a legal question (118)
LusciousLibra: I think I'm in love A guy who gets the whole idea of putting the kids first
all men grow up eventually...unfortunately its either the agreement for visitation rights or time gone by...that prevents most from being the fathers they should always have been..imobut hey!! i really think its starting to turn full circle..and that most young men want to be there and take an active part! hope i`m right...balance is essential to kids...
0ne0faKind: funny, your profile says you have no kids
and your point is?
puggle: all men grow up eventually...unfortunately its either the agreement for visitation rights or time gone by...that prevents most from being the fathers they should always have been..imo
but hey!! i really think its starting to turn full circle..and that most young men want to be there and take an active part! hope i`m right...balance is essential to kids...
but hey!! i really think its starting to turn full circle..and that most young men want to be there and take an active part! hope i`m right...balance is essential to kids...
Swoon...
0ne0faKind: Grab him quick, theres not many of them around!
trust me there are loads of us here and about..prob is not all women want the whole package! want their own kids? or the past life of another woman..imo...but tharts a whole new thread...not goin there!!! i`d lose my halo quicker than katie price loses hubbies!!!
ta for comps girls..i`m all....
puggle: all men grow up eventually...unfortunately its either the agreement for visitation rights or time gone by...that prevents most from being the fathers they should always have been..imo
but hey!! i really think its starting to turn full circle..and that most young men want to be there and take an active part! hope i`m right...balance is essential to kids...
but hey!! i really think its starting to turn full circle..and that most young men want to be there and take an active part! hope i`m right...balance is essential to kids...
No Pug they don't.
My ex has to "think about" helping out with kids college expenses every year (after I ask him 3 or 4 times). And he usually thinks it's too much to ask. I have to pay for accommodation for my kids in Dublin even though my ex lives in Dublin...he refuses to let the kids stay with him. He is nearly 50 years old and at this stage the kids want very little to do with him... despite the fact that I have done everything I could to encourage them to have a good relationship with him.
wexlady41: No Pug they don't.
My ex has to "think about" helping out with kids college expenses every year (after I ask him 3 or 4 times). And he usually thinks it's too much to ask. I have to pay for accommodation for my kids in Dublin even though my ex lives in Dublin...he refuses to let the kids stay with him. He is nearly 50 years old and at this stage the kids want very little to do with him... despite the fact that I have done everything I could to encourage them to have a good relationship with him.
i said all men!!!My ex has to "think about" helping out with kids college expenses every year (after I ask him 3 or 4 times). And he usually thinks it's too much to ask. I have to pay for accommodation for my kids in Dublin even though my ex lives in Dublin...he refuses to let the kids stay with him. He is nearly 50 years old and at this stage the kids want very little to do with him... despite the fact that I have done everything I could to encourage them to have a good relationship with him.
its obvious what hes not....
quick description imo of a man....
a protector,listener,comforter,solver and most of all...
just a big cuddly dad!!!
puggle: trust me there are loads of us here and about..prob is not all women want the whole package! want their own kids? or the past life of another woman..imo...
but tharts a whole new thread...not goin there!!! i`d lose my halo quicker than katie price loses hubbies!!! ta for comps girls..i`m all....
but tharts a whole new thread...not goin there!!! i`d lose my halo quicker than katie price loses hubbies!!! ta for comps girls..i`m all....
Is there a particular age or is it just after the kids pass 18 yrs old?
My ex wants to drop the maintenance from €50 per child down to €30 so that he can afford his bi-annual holidays. He NEVER pitches in for Christmas, school requisites, birthdays, medical fees, or anything else that might crop up that is out of the ordinary.
Also, he wants to cut the number of days he sees the kids from 1 day a week to 1 day a fortnight. That in my mind is not a Dad.
LusciousLibra: Is there a particular age or is it just after the kids pass 18 yrs old?
My ex wants to drop the maintenance from €50 per child down to €30 so that he can afford his bi-annual holidays. He NEVER pitches in for Christmas, school requisites, birthdays, medical fees, or anything else that might crop up that is out of the ordinary.
Also, he wants to cut the number of days he sees the kids from 1 day a week to 1 day a fortnight. That in my mind is not a Dad.
My ex wants to drop the maintenance from €50 per child down to €30 so that he can afford his bi-annual holidays. He NEVER pitches in for Christmas, school requisites, birthdays, medical fees, or anything else that might crop up that is out of the ordinary.
Also, he wants to cut the number of days he sees the kids from 1 day a week to 1 day a fortnight. That in my mind is not a Dad.
Im not being smart or anything but you chose to have children with this man
0ne0faKind: I had to go away for a little while and just came back and read all the posts. Thanks everyone for your input.
Petalbabe , you know what your talking about.
BiggieSmall, you have a lot to learn.
Yes he did. A Legal Seperation Agreement is just that . An Agreement between the two parties which is a legal document. It is worked out fairly according to the income and expenditure of the family, so that both parties can continue to live and obviously the one who is raising and caring for the kids has less earning power and needs more, therefore the one who earns more and does less looking after the kids has to pay more.
