Older men... (63)
Babikins: Sooooo its pushing 1am on a rainy bleak october morning and here i am, with the usual insomnia looking about CS.
And i find myself pondering a question..
I like older men... thats a given.
I have 2 older brothers in their 30's and my circle of friends has always tended to be older than myself.
Perhaps a security thing, maybe just an attraction thing. Im not sure why but this is just how it goes...
Anyway...
Are men worried about dating younger women? Say men in their mid 30's, early 40's.
If so, what are the reasons? How would you handle the attention of a younger woman, aged maybe between 18-25?
What would be the main concerns, if any... And what can a woman do to put your mind at ease.
very good thread Bab...i hope you get plenty of replies to itAnd i find myself pondering a question..
I like older men... thats a given.
I have 2 older brothers in their 30's and my circle of friends has always tended to be older than myself.
Perhaps a security thing, maybe just an attraction thing. Im not sure why but this is just how it goes...
Anyway...
Are men worried about dating younger women? Say men in their mid 30's, early 40's.
If so, what are the reasons? How would you handle the attention of a younger woman, aged maybe between 18-25?
What would be the main concerns, if any... And what can a woman do to put your mind at ease.
I think the reason older men dont approch younger woman is the fear of rejection.
There is also the difference of lifestyle, A 20 year old woman will more than likly want to go nightclubbing (rightly so) where as an older man when he goes into a nightclub see's ppl that he remembers as babies :).
Saying all that I've dated woman both younger and older than me and all those insecurities go out the window when ur with some1 u care about
There is also the difference of lifestyle, A 20 year old woman will more than likly want to go nightclubbing (rightly so) where as an older man when he goes into a nightclub see's ppl that he remembers as babies :).
Saying all that I've dated woman both younger and older than me and all those insecurities go out the window when ur with some1 u care about
navbabe: very good thread Bab...i hope you get plenty of replies to it
Thank you sweets!
I just have this niggling feeling this is why my mail box is quiet... i think some men are cautious in this respect...
hmmm
lets hope we get great male insight!!
longford42: I think the reason older men dont approch younger woman is the fear of rejection.
There is also the difference of lifestyle, A 20 year old woman will more than likly want to go nightclubbing (rightly so) where as an older man when he goes into a nightclub see's ppl that he remembers as babies :).
Saying all that I've dated woman both younger and older than me and all those insecurities go out the window when ur with some1 u care about
There is also the difference of lifestyle, A 20 year old woman will more than likly want to go nightclubbing (rightly so) where as an older man when he goes into a nightclub see's ppl that he remembers as babies :).
Saying all that I've dated woman both younger and older than me and all those insecurities go out the window when ur with some1 u care about
Fantastic insight! Thank you
It's great when men let us know what they're thinking
See, i completely understand the idea men may have that women my age will want to go off clubbing etc. BUT...
I run a bar, i work ridiculous hours serving drinks to drunk folk, and when i do get some time off... drinking is the last thing i want to do!
Well... drinking that way is. I wouldnt say no to a nice class of shiraz by a warm fire...
Babikins: Fantastic insight! Thank you
It's great when men let us know what they're thinking
See, i completely understand the idea men may have that women my age will want to go off clubbing etc. BUT...
I run a bar, i work ridiculous hours serving drinks to drunk folk, and when i do get some time off... drinking is the last thing i want to do!
Well... drinking that way is. I wouldnt say no to a nice class of shiraz by a warm fire...
It's great when men let us know what they're thinking
See, i completely understand the idea men may have that women my age will want to go off clubbing etc. BUT...
I run a bar, i work ridiculous hours serving drinks to drunk folk, and when i do get some time off... drinking is the last thing i want to do!
Well... drinking that way is. I wouldnt say no to a nice class of shiraz by a warm fire...
Yea but I just used nightclubs as an example, ppl's priorities change as you get older and while you have a mature outlook, blokes think back to what they were like when they were 20
Besides ur dad would kill me if u brought me home
longford42: Yea but I just used nightclubs as an example, ppl's priorities change as you get older and while you have a mature outlook, blokes think back to what they were like when they were 20
Besides ur dad would kill me if u brought me home
Besides ur dad would kill me if u brought me home
Hahaha!
