I know I am absolutely pathetic but.... (62)
i have been on my own 13 years now and must admit i hated it at first but the more i self pittied bout it the worse i became mentally , i am fortunate that i work and am glad to get home some days to the peace and quiet, its what you make it but i do suggest that you endeavour to get out as much as possible ,
wexlady41: I have never ever ever lived alone until now.
My kids are both off to college and I am having a hard time dealing with it. I am sooo proud of them and would never stand in their way or make them feel guilty or worry about me. That is not their job!
I would like some advice from any of you who live alone. I have no idea how to handle the isolation. How do you do it?
Do you cook for one? I can't be bothered.
Do you sit alone every night? How do you cope with that?
Do you feel pissed off
I need some help to see something positive in this stage of my life. I have very few friends apart from work colleagues. None of my friends or family live near enough to drop in for a chat.
I have been advised to take long baths, give myself pedicures/manicures/experiment with makeup. How will this help if nobody gets to see this new groomed me? It only emphasises the aloneness.
I have been advised to take up a hobby or join a club. I have checked with the library, online, notice boards etc and there are no clubs in my area in the evenings..everything is in the mornings for some reason.
Any help or advice would be very much appreciated.
My kids are both off to college and I am having a hard time dealing with it. I am sooo proud of them and would never stand in their way or make them feel guilty or worry about me. That is not their job!
I would like some advice from any of you who live alone. I have no idea how to handle the isolation. How do you do it?
Do you cook for one? I can't be bothered.
Do you sit alone every night? How do you cope with that?
Do you feel pissed off
I need some help to see something positive in this stage of my life. I have very few friends apart from work colleagues. None of my friends or family live near enough to drop in for a chat.
I have been advised to take long baths, give myself pedicures/manicures/experiment with makeup. How will this help if nobody gets to see this new groomed me? It only emphasises the aloneness.
I have been advised to take up a hobby or join a club. I have checked with the library, online, notice boards etc and there are no clubs in my area in the evenings..everything is in the mornings for some reason.
Any help or advice would be very much appreciated.
Aw! wexy have heard many of my friends say the same, even my sis.Isnt it a recognised condition "empty nest syndrone"
One of my friends is trying to sell her house its a beautiful 5 bedroomed house with no 1 to fill it?
Is there no colleges near that might cater for something you like?
They are all lucky enuf to have friends live near, my sis seems to be always out they organise a get 2 gether in each others house regular maybe have a curry night or something
She will always cook for herself sometimes if its something she likes she might freeze some for another day!
They do water arobics another night, god im exhausted at the thought
I think its like everything its the initial finding urself in that position
but i think as time goes by you will put things in place and manage it
Before your children, was there a time when you found yourself single? And maybe a little bit alone?
jonathan_heart: Before your children, was there a time when you found yourself single? And maybe a little bit alone?
No. I lived with my parents until the day I got married. When I left my marriage I had my kids with me. As I said.. I have never ever been alone.
I know I need to get a life of my own but I have absolutely no idea how to do that.
leisure07: i have been on my own 13 years now and must admit i hated it at first but the more i self pittied bout it the worse i became mentally , i am fortunate that i work and am glad to get home some days to the peace and quiet, its what you make it but i do suggest that you endeavour to get out as much as possible ,
I work full-time too. Although I have been off work for the past few weeks dealing with my Dad's illness... back and forward between here and Dublin.
I can't talk to my family..cos whenever I try to they think I'm moaning.
I'm not moaning..I'm looking for help, advice, a sounding board.
wexlady41: No. I lived with my parents until the day I got married. When I left my marriage I had my kids with me. As I said.. I have never ever been alone.
I know I need to get a life of my own but I have absolutely no idea how to do that.
I know I need to get a life of my own but I have absolutely no idea how to do that.
you could take up swimming if you know how.
do a nite course, go for walks, go on wknds away or holidays, i know plenty of ppl that go on holiday on there own and meet new friends while on them
start doin things that you havent tried before,
I suppose we all have to live on our own at some stage but its very daunting when it actually happens.
The local gym... great place to punch in a couple of hours and a good one will have plenty of classes to attend.
They will also design a specific programme for you ,,, if you want,,,,
ENJOY YOUR FREEDOM!!!
xx
They will also design a specific programme for you ,,, if you want,,,,
ENJOY YOUR FREEDOM!!!
xx
I lived on my own for 6 and a half years. I loved it.
I understand the cooking part. All the prep and all the washing up only to spend 5/10 mins eating.
This week and next week there are all sorts of evening classes starting. Check your local paper.
Have you thought of letting out a room?
Extra income and some company.
I understand the cooking part. All the prep and all the washing up only to spend 5/10 mins eating.
This week and next week there are all sorts of evening classes starting. Check your local paper.
Have you thought of letting out a room?
Extra income and some company.
I'm already doing a course..distance learning though. I study in my dining room so not meeting loads of people from that.
Thank you all for your ideas. Some of them I will look into..some of them I can't afford. (3 degrees don't come cheap!)
Thank you all for your ideas. Some of them I will look into..some of them I can't afford. (3 degrees don't come cheap!)
I have live on my own, in London for 10 yrs, here on and off! sometime it's great, u can do what u want, eat anytime, walk around half naked 
ect,
when i move over here first, i live with my family for 2 years, i was so use to my own space, and boyfriends and friends back, ect, sometime does get lonely, got 3 pets keep me company and my chatting to freinds online help.
ect, when i move over here first, i live with my family for 2 years, i was so use to my own space, and boyfriends and friends back, ect, sometime does get lonely, got 3 pets keep me company and my chatting to freinds online help.
i do painting, ect, and visit places, and house work, walking the dog,
dreamAngel70: i do painting, ect, and visit places, and house work, walking the dog,
or cook large pie, that last for 2 days, i love cooking, cottage pie, ectdreamAngel70: or cook large pie, that last for 2 days, i love cooking, cottage pie, ect
hey you have us so your not aloneleisure07: hey you have us so your not alone
thanks wexlady41: I have never ever ever lived alone until now.
