Do any of you feel this way? (32)
RobertC2: I had a REALLY STRONG long-distance relationship. It lasted just over a year. The reason it didn't work out had nothing to do with the distance.
It didnt work out. DId it You dont know if distance made a difference or not because that options never happend . Your right I dont know the details but you can not be sure either.------ This thread is Archived ------
I don't understand how you define long distance. 
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avecaim: I can only do 1 THING at a time I admire people who can work two jobs but I would want my husband home with me and the kids at night--he can like 2 jobs but really I only want him to work one. That's best for marriage and family.
I'm with you.. Families and relationships are unions not occational gatherings. HOpe I read you right. 
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RobertC2: I had a REALLY STRONG long-distance relationship. It lasted just over a year. The reason it didn't work out had nothing to do with the distance.
I too, have had a couple successful long distance relationships. I say successful because we are still friends to this day. In one of those relationships, he could not handle the distance. That's why I say, it takes very strong, confident people to make it works.
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lookin4ubabe: I too, have had a couple successful long distance relationships. I say successful because we are still friends to this day. In one of those relationships, he could not handle the distance. That's why I say, it takes very strong, confident people to make it works.
The maximum time we were apart was five weeks - normally the longest was three weeks........... but if things had been as they are now in my life we'd have not wanted to spend more than a maximum of 80% together as we both needed space.
Being apart for a few weeks at a time really did mean that out times together (whether a long weekend, ten days or a 16 day cruise) were fantastically romantic - until the last day when it all ended.
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avecaim: I don't understand how you define long distance.
Long distance is further away than walking/shouting distance!
I'd define it as far enough away that you have to fly to see each other and live in different countries.
The reason some work is that if both parties are committed to each other there is total security - my ex and I booked flights to visit each other MONTHS in advance......... she even had a flight booked out here yesterday but I don't think she came some how!
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Good4U2: OKay I will be the bad guy... I must say I am suprised at the number of folks who like the idea and think its doable. Dont get offended but to me it seem more like you're speaking of friends with benefits instead of a serious relationship. Either way I dont see anything wrong with it provided both parties are in agreement,
I would expect that overtime it would either die out or one of the parties would find someone more convenient to share themselves with. After all I dont believe absense makes the heart grow fonder. Relationships to me are built on closeness and interaction with one another. To tell yourself that you can get the same benifits from phone calls and emails in my view are poor judgement. You may be able to make it work but I would think the odds are against it.
I am also wondering if you're working two jobs day and night how much of a relationship do you have with your 7 year old? Just curious.
I would expect that overtime it would either die out or one of the parties would find someone more convenient to share themselves with. After all I dont believe absense makes the heart grow fonder. Relationships to me are built on closeness and interaction with one another. To tell yourself that you can get the same benifits from phone calls and emails in my view are poor judgement. You may be able to make it work but I would think the odds are against it.
I am also wondering if you're working two jobs day and night how much of a relationship do you have with your 7 year old? Just curious.
Thanks for your comments....Often times you can become closer to a person that is farther away because you value and appreciate the time you share. Relationships are built on closeness and interactions, which I believe is doable. I am not talking permanent long distance...I am talking about while I finish my MBA and other ventures I have before me.
Thank you for your concern about my son. First of all, I am a teacher and we have exactly the same school schedule and he just comes to my classroom after school. The night time job is only on weekends (saturday and Sun)and it is a family restaurant not a bar and I am out of work by 11. He and the owners son's are best friends so I am very fortunate to be able to bring him to work with me. I have reached a point in my degree that the rest of my core classes are all online. Matthew is in bed by 8:30, I stay up til midnight or so doing homework. My children have always been my number one priority.
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avecaim: I don't understand how you define long distance.
across the state.....across the country....across the oceans....Just not here! Don't get me wrong, if i found love close by I wouldn't deny it...I'm just expressing what I prefer at this point in my life.
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Good4U2: I'm with you.. Families and relationships are unions not occational gatherings. HOpe I read you right.
I see families and relationships all the time that are constantly together and very miserable. We have over a 50% divorce rate for God sake...Families and relationships are what you make them...with what you got!
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lookin4ubabe: I see families and relationships all the time that are constantly together and very miserable. We have over a 50% divorce rate for God sake...Families and relationships are what you make them...with what you got!
Yes we do have a 50% rate maybe higher but dont blame it on being together just to make your point. We have so many other problem with regards to the family unit but being together I dont think is one of them. Living in Yakima might might be a cause. haha JK In these times relationships are far different than they were in the early to mid 1900's. I think our values have changed along with many other things. Like birth control, lowering of standard such as TV censorship, Media bombardment, lack of discipline at home and school and so on. But none of that means anything as we were speaking of long distance relationships and I still think they are more likely to fail than a relationship that is not long distance.
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Good4U2: Yes we do have a 50% rate maybe higher but dont blame it on being together just to make your point. We have so many other problem with regards to the family unit but being together I dont think is one of them. Living in Yakima might might be a cause. haha JK
In these times relationships are far different than they were in the early to mid 1900's. I think our values have changed along with many other things. Like birth control, lowering of standard such as TV censorship, Media bombardment, lack of discipline at home and school and so on. But none of that means anything as we were speaking of long distance relationships and I still think they are more likely to fail than a relationship that is not long distance.
In these times relationships are far different than they were in the early to mid 1900's. I think our values have changed along with many other things. Like birth control, lowering of standard such as TV censorship, Media bombardment, lack of discipline at home and school and so on. But none of that means anything as we were speaking of long distance relationships and I still think they are more likely to fail than a relationship that is not long distance.
I am not blaming the divorce rate on families being together and I am merely stating that you can be blissfully happy or totally miserable in any given situation....depends on your love and commitment. Hey....you been to Yakima?
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My life is very busy right now, I have a 7 year old son, I have 2 jobs ( a teacher by day....shady bartender by night..lol...not really shady.....just sounded good :) Anyway, and I am also a full time student . At the same time, I miss the intimacy of a close relationship, intelligent conversation and the comfort of knowing my guys always in my corner.
I think there is something to be said for absence making the heart grow fonder and the excitement of anticipating the next contact. I love to travel and my schedule allows a good amount of travel time. In my view, it is the best of both worlds. I can live my life, reach my goals , while enjoying the love of a good man., while he can be doing the same.
Eventually, the goal would be to be together........but just not now. The thing is....it takes really strong people to have such a relationship. I am not the jealous type and I am not a cheater and I think with trust and commitment it can be successful. Do I sound absolutely fricken crazy...or are their others that feel the same way?????
I had a REALLY STRONG long-distance relationship. It lasted just over a year. The reason it didn't work out had nothing to do with the distance.