See, im also lucky in that respect too! My parents have always been very good with any decision i make. My ex was 36 and they got on very well with him.... shame i didnt !!!
Babikins: Thank you sweets!
I just have this niggling feeling this is why my mail box is quiet... i think some men are cautious in this respect...
hmmm
lets hope we get great male insight!!
I just have this niggling feeling this is why my mail box is quiet... i think some men are cautious in this respect...
hmmm
lets hope we get great male insight!!
to be honest i was interested myself cos when i was 23 i went out with a guy who was 52..he was older than my dad..it wasnt a father figure relationship...we just clicked...in saying that the men since then have gotten progressively younger...my ex husband is 4 years younger than me...i dont per say date younger men i just find that im fairly young in my outlook now whereas when i was in my 20s i was the opposite
i think all insight into male/female relationships is totally welcome coz lets face it people us women do think very differently than you men...i say differently not wrongly!!!! ok
navbabe: to be honest i was interested myself cos when i was 23 i went out with a guy who was 52..he was older than my dad..it wasnt a father figure relationship...we just clicked...in saying that the men since then have gotten progressively younger...my ex husband is 4 years younger than me...i dont per say date younger men i just find that im fairly young in my outlook now whereas when i was in my 20s i was the opposite
i think all insight into male/female relationships is totally welcome coz lets face it people us women do think very differently than you men...i say differently not wrongly!!!! ok
i think all insight into male/female relationships is totally welcome coz lets face it people us women do think very differently than you men...i say differently not wrongly!!!! ok
thats fascinating! so how did your family and friends handle it? did you have any problems or issues directly down to the age difference etc???
im so intrigued!
And your right... DIFFERENTLY....not wrongly
navbabe: to be honest i was interested myself cos when i was 23 i went out with a guy who was 52..he was older than my dad..it wasnt a father figure relationship...we just clicked...in saying that the men since then have gotten progressively younger...my ex husband is 4 years younger than me...i dont per say date younger men i just find that im fairly young in my outlook now whereas when i was in my 20s i was the opposite
i think all insight into male/female relationships is totally welcome coz lets face it people us women do think very differently than you men...i say differently not wrongly!!!! ok
i think all insight into male/female relationships is totally welcome coz lets face it people us women do think very differently than you men...i say differently not wrongly!!!! ok
A relationship is about more than age, as u said nav its if you click with someone thats improtant, I dated woman my age and older that I have found too imature and like wise younger woman that I have clicked with straight away. I wonce dated a woman and it was 2 mths before we discussed our ages, turned out she was 42 and I was 29, didnt change my outlook on the relationship after i found out.
navbabe: to be honest i was interested myself cos when i was 23 i went out with a guy who was 52..he was older than my dad..it wasnt a father figure relationship...we just clicked...in saying that the men since then have gotten progressively younger...my ex husband is 4 years younger than me...i dont per say date younger men i just find that im fairly young in my outlook now whereas when i was in my 20s i was the opposite
i think all insight into male/female relationships is totally welcome coz lets face it people us women do think very differently than you men...i say differently not wrongly!!!! ok
i think all insight into male/female relationships is totally welcome coz lets face it people us women do think very differently than you men...i say differently not wrongly!!!! ok
i have to agree with you there
went through my late teens and 20's always seeming to go for the older guy 
but i find since i turned into my 30's, i cant handle the older guys anymore (and men keep yer minds out of the gutter )...longford42: A relationship is about more than age, as u said nav its if you click with someone thats improtant, I dated woman my age and older that I have found too imature and like wise younger woman that I have clicked with straight away. I wonce dated a woman and it was 2 mths before we discussed our ages, turned out she was 42 and I was 29, didnt change my outlook on the relationship after i found out.
yes, i think maturity is a better indicator than the year printed on your birth certificate!
however... just seems like some men are afraid...
