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carolined: So ive been on here before for advice, so the guy i met on this about 6 weeks ago was stil on it everyday, i wondered why as he is never on the forums, so i asked him and now he doesnt want to talk to me..
He admitted talking to other women on it and i know im being stupid, should i just forget him... please dont give out to me, i feel stupid enuf all ready. he said he'll call to my workplace tomorrow night even though in his opinion theres nothing to talk about, should i text him and tell him forget it, my head says yes but my heart no
you have notin to feel bad about,i had a similar situation not so long ago,the girl couldnt text me for days because she was sick yet she could be online everyday....u have notin to feel bad about at all.He admitted talking to other women on it and i know im being stupid, should i just forget him... please dont give out to me, i feel stupid enuf all ready. he said he'll call to my workplace tomorrow night even though in his opinion theres nothing to talk about, should i text him and tell him forget it, my head says yes but my heart no
moonvilla: you have notin to feel bad about,i had a similar situation not so long ago,the girl couldnt text me for days because she was sick yet she could be online everyday....u have notin to feel bad about at all.
So do you think i should meet him again
carolined: So do you think i should meet him again
i dont know caroline,i give that girl another chance and asked her to be honest with me,because i knew she was chattin to other blokes abd couldnt text me for a couple of days,maybe give him one more chance...but no more after that.
moonvilla: i dont know caroline,i give that girl another chance and asked her to be honest with me,because i knew she was chattin to other blokes abd couldnt text me for a couple of days,maybe give him one more chance...but no more after that.
Thanks for your advice, hope things worked out well for you
carolined: Thanks for your advice, hope things worked out well for you
oh they did,she didnt get a second chance....hope things work out for u with the guy.moonvilla: oh they did,she didnt get a second chance....hope things work out for u with the guy.
You were right, think il do the same, just feel like a fool for falling for his lines
carolined: You were right, think il do the same, just feel like a fool for falling for his lines
if u like him,give him another chance,i think everyone deserves a second chance?? moonvilla: if u like him,give him another chance,i think everyone deserves a second chance??
Yea i think everyone deserves a second chance too, but i dont know if i could take anymore lies. time to say goodbye me thinks
carolined: Yea i think everyone deserves a second chance too, but i dont know if i could take anymore lies. time to say goodbye me thinks
only u can decide that .....
thanks againHi Caroline. There are a lot of people on the chatrooms who don't use the forums and I presume the opposite is true. And I suppose there must be folks who just search the profiles and email people they like the look of.
Anyhoos, he may just be friendly with a few of the girls on here. I do find his defensive attitude a bit suspiscious and I wonder why he wants to meet you if he has nothing to discuss. I feel bad vibes off this one I must say as if he wants to leave the situation feeling he is the injured party and that he has done all the right things so watch when you meet that he doesn't turn this around and leave you with the guilt.
As has been said though, you have done nothing wrong. You set out to meet yourself a nice man and from there on in, life took over. If you are seeing him, you are entitled to know what's going on.
But if your suspiscions are aroused this early on, well, I don't see you walking off into the sunset together. If you have decided to finish it, then make sure it's your doing and not his. You are entitled to say your piece and try not to get angry. Keep your cool no matter how much his bruised ego tries to justify his behaviour. JMO
Anyhoos, he may just be friendly with a few of the girls on here. I do find his defensive attitude a bit suspiscious and I wonder why he wants to meet you if he has nothing to discuss. I feel bad vibes off this one I must say as if he wants to leave the situation feeling he is the injured party and that he has done all the right things so watch when you meet that he doesn't turn this around and leave you with the guilt.
As has been said though, you have done nothing wrong. You set out to meet yourself a nice man and from there on in, life took over. If you are seeing him, you are entitled to know what's going on.
But if your suspiscions are aroused this early on, well, I don't see you walking off into the sunset together. If you have decided to finish it, then make sure it's your doing and not his. You are entitled to say your piece and try not to get angry. Keep your cool no matter how much his bruised ego tries to justify his behaviour. JMO
Godsgift: Hi Caroline. There are a lot of people on the chatrooms who don't use the forums and I presume the opposite is true. And I suppose there must be folks who just search the profiles and email people they like the look of.
Anyhoos, he may just be friendly with a few of the girls on here. I do find his defensive attitude a bit suspiscious and I wonder why he wants to meet you if he has nothing to discuss. I feel bad vibes off this one I must say as if he wants to leave the situation feeling he is the injured party and that he has done all the right things so watch when you meet that he doesn't turn this around and leave you with the guilt.
As has been said though, you have done nothing wrong. You set out to meet yourself a nice man and from there on in, life took over. If you are seeing him, you are entitled to know what's going on.
But if your suspiscions are aroused this early on, well, I don't see you walking off into the sunset together. If you have decided to finish it, then make sure it's your doing and not his. You are entitled to say your piece and try not to get angry. Keep your cool no matter how much his bruised ego tries to justify his behaviour. JMO
Anyhoos, he may just be friendly with a few of the girls on here. I do find his defensive attitude a bit suspiscious and I wonder why he wants to meet you if he has nothing to discuss. I feel bad vibes off this one I must say as if he wants to leave the situation feeling he is the injured party and that he has done all the right things so watch when you meet that he doesn't turn this around and leave you with the guilt.
As has been said though, you have done nothing wrong. You set out to meet yourself a nice man and from there on in, life took over. If you are seeing him, you are entitled to know what's going on.
