Need advice after two dates!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (27)
greeneyedgal19706 Threads 410 Postsok people's, here is the thing. I meet a guy friday, we have spend three days together and his X girlfriend calls twice.....once driving here and once when he was here at my apt......what should i do????? drop it or ask questions.....seeing little red flags.......
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Need you ask ? Paws
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yep, what he said, you already know, or else you wouldn't be asking, always trust your instincts...
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Any guy who takes a phone call from his X girlfriend while on a date with another ... is not, I repeat, not over her yet. Flags don't get anymore red than that.
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Honey, ask questions, lots of them. Paws
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no to all of ur ?'s. from what i have heard and seen they were together for like 2 yrs and then about 3 or 4 months ago, left her.
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You are so welcome. But read what Belushi said. Paws
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i would be all over that...my first question running through my head would be..are they really broken up? is he cheating on her? I definitely would be asking questions...when seeing red flags don't ignore them...
good luck
good luck
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oh my...why do people do that? they are only fooling themselves....
you spent the last three days together , you obviously are getting along well.. but maybe step back a bit from the situation and see what happens, there are just too many question marks by the sound of it right now... you dont deserve the possibility of getting hurt... keep in touch though , cause like i said three days together you have a connection, but i would just get some clarity on his past before you go too far and emotion gets involved
you spent the last three days together , you obviously are getting along well.. but maybe step back a bit from the situation and see what happens, there are just too many question marks by the sound of it right now... you dont deserve the possibility of getting hurt... keep in touch though , cause like i said three days together you have a connection, but i would just get some clarity on his past before you go too far and emotion gets involved
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tell him it is either me or your girlfriend.
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I guess it depends on how much you like him.
No, thats crap .. it doesnt ... ignore that.
It depends on how much you trust him. By asking him about this stuff, you are guaranteed to get an answer. If it is the answer that assuages your nagging feelings then fine. But if it raises more questions, then I would be honest with him and say
"Look, buddy boy, what would you feel like if the positions were reversed?"
Say to him,that you feel uncomfortable with his ex, continuously ringing him. Again, whats he gonna do? Run? Stay? Either of these gives you a clearer indication of his intentions.
To answer your question ...
If it had only been three days, then I would not be having an issue with it. But thats me. There are personal issues, that I should not ask about your three days (if you get my meaning) but if you have gotten personal, then you then have a right to start asking this stuff.
If it has been meeting up for three days on the trot for outings, and trips, then I dont think you have the right to question this guy about his past, yet.
But me? I dont get phased by this stuff. If she took phone calls from an ex, on a proper date - dinner (intimate stuff) not like around the zoo in the afternoon. Then I would also have to ask.
Tricky one, I admit, but communication is paramount ... you dont ask, you dont get.
Good luck
No, thats crap .. it doesnt ... ignore that.
It depends on how much you trust him. By asking him about this stuff, you are guaranteed to get an answer. If it is the answer that assuages your nagging feelings then fine. But if it raises more questions, then I would be honest with him and say
"Look, buddy boy, what would you feel like if the positions were reversed?"
Say to him,that you feel uncomfortable with his ex, continuously ringing him. Again, whats he gonna do? Run? Stay? Either of these gives you a clearer indication of his intentions.
To answer your question ...
If it had only been three days, then I would not be having an issue with it. But thats me. There are personal issues, that I should not ask about your three days (if you get my meaning) but if you have gotten personal, then you then have a right to start asking this stuff.
If it has been meeting up for three days on the trot for outings, and trips, then I dont think you have the right to question this guy about his past, yet.
But me? I dont get phased by this stuff. If she took phone calls from an ex, on a proper date - dinner (intimate stuff) not like around the zoo in the afternoon. Then I would also have to ask.
Tricky one, I admit, but communication is paramount ... you dont ask, you dont get.
Good luck
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ask yourself why would x girlfriend be calling in the first place .she is a x that means she was removed.There would have been one call to let slide,but how many has he had.Sit him down ask him you will be able to tell what he is sayin by the reaction.
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not all of you will agree with this but a part of me does not want to know why she called because i kinda know.....maybe they are still together.......to make her jealous so she will come back to him.....
using me to get to her.......
well life sucks, eat lemons.
using me to get to her.......
well life sucks, eat lemons.
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no i can understand you not wanting to know the truth... "ignorance is bliss" and all... when dealing with emotions of the heart knowing the truth hurts and it just plain sucks!
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hey if ya got some boom boom out of the deal then all was not lost.I would ditch him.he is obviously a liar and maybe a cheater.
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