thewall2: Loving somebody is never a guarantee that they will love you back. Wait for love to grow in their heart,but if it doesn't,be happy that it grew in yours.Sometimes love is caring enough about somebody that you're willing to let them go....and lose them.
I really liked that Wall, that had alot of meaning
saseez: well loosing my daughter was the greatest loss and now what i have to deal with that every day im and never or will be the same person again so there has been a big loss both ways ....
Saseez, As you know my daughter passed away in '92. That truly was a loss I thought I would never heal from. But I never had time to grieve as my husband was injured 3 months later and it was so bad he was never able to work again which broke my heart.I took care of him and loved him even more which I did not think was possible. He passed in '03 and my Mom 6 months later. The loss was so intense and the anger and pain that I had to hide from people got to be more than I wanted to endure. I decided to end my life, but my Creator had other plans for me. As I was ready to drive off that cliff at a high rate of speed a very vivid picture of my 3 grandbabies crying over their grandpas casket came into clear view and I hit the brakes ans skidded to a stop. Does it still hurt? Oh yes days when I have to force myself out of bed but I smile as each new day begins and I say life is good and worth living.
I admire you Saseez and your strength. We have endured what it is to love and have to let that person go, but they will forever remain in our hearts and memories.
We think life is hard and we are suffering, wonderful people step in and remind us how little we know of life and death. Thank you ladies for bringing me back from a dark place.
RobertC2: Words are easy............ putting what you know is right into practice is harder - and what you say is conflicting.
You say to imagine what you want and it'll happen......... what if you want something back that you lost but are prepared to work very hard to get what you lost back?
You see - you can love somebody but if they have lost their love for you or still love you but have reasons to pretend you are dead then you're banging your head against a brick wall - right?
Letting go is what you also advise.
You can't have what you want more than anything in the world and also let go - you have to change what you want......... and that requires reprogramming a stubborn brain!
Also ROBERT...a friend of mine wanted his girlfriend back AFTER THEY seperated. I SAID ,''Do you love her?''
He said,''Of course I LOVE HER!''
I said ''THEN Let her go.If she loves you, she'll come back, if she doesn't,the best GIFT you can give her is distance.''
He didn't want to hear that,but he knew that I was right.
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it brought a lump to my............. er....... throat!
~gulp~