Single Dad Dating... (24)
BchBumDadOrlando, Florida USA5 Threads 81 PostsHow do you feel about a single Dad with custody as someone to date? I have had VERY bad experiences with dating because most women that I meet want someone to be the "dad" for their children but can not accept the fact that I come as a package with kids of my own... I welcome your opinion
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im not a single dad,my kids live with my ex back in england,whats the difference between a single father and a single mother?why do people have a hang up with this issue?
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Hallo Mark ,good day I hope...Well to the questions ,I have no problem with guys whom have children infact I prefer it and even better if they are closer to my kids ages...Just dont know if I want another baby if I got remarried...And that pressure is somewhat gone if they have kids of their own when you meet...
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That is exactly what I am asking... what is the difference? The first question out of peoples mouths when they find out I have custody is "What did she do so bad?" like it is wrong for me to have my children. Fortunately when i got divorced I lived in a very progressive county in North Carolina where the legal system actually looked at what is best for the children. I didn't have to "fight" for it I was just myself and the courts saw that the children would be better with me... Why can people not accept that?
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I dont think that they don't accept that,just that most women would probably fight to their death to have their kids..And usually the courts always let the mother have it unless she is or has done something bad...
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Well saying that do you not think that a Dad should fight to the death for his children too? My children are my world, I would not give them up for anything. UNLESS; I actually thought they would have a better life with their mother. What is best for the children is what my point is. I hang out with other single parents and in our group the number of single Dads with custody is evenly split with the number of Moms with custody.
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Man or women it doesn't matter,who ever has their best intrest at heart,I stay here for now because my ex and I have an agreement we both take equal care of kids,but if I choose to move he knows the kids will come with me..He would not fight me on that unless I moved out of country,because he knows the hours he works that the kids would be mostly with a sitter and not with family,so their best intrest is with me,that was never an argument..I sacrifice alot for my kids and never regreted it for a moment,but he cant and still afford to live..But I rest easy knowing if anything ever happened to me ,they already have the best person for them and that is their father...
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I wish my ex would have continued co-parenting. We did it for about 3 months till she brought them to me on Christmas eve at 9 pm because her "boyfriend" wanted her for christmas morning. That was the scariest and the best Christmas ever. The community I lived in came together and really helped us get Santa to make a stop at our house Christmas morning. It was wonderful..
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Well,sounds like a great community,and I am sure you are a great father..;-)
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Yes it was/is a great community, gut I think any community can be great if you put youself out for others and wrap yourself with the friendship of good people.
Now back to the point of this thread... Is there anyone out there who can handle dating a single dad?
Now back to the point of this thread... Is there anyone out there who can handle dating a single dad?
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I don't want just a fling everyonce in a while either. I want a true friendship. That is and should be the base for a relationship. I also will be taking my time with a relationship (if there is another one) I sorta made my profile sound like a rool in the hay was what I wanted, but it has worked to weed out women just wanting that. If I wanted just "a good time" I can walk right down to one of the bars here and take someone out for a one nighter when ever I felt like it, BUT that is not what I want. I want someone I can sit a talk to, hold hands with while walking, snuggle up with, jump out of an airplane with, and will bait thier own hook (but will let me do it if I want)...
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SINGLE DAD DATING: Please feel free to read my ad... I am in the same boat and I respect your response and concern, it is very valid and also very true!
Many women and men have a hard time accepting other children as their own or treating someone else's children just as good as they treat their own…. It is really sad. It is a package deal. If you want to love the person, the little people come with..
I know that sometimes single people with out children, have a hard time with this also… WAKE UP PEOPLE!!! CHILDREN are not a HANDICAP, a BUMMER, nor a BURDEN to date someone with children!!!!! It is a HONOR to be a part of their life’s! Helping them and watching them grow. Doing their homework, going shopping with them, sleepovers, activities, sports games, dances, you name it… It is such a reward in itself. I would never for one minute take it back, nor switch places with any non-parent. I love being a parent!! Although, it’s tough being a single parent, at times… life is never easy…
Anyways .. Single dad.. The women that do not wanna share that honor with you are not worth your or your children’s time!!! If they cannot love your kids equally as their own, than they cannot be with you. At least that’s they way I feel.
THERES MY TWO CENTS.. haha sorry everyone
PS…. There are women out there that will love your kids just as much as her own, given that the relationship works and you have a strong connection. Just have to find a good-hearted woman ;o) Good luck to you Single dad!!
Many women and men have a hard time accepting other children as their own or treating someone else's children just as good as they treat their own…. It is really sad. It is a package deal. If you want to love the person, the little people come with..
I know that sometimes single people with out children, have a hard time with this also… WAKE UP PEOPLE!!! CHILDREN are not a HANDICAP, a BUMMER, nor a BURDEN to date someone with children!!!!! It is a HONOR to be a part of their life’s! Helping them and watching them grow. Doing their homework, going shopping with them, sleepovers, activities, sports games, dances, you name it… It is such a reward in itself. I would never for one minute take it back, nor switch places with any non-parent. I love being a parent!! Although, it’s tough being a single parent, at times… life is never easy…
Anyways .. Single dad.. The women that do not wanna share that honor with you are not worth your or your children’s time!!! If they cannot love your kids equally as their own, than they cannot be with you. At least that’s they way I feel.
THERES MY TWO CENTS.. haha sorry everyone
PS…. There are women out there that will love your kids just as much as her own, given that the relationship works and you have a strong connection. Just have to find a good-hearted woman ;o) Good luck to you Single dad!!
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I look up to and have a deep respect for men who have their children. Good for you BchBumDad *pats back*.
love and light
love and light
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loool this is an old threat..I'm such a noob :p
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Just because its old doesnt mean we cant reply to them :D
Why shouldnt people go out with single parents??? Just because you have children, it doesnt mean you have to go without dating.
Two sets of kids could be very interesting, as long as they all felt they were being treated fairly by both parents.
Why shouldnt people go out with single parents??? Just because you have children, it doesnt mean you have to go without dating.
Two sets of kids could be very interesting, as long as they all felt they were being treated fairly by both parents.
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I like the part of who thought children was best with. With first marriage, I was not responsible enough and too selfish to consider myself a good father or husband. Then with an infatuation that I thought was true love with the fact that I would have a second chance to prove to myself that I could be a good father and good husband; I eventually agreed that the mother was right because the adoptive parents love the child as much as me. Still it was a struggle because of the recovery at work in my life. I just wasn't able to do any better than she did in the decision. Then the time mother said if ever we got a divorce again that I was going to get custody because she didn't want it. Of course, when it came down to it; it was the same decision as always. I married again but this time no children came of the marriage. But after just a little while she wanted to be back with her children even they was already all past eighteen. I chose her over my children because I didn't have custody. The two children that carry my last name have accepted me as the way that I was and they still love me. In all three cases, I accepted the fact that I am not a good father and that the mothers and adoptive family were better parents than I was. Bch Bum, you are a good father and a real jewell.
Roy
Roy
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