Babikins: thats fascinating! so how did your family and friends handle it? did you have any problems or issues directly down to the age difference etc???
im so intrigued!
And your right... DIFFERENTLY....not wrongly
oh to be honest i got ...well do you not think hes a bit old for you ...blah blah blahim so intrigued!
And your right... DIFFERENTLY....not wrongly
i said NO i really like him...he actually broke it off with me coz his youngest daughter was older than me and she kept giving him grief...even though i had her up to dinner and the whole lot and she met my son etc etc who at the time was only a 3 i was fully open to a friendship with her but she wouldnt have any of it....i still see him every now and again and he now says it was the right choice to make but i at time still think ...if only and that 16 yrs on!!!
but in saying that...if i was with him i would never had met my ex and would never have had my 2 little ones...and theres noway on this god given earth id give them up for a second...even thoughit a bit tough at the moment...they are my babies etc etc etc need i go on????????????
Babikins: yes, i think maturity is a better indicator than the year printed on your birth certificate!
however... just seems like some men are afraid...
however... just seems like some men are afraid...
Have u contacted any men on the site, why wait for them to make the first move, you would have more luck if they knew that u would b interested in chatting to them, drop them a line or send them a flower
Us men are really big softies at heart and rejection is a cruel cruel B!t*H
Babikins: yes, i think maturity is a better indicator than the year printed on your birth certificate!
however... just seems like some men are afraid...
to be honest i caaaaaan understand the older fella being afraid to date a younger woman....not only cos of family issues but cos the woman in 9 times out of 10 would be labeled a golddigga...sad to say but that the mindset of the mijority of pplhowever... just seems like some men are afraid...
longford42: Have u contacted any men on the site, why wait for them to make the first move, you would have more luck if they knew that u would b interested in chatting to them, drop them a line or send them a flower
Us men are really big softies at heart and rejection is a cruel cruel B!t*H
Us men are really big softies at heart and rejection is a cruel cruel B!t*H
yeah i have done... but no one seems particularly interested. Or very complacent in mailing me, no one bothers really..
maybe theres something wrong with my profile, or pictures
I could not see my self dating/going out with some one youger than 25. Id feel to weird about it...nearly as if i was taking advantage or something. Its not that I see anything wrong with it but i just would not feel comfortable. I have a rough guide that I will go ten years younger or older but anything beyong that would just get a bit too starnge as I find it hard to imagine our interests would be the same.
Babikins: your right, you wouldnt have your babies, and thats a love that cant be replicated by anyone, not even the love of your life.. (or so i hear ladies with babies say!)
His daughter sounds entirely unreasonable... perhaps it was a jealousy thing?
to be honest i think it was more like she thought i was looking for his money...but i was saving for my house at that time...i wasnt really going out...i had people over for dinner my social circle was a lot older than me...we used to even meet my mum and dad in the pubHis daughter sounds entirely unreasonable... perhaps it was a jealousy thing?
she just had no inclination of getting to know the real me...she had a biased idea in her head prob put there by her mum etc or whomever and never gave me a chance
as reagarding my kids...i would never be without them...but in saying that you never miss what you have never had...i would at that time.. have been happy because i already had a child and wasnt looking for more...but cest la vie
Clone: I could not see my self dating/going out with some one youger than 25. Id feel to weird about it...nearly as if i was taking advantage or something. Its not that I see anything wrong with it but i just would not feel comfortable. I have a rough guide that I will go ten years younger or older but anything beyong that would just get a bit too starnge as I find it hard to imagine our interests would be the same.
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And i find myself pondering a question..
I like older men... thats a given.
I have 2 older brothers in their 30's and my circle of friends has always tended to be older than myself.
Perhaps a security thing, maybe just an attraction thing. Im not sure why but this is just how it goes...
Anyway...
Are men worried about dating younger women? Say men in their mid 30's, early 40's.
If so, what are the reasons? How would you handle the attention of a younger woman, aged maybe between 18-25?
What would be the main concerns, if any... And what can a woman do to put your mind at ease.