I know I am absolutely pathetic but.... (62)
lorraine: At one stage there was 6 people living in this house, one bathroom, it was bedlam. Noise and people talking in every room. some nights their friends stayed over,jasus.
Now it's just me and my youngest. Today she is staying over in her sister's
The house is tidy, I am not stressed out fighting with her and it is QUIET.
Even though I am not quite living on my own at the moment I know how you feel.
This house was like Picadilly Circus, now it is so quiet and I have to say I miss it.
You never got to watch a tv programme because someone would always be coming in telling me this and that about their day,friends,teacher,boy or girlfriend, work, etc
Hobbies and getting out and about are ok but it's not the same is it.
Now it's just me and my youngest. Today she is staying over in her sister's
The house is tidy, I am not stressed out fighting with her and it is QUIET.
Even though I am not quite living on my own at the moment I know how you feel.
This house was like Picadilly Circus, now it is so quiet and I have to say I miss it.
You never got to watch a tv programme because someone would always be coming in telling me this and that about their day,friends,teacher,boy or girlfriend, work, etc
Hobbies and getting out and about are ok but it's not the same is it.
No it's not the same.
I feel like I don't have a function or an identity any more.
Hi Clodagh,
I do think as a Mother, you will always miss your kids. My Mum cried when I left Dublin to come over here for a while and I hadn't lived with her properly for 21 years......!
Anyways Im sure its a huge change for you as your used to running around after them.......Moms taxi, remember......lol
Given time you will get used to it and learn to appreciate parts of it........Its not all perfect but there are advantages to it.
There are a lot of organisations who actively seek volunteers........whether its working in soup kitchens or helping the homeless.......its very rewarding and will open up so many avenues for meeting new friends.
Your an intelligent and very friendly person and I know you will find clubs or organisations that will occupy your time.
Anyways last thing......get disciplined with the cooking , otherwise you will end up gorging on crap......
Luvs Ya
Vinny.
I do think as a Mother, you will always miss your kids. My Mum cried when I left Dublin to come over here for a while and I hadn't lived with her properly for 21 years......!
Anyways Im sure its a huge change for you as your used to running around after them.......Moms taxi, remember......lol
Given time you will get used to it and learn to appreciate parts of it........Its not all perfect but there are advantages to it.
There are a lot of organisations who actively seek volunteers........whether its working in soup kitchens or helping the homeless.......its very rewarding and will open up so many avenues for meeting new friends.
Your an intelligent and very friendly person and I know you will find clubs or organisations that will occupy your time.
Anyways last thing......get disciplined with the cooking , otherwise you will end up gorging on crap......
Luvs Ya
Vinny.
wexlady41: No it's not the same.
I feel like I don't have a function or an identity any more.
you will be ok wex its a bad day at the officeI feel like I don't have a function or an identity any more.
tallaght_guy: hey vinny great to see you m8
Hey Bud.......Hows life with you ?
nvosiris: Its an energy saving bulb
Are you offering to stand guard for me
Are you offering to stand guard for me
Its not the Carbon foot print I'm worried about.........
wexlady41: No it's not the same.
I feel like I don't have a function or an identity any more.
I feel like I don't have a function or an identity any more.
I think it's just difficult for us to get used to this new stage of our lives.
you have obviously done a fantastic job and now your children are finding their way. What more could we ask for, happy healthy kids, taking into the world what we spent our youth teaching them.
Do you remember in the middle of the madness you wished for some time to yourself
I do.I still have a bit to go before the young one heads off.
then I am going to rent out my house, and go live somewhere where I don't need coats or boots or umberellas or central heating.
we know its difficult but you will adjust now its me time for you time to go out enjoy yourself and find your centre again 
vinny1967: Its not the Carbon foot print I'm worried about.........
And, pray tell me your worries
nvosiris: And, pray tell me your worries
I cant sleep with the light on............
How's You ?
Thank you all for your suggestions and support.
