It's Complicated...(constructive opinions greatly appreciated) ( Archived) (46)

tightboxers: Never hang around or invest much emotionally until your sure that you are a priority and not just an option.

beautifulyou: Excellent advice tb

keepinitsimple: I recently get to know this guy, he's 10 years older than I, working as one of the top executives, busy, works from approx 9am-9pm (I think). Well, here goes the story:

The 1st time we met, it was okay...just had coffee no dinner, decided not to rush into things. And we agreed to meet again the next time.

The following 2 planned dates were cancelled flat out coz he was busy and unwell, had sudden company function, whatnots. They were true, coz he showed me some photos on 2nd date.

In between the days, he'd text me, but never called, saying that he missed me, but I'm puzzled outta my wits: why is it so hard to just call? Does he actually mean what he's been saying?

2nd date was a dinner...pretty alright (that was when I witnessed The Germans slain England). We kissed (I know...so stupid of me to give it too quickly, but I don't regret it that much). Period, the evening ended.

And the following week had been tumultous. He hardly called me (despite his habit of telling me how much he missed me). It ALWAYS took him ages (literally) to reply my sms. EVERY SINGLE time I called, he never picked it up and never bothered to call back or ask what was the matter. And so far, 4 out of 6 planned dates ended up being cancelled and 3 out of 4 were coz he couldn't make it. What frustrates me even more was on the last 'supposed' date, he didn't show the courtesy of calling or texting me to cancel. It was I who asked him first about where he was 30 minutes before the stipulated time. And the reply that came was surprisingly expected "Sorry baby, I can not come". PERIOD. I had to ask what was the matter then he explained that he had to be with his friend who was still unconscious after breaking his back an hour before. I mean, he could've called or sms, no? Or is it just me who's too particular?

I'm not exactly known for patience (I think), but with reasonable excuse and sincerity, you'll find me pretty level-headed.

Alas today, I decided not to take anymore crap from this guy after he told me he can't meet me again this weekend coz he has company gathering in Bali (imagine how envious i get! haha...) I believe I deserve someone who could at least spare 5 minutes in his busy day just to hear my voice, to just chat for a little while. Shouldn't it take a person only seconds to reply an sms from a special person? Shouldn't you feel the burning urge to call this special person after seeing '3 missed calls' on ur phone? That, apparently, was not the case with this man...

So, if anyone of my fellow cs-ers believe in the same thing as I do, kindly show ur encouragement for me in this state of confusion, that'll be truly appreciated. However, if u have different views, kindly speak up too. After all, more brains is better than only one, right?

Thank you so much for reading til thus far, Cheers sunshine! =)

Lee

In response to: I recently get to know this guy, he's 10 years older than I, working as one of the top executives, busy, works from approx 9am-9pm (I think). Well, here goes the story:

The 1st time we met, it was okay...just had coffee no dinner, decided not to rush into things. And we agreed to meet again the next time.

The following 2 planned dates were cancelled flat out coz he was busy and unwell, had sudden company function, whatnots. They were true, coz he showed me some photos on 2nd date.

In between the days, he'd text me, but never called, saying that he missed me, but I'm puzzled outta my wits: why is it so hard to just call? Does he actually mean what he's been saying?

2nd date was a dinner...pretty alright (that was when I witnessed The Germans slain England). We kissed (I know...so stupid of me to give it too quickly, but I don't regret it that much). Period, the evening ended.

And the following week had been tumultous. He hardly called me (despite his habit of telling me how much he missed me). It ALWAYS took him ages (literally) to reply my sms. EVERY SINGLE time I called, he never picked it up and never bothered to call back or ask what was the matter. And so far, 4 out of 6 planned dates ended up being cancelled and 3 out of 4 were coz he couldn't make it. What frustrates me even more was on the last 'supposed' date, he didn't show the courtesy of calling or texting me to cancel. It was I who asked him first about where he was 30 minutes before the stipulated time. And the reply that came was surprisingly expected "Sorry baby, I can not come". PERIOD. I had to ask what was the matter then he explained that he had to be with his friend who was still unconscious after breaking his back an hour before. I mean, he could've called or sms, no? Or is it just me who's too particular?

I'm not exactly known for patience (I think), but with reasonable excuse and sincerity, you'll find me pretty level-headed.

Alas today, I decided not to take anymore crap from this guy after he told me he can't meet me again this weekend coz he has company gathering in Bali (imagine how envious i get! haha...) I believe I deserve someone who could at least spare 5 minutes in his busy day just to hear my voice, to just chat for a little while. Shouldn't it take a person only seconds to reply an sms from a special person? Shouldn't you feel the burning urge to call this special person after seeing '3 missed calls' on ur phone? That, apparently, was not the case with this man...

So, if anyone of my fellow cs-ers believe in the same thing as I do, kindly show ur encouragement for me in this state of confusion, that'll be truly appreciated. However, if u have different views, kindly speak up too. After all, more brains is better than only one, right?

Thank you so much for reading til thus far, Cheers sunshine! =)

Lee