesnt care 4 you that much eigther! Other wise he would have stuck by you,no matter what! He sounds like a user,give him the finger and find a guy who will protect you n support you. Its your choice,gud luck.thumbs up
now im confused.....dunno
just move on. he will only hurt you again and you deserve better bouquet
ok will do ,ur right,jus wated confirmantion from a guy//....wave
I think it's important to realize that YOU started texting him. Yes. You may still care, but the fact is that you've basically indicated to him that it was ok what he did in the past. By not bringing it up, you've also allowed him not to have to answer for not being there for you. At times like this, when or hearts are weak or lonely, we need to rely on friends from the outside. Please note that you texted him. He may care about you; but not long term or enough to be there for you when things get tough. You've answered your own question.... Let it go! I would imagine that you're probably feeling lonely; and, by having him text you back probably allows you to think "Well, maybe he does care".... he might; but, you've initiated it and you're setting yourself up. Men know how to get in touch with woman; let it be him that calls or texts you. You're doing yourself more harm than good by texting him. His texting you back is only that; texting you.
thanks for all the support.Iv ceased texting him.Im moving on..teddybear
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