I'm sorry for burdening you all. I needed to vent, to talk to someone. I guess I just have to suck it up and get on with it. There's no turning back the clock.
I'm sorry for burdening you all. I needed to vent, to talk to someone. I guess I just have to suck it up and get on with it. There's no turning back the clock.
See it as a step into the unknown. You'll learn more about yourself than you ever thought possible
wexlady41: Thank you all for your suggestions and support.
I'm sorry for burdening you all. I needed to vent, to talk to someone. I guess I just have to suck it up and get on with it. There's no turning back the clock.
I'm sorry for burdening you all. I needed to vent, to talk to someone. I guess I just have to suck it up and get on with it. There's no turning back the clock.
Hi Clo
Well you know from a previous thread i posted that its one of my DREADS too...when the kids are all gone..
I do think that when the time comes i will cope fine and im sure you will too...its just a matter of changing a few ways and habits
and making the most of "YOUR" time now..
You have done a fantastic job,one to be proud of so spoil YOURSELF a little bit now,it doesnt have to cost the earth..MY TIME is FREE..
HI wex,
Its not easy adjusting to a change in any routine...in your case they boys in college..change takes time and you as N said you do grow to love it.. also have you considered starting a book club with friends...not even for the books more so the company...one week it be your house the next month it would be someone elses turn!! You get to entertain and be entertained, you could suggest to your friends to bring a mate and that way you socialise and meet dif people...
Its not easy adjusting to a change in any routine...in your case they boys in college..change takes time and you as N said you do grow to love it.. also have you considered starting a book club with friends...not even for the books more so the company...one week it be your house the next month it would be someone elses turn!! You get to entertain and be entertained, you could suggest to your friends to bring a mate and that way you socialise and meet dif people...
I know its must be a hard, change always is, but look at it as a new oppertunity ...
to enjoy yourself, its now you time
to enjoy yourself, its now you time
leisure07: i have been on my own 13 years now and must admit i hated it at first but the more i self pittied bout it the worse i became mentally , i am fortunate that i work and am glad to get home some days to the peace and quiet, its what you make it but i do suggest that you endeavour to get out as much as possible ,
I agree am 28 and the only one left at home with my mother, wouldn't say I've a wide circle of mates just my work mates really couple of which I socialise with. But being young, free and single I feel it myself because all I do is work and keep in shape then come the weekends I've nothing apart from going out boozing now am looking to change that as of sunday I take my first flying lesson in the hope this will be my new hobby or career maybe, the way I see it is I feel I need more outside of the factory job and not let the years pass me by without learning something new.
So I say take that mans advice and try and get out more and mix with people, even sit down and have a good long hard think of something you might want to learn its never too late I keep trying to tell myself not too mention the motivation part. Do you live in a rural or built up area?
francie81: I agree am 28 and the only one left at home with my mother, wouldn't say I've a wide circle of mates just my work mates really couple of which I socialise with. But being young, free and single I feel it myself because all I do is work and keep in shape then come the weekends I've nothing apart from going out boozing now am looking to change that as of sunday I take my first flying lesson in the hope this will be my new hobby or career maybe, the way I see it is I feel I need more outside of the factory job and not let the years pass me by without learning something new.
So I say take that mans advice and try and get out more and mix with people, even sit down and have a good long hard think of something you might want to learn its never too late I keep trying to tell myself not too mention the motivation part. Do you live in a rural or built up area?
So I say take that mans advice and try and get out more and mix with people, even sit down and have a good long hard think of something you might want to learn its never too late I keep trying to tell myself not too mention the motivation part. Do you live in a rural or built up area?
Thanks.
I live in a rural area.
vinny1967: I cant sleep with the light on............
How's You ?
How's You ?
Thats not a problem
Have you a spare room
Clodagh, this is a complete new for new and anything new in our lives is scary. Give yourself time and it will feel better. When things change we have to give ourselves time to grieve over what has passed and then we will be ready for the next step.
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Its an energy saving bulb
Are you offering to stand guard for me