But if your suspiscions are aroused this early on, well, I don't see you walking off into the sunset together. If you have decided to finish it, then make sure it's your doing and not his. You are entitled to say your piece and try not to get angry. Keep your cool no matter how much his bruised ego tries to justify his behaviour. JMO
Thank you so much for that, do you know you are right, why is he being so defensive, and putting all the blame on me, and i have felt so guilty and bad for the last few days its unreal, i stil dont know what to do about the meeting but you have made things much clearer in my head. Why has he agreed to meet me if he has nothing to say
carolined: So ive been on here before for advice, so the guy i met on this about 6 weeks ago was stil on it everyday, i wondered why as he is never on the forums, so i asked him and now he doesnt want to talk to me..
He admitted talking to other women on it and i know im being stupid, should i just forget him... please dont give out to me, i feel stupid enuf all ready. he said he'll call to my workplace tomorrow night even though in his opinion theres nothing to talk about, should i text him and tell him forget it, my head says yes but my heart no
He admitted talking to other women on it and i know im being stupid, should i just forget him... please dont give out to me, i feel stupid enuf all ready. he said he'll call to my workplace tomorrow night even though in his opinion theres nothing to talk about, should i text him and tell him forget it, my head says yes but my heart no
Hi Caroline
I might have a different perspective on this.
You say you first met 6 weeks ago. This is not a long time ago and he may of been friendly with some other people on here and not want to loose touch with them as it may or may not work out with you. I think 6 weeks is about the time when I would be deciding if i was going to be in a relationship or not. Before this you are only getting to know each other. I know each relationship is different and each person in a relationship is different but i still feel 6 weeks is quite soon to make a realistic commitment. I suspect this guy may also feel this way. He may be a really good and decent guy but has not yet decided how he feels.
Now as to you question what should you do.
I think you should meet him if he has something to say and listen to how he feels. You have done nothing wrong but i dont feel he has either. He should be honest with you about how he feels and you should decide based on the information you have if this is acceptable to you or not. If you feel he is being dishonest then you have to make a choice based on this but either way if you do not hear him out you will never know.
All the best.
well its your own choice i was in a situation just like you!!started talking to guy off here became the best of friends after taking and texting for 3 months just found out the other day that he met someone out and his seeing her,i told him well its best we dont stay in touch then and i feel bad,my heart was telling me the same to stay friends with him or not text him again cos i hate lies myself!!i decided not to give him another chance,do what your happy with!!best of luck
carolined: Thank you so much for that, do you know you are right, why is he being so defensive, and putting all the blame on me, and i have felt so guilty and bad for the last few days its unreal, i stil dont know what to do about the meeting but you have made things much clearer in my head. Why has he agreed to meet me if he has nothing to say
hi Caroline,
you said he doesnt want to talk to you,you said he feel theres nothing to talk about and also that he AGREED to meet you..
Therefore i presume you have suggested the meeting?
Perhaps he feels under pressure to do so?
Personally i think if he couldnt give you a legit reason for being on here ie.forums,chatroom..and admitted he has been chatting to other women i would let him off.
You deserve better than that,if he was interested in having a relationship with you he wouldnt be chatting to other women and shouldnt be.He's keeping his options open.If it was my decision i would cancel the meeting tomorrow night and move on with my life but its YOUR decision Caroline not mine.
Best of luck Caroline in whatever you decide.
missspecial: hi Caroline,
you said he doesnt want to talk to you,you said he feel theres nothing to talk about and also that he AGREED to meet you..
Therefore i presume you have suggested the meeting?
Perhaps he feels under pressure to do so?
Personally i think if he couldnt give you a legit reason for being on here ie.forums,chatroom..and admitted he has been chatting to other women i would let him off.
You deserve better than that,if he was interested in having a relationship with you he wouldnt be chatting to other women and shouldnt be.He's keeping his options open.If it was my decision i would cancel the meeting tomorrow night and move on with my life but its YOUR decision Caroline not mine.
Best of luck Caroline in whatever you decide.
you said he doesnt want to talk to you,you said he feel theres nothing to talk about and also that he AGREED to meet you..
Therefore i presume you have suggested the meeting?
Perhaps he feels under pressure to do so?
Personally i think if he couldnt give you a legit reason for being on here ie.forums,chatroom..and admitted he has been chatting to other women i would let him off.
You deserve better than that,if he was interested in having a relationship with you he wouldnt be chatting to other women and shouldnt be.He's keeping his options open.If it was my decision i would cancel the meeting tomorrow night and move on with my life but its YOUR decision Caroline not mine.
Best of luck Caroline in whatever you decide.
Thank you so much, its so difficult to know what to do, but if im true to myself i know i should leave it. A hard decision to make but such is life
carolined: Thank you so much, its so difficult to know what to do, but if im true to myself i know i should leave it. A hard decision to make but such is life
Absolutely..go with you own gut feeling and you wont go to far wrong!!
bellenew: can i ask you a question what would you do???
All sounds dodgy to me...why does he want to meet her if he made it clear there is nothing there, maybe a player maybe not...but Id be out of there...JMO
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So ive been on here before for advice, so the guy i met on this about 6 weeks ago was stil on it everyday, i wondered why as he is never on the forums, so i asked him and now he doesnt want to talk to me..
He admitted talking to other women on it and i know im being stupid, should i just forget him... please dont give out to me, i feel stupid enuf all ready. he said he'll call to my workplace tomorrow night even though in his opinion theres nothing to talk about, should i text him and tell him forget it, my head says yes but my heart no