Friend? ( Archived) (42)

Theres a reason for every thing,its no different then some of these people who met you for a date,and look nothing like there picture(use 20 years young pictures)You are expecting to meet the man in the photo but when you meet you have no idea who this short,fat bald headed man is I usually tell them they should post a picture of who they are today and leave it at that...but to this day these people still have the same photo up your friendship isn't in real life,its on the internet where a person can be who ever they wish to be,yes its not the right thing to do but it happens,i would talk to my friend about it ,just you and her..get it out in the open then go from there .......

Good advise D/F

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Ms DemonFairy..!!!!
I missed you..............
Are you still determined to testify against me in court..
You do realize I was only trying to be social..
I promise that if you give me another chance..
I will ask before I introduce my "special friend"..

---SoldierByte---

Thanks for your responses.
I finally got the balls to speak up in the staff area and asked where said information has come from?
And what sort of problem it causes....
I have been responded to by some other angry staff who feel they have been "betrayed" by this person and posted me a link to a picture that i presume was suppose to be here?
I then pointed out that instead of all this unnecessary judgement of another character that someone should approach this friend.

The forum we run was established for us all...ive never really been closer to one than the other. But as pointed out it is unprofessional and in my opinion sly to be discussing this behind someones back instead of speaking out.

I have emailed this friend with my concerns and wait to hear back.

I know that this is "the internet" and some people view online relationships as casual...but i have known and met some wonderful people, and just because it is "over the net" it does not change my morals on what is right and wrong.
Thanka again x

spcheck! Not here...her

Havn't seen you since you told me you had 12 inches and showed me only 2

First..
The other ten are in the photo with my ex-wives new hubby..
Second..!!
you promised not to tell..!!!
now everyone knows....
---SoldierByte---

I think that you are on here asking this question, as confirmation that your thoughts are right, on this issue, in that, you know you should tell her what is happening behind her back.

Her friendship to you is not what is in question here. She has obviously proven that over the years, on the phone etc., in being there for you as a friend. What is in question is your loyalty to her.

You are really questioning your values.

People protect their identity on here for various reasons. Mine is, that I have the only surname of it's kind in the country and am easily traced by stalkers, (and have been). Many of my so-called close friends don't even know my real name as a result on here.

There doesn't have to be a sinister reason for this person not disclosing what they look like. The need to stay anonymous is paramount to some people and they are entitled to that. That is something that I think should occur to everyone we interact with on the internet.

There is no onus to disclose anything. Some people just choose to, and some people prefer to interact only with people they think they know. That is their choice, and to be expected too.

In my case, and in how I define friendship,is, to be loyal to those who are there for me. To cherish that bond, and never to let anyone talk about them behind their back. I'd personally tell the others off, and tell my friends what is going on.

That is what friendship means to me personally. Your standards may vary and be none the less valid for your own reasons.

You just have to decide what those standards are, before your friend gets set upon by people dramatising the incident behind her back, with who knows what result when they see/meet with, her.

Thanks Ginger xxx