The consumership of 'relationships'. (7)
Your right......ppl dont try hard enough. But both ppl have to try. Whether its just an apology from one to another.....both ppl have to try.
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911gypsy: Your right......ppl dont try hard enough. But both ppl have to try. Whether its just an apology from one to another.....both ppl have to try.
But people don't, because they always think the 'next thing' will meet their unrealistic ideal. And, nail on head, re apologies. You know, it is only a word, however, said with sincerity, it carries so much weight. For all my faults, and there are many, I always recognise when something is my fault, and don't feel so full of false pride, for that IS what it is, that I cannot bring myself to apologise.
A lot of people won't though, and that is the beginning of the end, imo..
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MrInteresting: I think that there is a culture of consumer behaviour, among the people of Western culture, when it comes to relationships.
To be honest, the usual theme is that we go through a spell of being single (lasting whatever), we eventually meet someone, there is a peak period, at the start, and then, when problems arise, people bale out, and often too soon, imo, when if they had spoken some more, compromised, and acted as adults, maybe they could have figured it out, rather than quitting (assuming that there are still some feelings there).
It is fine to quit, if it is done, dead in the water, but I think people too often break up, for some reason that could have been sorted, and it is often their own pride, or their own inability to accept their part, that causes them to prefer to walk. It is like they chase, chase, chase, this magical relationship, only to find that the next one, it brings problems as well, different one's perhaps, but problems, anyway.
And, after a time, the same thing happens.
Rather than address the problems, people would rather keep on chasing this idealised person, that most likely doesn't exist.
Jmho
To be honest, the usual theme is that we go through a spell of being single (lasting whatever), we eventually meet someone, there is a peak period, at the start, and then, when problems arise, people bale out, and often too soon, imo, when if they had spoken some more, compromised, and acted as adults, maybe they could have figured it out, rather than quitting (assuming that there are still some feelings there).
It is fine to quit, if it is done, dead in the water, but I think people too often break up, for some reason that could have been sorted, and it is often their own pride, or their own inability to accept their part, that causes them to prefer to walk. It is like they chase, chase, chase, this magical relationship, only to find that the next one, it brings problems as well, different one's perhaps, but problems, anyway.
And, after a time, the same thing happens.
Rather than address the problems, people would rather keep on chasing this idealised person, that most likely doesn't exist.
Jmho
We are led to believe by the powers that be that we are entitled to instant happiness, so everyone (sheep) want it. If you live in a world where everyone appears to be getting it all for nothing, then why wait, or court a frown. There wil be another one by in a minute, or maybe another half a dozen.
There is no value placed on loyalty any more, so very few want it.
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GingerBe: We are led to believe by the powers that be that we are entitled to instant happiness, so everyone (sheep) want it. If you live in a world where everyone appears to be getting it all for nothing, then why wait, or court a frown. There wil be another one by in a minute, or maybe another half a dozen.
There is no value placed on loyalty any more, so very few want it.
There is no value placed on loyalty any more, so very few want it.
I think you hit the nail right on the head here
The attitude of 'instant happiness with no sacrifice or hard work' is way too prevalent in all aspects of our lives nowadays. Maybe it's because I'm still old fashioned in many ways (or maybe because I'm a fitness freak, lol) that I prefer 'no pain no gain' as a motto.
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wulfen: I think you hit the nail right on the head here
The attitude of 'instant happiness with no sacrifice or hard work' is way too prevalent in all aspects of our lives nowadays. Maybe it's because I'm still old fashioned in many ways (or maybe because I'm a fitness freak, lol) that I prefer 'no pain no gain' as a motto.
The attitude of 'instant happiness with no sacrifice or hard work' is way too prevalent in all aspects of our lives nowadays. Maybe it's because I'm still old fashioned in many ways (or maybe because I'm a fitness freak, lol) that I prefer 'no pain no gain' as a motto.
I think it has a lot to do with which society you belong to and how old you are, as to what your attitude towards instant happiness is. I'm old fashioned too and actually love the challenge of having to work for/at things.
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GingerBe: There is no value placed on loyalty any more, so very few want it.
Possibly true, and if true, so sad.
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To be honest, the usual theme is that we go through a spell of being single (lasting whatever), we eventually meet someone, there is a peak period, at the start, and then, when problems arise, people bale out, and often too soon, imo, when if they had spoken some more, compromised, and acted as adults, maybe they could have figured it out, rather than quitting (assuming that there are still some feelings there).
It is fine to quit, if it is done, dead in the water, but I think people too often break up, for some reason that could have been sorted, and it is often their own pride, or their own inability to accept their part, that causes them to prefer to walk. It is like they chase, chase, chase, this magical relationship, only to find that the next one, it brings problems as well, different one's perhaps, but problems, anyway.
And, after a time, the same thing happens.
Rather than address the problems, people would rather keep on chasing this idealised person, that most likely doesn't exist.
Jmho