Thats life , thats reality . If you don't like it, dont have kids.
Petalbabe , you know what your talking about.
BiggieSmall, you have a lot to learn.
Yes he did. A Legal Seperation Agreement is just that . An Agreement between the two parties which is a legal document. It is worked out fairly according to the income and expenditure of the family, so that both parties can continue to live and obviously the one who is raising and caring for the kids has less earning power and needs more, therefore the one who earns more and does less looking after the kids has to pay more.
Thats life , thats reality . If you don't like it, dont have kids.
Im sorry but i think you do too, dirty laundry and all that. Did your ex not want to look after the kids more? Maybe he didnt, maybe he did. Sure he probably didnt have much of a choice anyways.
HashBrowns: and your point is?
just that your profile says you have no kids and here you say you have.
cant both be the truth
LusciousLibra: Is there a particular age or is it just after the kids pass 18 yrs old?
My ex wants to drop the maintenance from €50 per child down to €30 so that he can afford his bi-annual holidays. He NEVER pitches in for Christmas, school requisites, birthdays, medical fees, or anything else that might crop up that is out of the ordinary.
Also, he wants to cut the number of days he sees the kids from 1 day a week to 1 day a fortnight. That in my mind is not a Dad.
prob is there are loads of...a mans man..out there.. and not enough...HU-MAN out there...My ex wants to drop the maintenance from €50 per child down to €30 so that he can afford his bi-annual holidays. He NEVER pitches in for Christmas, school requisites, birthdays, medical fees, or anything else that might crop up that is out of the ordinary.
Also, he wants to cut the number of days he sees the kids from 1 day a week to 1 day a fortnight. That in my mind is not a Dad.
HashBrowns: Im not being smart or anything but you chose to have children with this man
yes she chose a husband...they both chose to have kids.... but he now chooses not to be a dad as much as he was being!...its for life!! remember these are the same kids that prob will bury you when ya die!!! its for life!! jmo
HashBrowns: Im not being smart or anything but you chose to have children with this man
That's a strange kind of a statement.
How are we supposed to know how a man will choose to treat his kids? Especially after a relationship ends?
In my case..he made every promise under the sun...and broke every one.
0ne0faKind: just that your profile says you have no kids and here you say you have.
cant both be the truth
cant both be the truth
It can be whatever you want it to be luv
BiggieSmalls: Im sorry but i think you do too, dirty laundry and all that. Did your ex not want to look after the kids more? Maybe he didnt, maybe he did. Sure he probably didnt have much of a choice anyways.
Life is learning all the way.
He had a choice. He chose to be one of those Dads that only sees his child once a fortnight. I never prevented him from having more access. Its his choice
Now thats enough of my dirty laundering in public.
wexlady41: That's a strange kind of a statement.
How are we supposed to know how a man will choose to treat his kids? Especially after a relationship ends?In my case..he made every promise under the sun...and broke every one.
How are we supposed to know how a man will choose to treat his kids? Especially after a relationship ends?In my case..he made every promise under the sun...and broke every one.
guess its just the luck of the draw, you can get a good one or a bad one
HashBrowns: Im not being smart or anything but you chose to have children with this man
I did... and he chose to have children with me, and then walked out before his youngest son was even fully formed in my womb.
Walked out to a lady with money enough to keep him in the alcoholic state to which he had become accustomed.
puggle: yes she chose a husband...
they both chose to have kids.... but he now chooses not to be a dad as much as he was being!...its for life!! remember these are the same kids that prob will bury you when ya die!!! its for life!! jmo
they both chose to have kids.... but he now chooses not to be a dad as much as he was being!...its for life!! remember these are the same kids that prob will bury you when ya die!!! its for life!! jmo
Is that like saying a puppy is for life not just for christmas
puggle: yes she chose a husband...
they both chose to have kids.... but he now chooses not to be a dad as much as he was being!...its for life!! remember these are the same kids that prob will bury you when ya die!!! its for life!! jmo
they both chose to have kids.... but he now chooses not to be a dad as much as he was being!...its for life!! remember these are the same kids that prob will bury you when ya die!!! its for life!! jmo
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i asked why? when i`d done nothin wrong and that i wanted my kids more than anythin over the money...but that i wanted to be left the financial ability to do so...
his answer.... system/fam law is imperfectly balanced towards old ireland and the rights of the mum oveer those of the dad.. circa laws in 1965...
i answered... so do i just go and pray to good for the best and leave it in lap of gods or judge??
thankfully it worked out for me in long run....but not cause of any agreement..but because i perciveered and kept mindin kids and taking them and now its their choice to stay with dad most of the time..
point being...do the right thing by YOUR kids... their not any piece of papers, or judges kids... jmo
male or female... trust me! your kids ``ll thank you when their older...
OMG A man who actually wants his kids..and wants to do right by them.
Now why didn't I marry you??? Oh yeah..I've never met you.
Well done Pug.