Ok so the ex talks to my teen and tells him to make any man that might come into my life hightail it by hating him and being mean. Well hell that isn't fair one bit! What should I do? Keep any possibilities away from him? Phew this is gonna be a relationship killer is it not.
As for your son,you need to have a heart to heart with him,and let him honestly know whats going on with mom,and that he is,and will always be number one to you,but like him,you need time for yourself.Let hime know your "dating",not having anyone move in.
It should be your son that tells your ex to grow up and speak up on your behalf. He's asking your son to make you unhappy and spy on you, and I am sure that is the last thing your son wants in your life.
If they still have a close relationship (your ex and your son) then there is got to be some boundries set...meaning your son does not get involved with your personal affairs with your ex. And if your ex has a problem with that then he shouldn't be allowed to see your son (unless he's the father). Because your ex is trying to keep a book open that you already shut, and it's unhealthy for your family if this keeps going on.
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