My kids are both off to college and I am having a hard time dealing with it. I am sooo proud of them and would never stand in their way or make them feel guilty or worry about me. That is not their job!
I would like some advice from any of you who live alone. I have no idea how to handle the isolation. How do you do it?
Do you cook for one? I can't be bothered.
Do you sit alone every night? How do you cope with that?
Do you feel pissed off
I need some help to see something positive in this stage of my life. I have very few friends apart from work colleagues. None of my friends or family live near enough to drop in for a chat.
I have been advised to take long baths, give myself pedicures/manicures/experiment with makeup. How will this help if nobody gets to see this new groomed me? It only emphasises the aloneness.
I have been advised to take up a hobby or join a club. I have checked with the library, online, notice boards etc and there are no clubs in my area in the evenings..everything is in the mornings for some reason.
Any help or advice would be very much appreciated.
My kids are both off to college and I am having a hard time dealing with it. I am sooo proud of them and would never stand in their way or make them feel guilty or worry about me. That is not their job!
I would like some advice from any of you who live alone. I have no idea how to handle the isolation. How do you do it?
Do you cook for one? I can't be bothered.
Do you sit alone every night? How do you cope with that?
Do you feel pissed off
I need some help to see something positive in this stage of my life. I have very few friends apart from work colleagues. None of my friends or family live near enough to drop in for a chat.
I have been advised to take long baths, give myself pedicures/manicures/experiment with makeup. How will this help if nobody gets to see this new groomed me? It only emphasises the aloneness.
I have been advised to take up a hobby or join a club. I have checked with the library, online, notice boards etc and there are no clubs in my area in the evenings..everything is in the mornings for some reason.
Any help or advice would be very much appreciated.
I was with my x for 22+ years and there is no quick fix to living alone.
I am now over four years living alone ( Had a BF for two years but we did not live together)
Now i am so comfy in my own space, i do not know if i could share it 24/7 again.
Living alone is like any major change in our life, we grow into it and ajust to it a day at a time............... JMO
Ps. I still sleep with the light on all night now, not sure if that is habit or a comfort thing
You will be grand girl.................. just go at it a day at a time.
it takes a while wex took me a long time to cook for one after my dad passes away
and its usualy the small things you miss most
way i shop now is freeze most stuff and just shop for stuff thats persishable day or so before in local shop
and its usualy the small things you miss most
way i shop now is freeze most stuff and just shop for stuff thats persishable day or so before in local shop
nvosiris: I was with my x for 22+ years and there is no quick fix to living alone.
I am now over four years living alone ( Had a BF for two years but we did not live together)
Now i am so comfy in my own space, i do not know if i could share it 24/7 again.
Living alone is like any major change in our life, we grow into it and ajust to it a day at a time............... JMO
Ps. I still sleep with the light on all night now, not sure if that is habit or a comfort thing
You will be grand girl.................. just go at it a day at a time.
I am now over four years living alone ( Had a BF for two years but we did not live together)
Now i am so comfy in my own space, i do not know if i could share it 24/7 again.
Living alone is like any major change in our life, we grow into it and ajust to it a day at a time............... JMO
Ps. I still sleep with the light on all night now, not sure if that is habit or a comfort thing
You will be grand girl.................. just go at it a day at a time.
That will have to change........
At one stage there was 6 people living in this house, one bathroom, it was bedlam. Noise and people talking in every room. some nights their friends stayed over,jasus.
Now it's just me and my youngest. Today she is staying over in her sister's
The house is tidy, I am not stressed out fighting with her and it is QUIET.
Even though I am not quite living on my own at the moment I know how you feel.
This house was like Picadilly Circus, now it is so quiet and I have to say I miss it.
You never got to watch a tv programme because someone would always be coming in telling me this and that about their day,friends,teacher,boy or girlfriend, work, etc
Hobbies and getting out and about are ok but it's not the same is it.
Now it's just me and my youngest. Today she is staying over in her sister's
The house is tidy, I am not stressed out fighting with her and it is QUIET.
Even though I am not quite living on my own at the moment I know how you feel.
This house was like Picadilly Circus, now it is so quiet and I have to say I miss it.
You never got to watch a tv programme because someone would always be coming in telling me this and that about their day,friends,teacher,boy or girlfriend, work, etc
Hobbies and getting out and about are ok but it's not the same is it.
hey vinny great to see you m8
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My kids are both off to college and I am having a hard time dealing with it. I am sooo proud of them and would never stand in their way or make them feel guilty or worry about me. That is not their job!
I would like some advice from any of you who live alone. I have no idea how to handle the isolation. How do you do it?
Do you cook for one? I can't be bothered.
Do you sit alone every night? How do you cope with that?
Do you feel pissed off
I need some help to see something positive in this stage of my life. I have very few friends apart from work colleagues. None of my friends or family live near enough to drop in for a chat.
I have been advised to take long baths, give myself pedicures/manicures/experiment with makeup. How will this help if nobody gets to see this new groomed me? It only emphasises the aloneness.
I have been advised to take up a hobby or join a club. I have checked with the library, online, notice boards etc and there are no clubs in my area in the evenings..everything is in the mornings for some reason.
Any help or advice would be very much appreciated.